“I guess what I am not getting is what is the purpose of marriage these days? It was never historically about love - it was a business and/or political contract. Women when wed became an extended property of the male (i.e. chattle) and her function was to propagate the population and keep the man happy as she had no other means to support herself (usually). Things have just recently changed on that front - women don't need to rely on men for their welfare, they may not want children - and when they want to share their life (or at least part of it) with someone, why bring the church and gov't into the picture? When affection/love became the prime bond in marriage, that is when the divorce rate sky rocketed because feelings change, people change, perspectives and desires change. That's okay - life is a journey that isn't static and is yours to live.”
Prinn on Nov 28, 2013 at 23:00:27
“Many of us truly believe that marriage, as a sacrament, has a metaphysical status. "What God has joined, let no man tear asunder." You need not believe that; I'm not interested in converting you. But you asked, so I answered.”
“Love is a choice, not a feeling? Clearly you've never been in love. Schade.”
LTC123 on Nov 27, 2013 at 19:51:28
“Love in a committed relationship IS a choice. Because you get up every morning, days when the relationship is great and days when it sucks, and you CHOOSE to stick it out. And if you both continue to CHOOSE to love and commit and work, you eventually realize you have a much deeper and more profound love that can ONLY come from time. The problem is people want out or a new person as soon as the "feelings" wear off.”
“Sorry - I was alluding to the reporter's claim that women's supposed preference for testosterone or cortisol smell may be due to their signalling that the men they are attracted to have a strong immune system. The opposite is actually true. High levels of cortisol and/or testosterone actually dampen the immune system.”
crazyd on Apr 24, 2013 at 16:56:29
“What research do you have the high levels of testosterone (of course we need to define how high) dampen the immune system? Not on immunity, but I read a Harvard study actually showed higher levels of testosterone improve longevity by reducing heart disease, arterial health, lowering blood pressure, and reducing diabetes.”
“There is a danger that the premise of this research is entirely ill-conceived given the stated premise that cortisol and testosterone signal a STRONG as opposed to the more accurate WEAK (or suppressed) immune system is one of its postulations. It is well established that cortisol and testosterone (and many steroids - except estrogen) are potent immune suppressors (men actually have less immunity than women - the latter have a predominance of autoimmune disorders as a consequence). I think it is more likely that the sensitivity of women's sensory system (including sense of smell) - could change in accordance to reproductive hormones - and they are more likely to be averse to types of microbiota rather than attracted to the scent of sex steroids (given women have these in their system as well - so it is unlikely to play a large role in mate selection given the difficulty of distinguishing one's own smell from another in that regard).”
ibeyour1 on Apr 22, 2013 at 12:13:56
“It would have been interesting if they had included a woman's T shirt full of estrogen in the testing”
“Rather frustrating that a research article published in Public Health is not available to the public to read. Who funded the study? I was curious to see the numbers as the statistics provided aren't clear as "odds percentage". How many smokers were there in total? If they had 10% of the adult women who were smokers come from a non-divorced background, then the percentage from those coming from a divorced background would be about 13.9% (hypothetically speaking). This looks less impressive than 39% odds percentage - whick leads to this kind of inaccurate protrayal of what the data really found. What is the health consequence of kids that come from an unhappy home where the parents barely tolerate each other at the best of times - but stay together for the sake of the kids and their potential smoking habit?”
Brandy TurnerHosmer on Mar 15, 2013 at 13:40:48
“I was thinking the same thing. My parents stayed together and I smoked when I was a teen. They were always fighting and I definitely would have been happier if they had gotten one, so prolly wouldn't have started. It's more of a friend and self esteem thing. Most parents are divorced nowadays and many who aren't aren't very happy. Not to say there aren't happily married couples, I'm happy for you if you are, but realistically look at the rate of divorce and the smoking rate of teens. They are both very high and teen smoking was very high when divorce wasn't.”
“Not being Catholic or a fan of religious missionaries, I think disparaging or criticizing someone for doing something rather than nothing (much like those wagging their fingers now) is not only pointless - but utterly irrelevant. If someone brought even a tinge of hope, a touch of perceived humanity and an awareness to the overwhelming problem of poverty, it is doing a lot more than the powers that be are doing at this time. I don't think spending resources in the form of lengthy essays and time pointing out that the woman didn't do all she could have under the circumstances or that she wasn't as saintly as people project her to be are particularly well spent. In her own words, "If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway...." That is the prophetic take home message.”
Poetx64 on Mar 7, 2013 at 09:40:23
“Fanned. I couldn't have said it better. Great post.”
“Although it not really of my business, if I were American I would be pretty pissed at the powers-that-be that give this guy such a loud microphone as he is making it seem that the "traditional" heart of America is regressive, delusional and incapable of critical thought or perspective taking skills. There are some out there in the real world who are buying his story, unfortunately.”
“Personally, I think if every able man and woman refused to go to war for the agenda of the powers that be, the world would be a more liveable place. Those who protect our democracy are the peacekeepers not combatants.”
“God help me, that second picture has me in tears. Which, I acknowledge, is just wrong as the poor thing looks absolutely petrified. The way he is holding her head is somewhat threatening - if not controlling. Perhaps he is paying her for this public display to get back at his ex? Who knows, but there is certainly something amiss....”
“Before I read this article and read the comments, I felt a little out of the bell curve - and now I'm convinced I'm made of a completely different fabric. I have never had the vision of being half of a twosome with a brood of little ones running around - the idea is not revolting, just completely foreign and not compatible with my interests. I absolutely love being independent, going to foreign countries as a visiting scientist, travelling to remote areas of the world and being engaged in ensuring that the powers-that-be don't completely distroy the planet's fragile homeostasis. I am early-mid thirties and doubt I will ever be of a mind to change my life, nor have I been exposed to married people who think they are more joyful in their duo than I am. Overtime, I have been convinced that more often than not, the act of marriage ends up killing the romance - as it seems an abnormal number of married men (seemingly in good relationships) think that I may be wanting some company and they would do me the favour. I don't think it is being in a relationship for a long time that leads to this wandering, as I have a number of friends that have been together for longer than many people are married - and never once has the guy made the move or asked me out for "lunch or something" alone.”
mmhctown on Nov 4, 2012 at 09:20:03
“You sound really cool and together. I am early 50s, divorced, no kids. I have no desire to get married again. And I, too, have been hit on multiple times by married men.
I love my independence and would not give up some of that unless the guy was worth it....and I have yet to see one who is.”
“And the rest of the world stares through the window next door and asks, "What the bleep are you thinking, America?" As the fact that this is even a serious competition would be an unlikely reality in any other progressive nation on the planet.”
vallesula on Oct 19, 2012 at 17:48:01
“Very well said !!!
To which I might add, millions of Americans are about to embark on a trip, with Romney as the driver, but they haven't got a single clue of how much the trip will cost them.
Romney alleges to have a 5 point plan, one he describes in generalities, - while failing to provide specifiecs,and if questioned, he'll answer, " you will get the details AFTER I'm president.
It really wouldn't come as any surprise to know, just about now, we must be the laughing stock of the developed world,nd they're probably wondering, how can millions of Americans be so dumb ?.
BEFORE YOU VOTE FOR ROMNEY, YOU HAD BETTER READ THE SMALL PRINT FIRST.”
Oct 12, 2012 at 13:55:04
“I had another interpretation than Bill O regarding the major hero of the film - sounds like it was the understated Canadian ambassador.”
Wonder Land on Oct 12, 2012 at 15:26:58
“Thank-you avicenna, I was thinking the very same thing. As casual as casual can be just sweep the actions and the risks taken by the Canadian ambassador (etal) under the carpet.
Another example of all that American exceptionalism....”
“Where to start? Girls value and internalize what is fed to them through socialization. If they are continuously told wearing a tiara and being ready to be scrutinized by their physicality is the primary thing that should be of import to them as a female, then they may believe that is the primary source of their value. That is not the objective lens that will get them to appreciate science - or vice versa. It is actually insulting, I think, to young girls to think that their level of interest is so limited as only a Barbie scientist could make it cool. I was - and I think I wasn't alone - absolutely fascinated about how things worked, what was life, and why things are the way they are. Being able to figure this out is what provided the right type of confidence to pursue science as a way of life - and career trajectory. Those are the traits that are needed in female scientists. I should say that there were no shortage of women in any of my graduate science courses (actually, being in the life sciences - it was actually dominated by women). However, there are fewer role models in the upper echelons because the reality is that it is very difficult for women to have a family and follow the tenure track in academia. Many of my peers voluntarily took themselves out of the competition as soon as they had their first child as their priorities and”
Sep 10, 2012 at 16:22:53
“For some, the revulsion of the idea stems partly from the perception and/or inclusion of child abuse in the definition of incest - which is not what Cassavetes is referring to. His definition seems to refer to consensual sexual relations between two closely related adults. The incest taboo varies between cultures - and probably evolved for both biological/evolutionary and societal reasons. In some ways he is right in that it parallels the viewpoint of homosexuality as being unproductive biologically (i.e. will not result in the fitness of the species) and is looked upon as perverse to many dogmatic individuals who have a hard time breaking with social (or religious) norms.”
Jen Celli on Sep 10, 2012 at 16:59:36
“That's pretty much how I took it as well. Although I don't think it's common or prevalent in any society other than royal blue bloods in days of old. Ancient Egypt was particularly inclined to marry brothers and sisters to preserve the blood lines.”
“A little too liberal with the use of growth hormones perhaps (though I'm not sure if insulin-like growth hormone would have the same effect on an earthworm as it does on vertebrate farm animals - though it is likely to be a peptide with evolutionarily conserved roots)? The use of hormones is an open secret in China - where there was a male dairy farmer who developed double D breasts - much to his wife's envious dismay.”
“Of course the speeches were as different as the men who gave them, and they spoke to their bases. There was no new revelation in either speech - just a validation of one's current perception of the man and his intentions, which was made largely internally. People who need to believe in Obama because he is the only real sane hope for the country saw it as confirmation of their beliefs. Those who don't share these values and cling to the vacuousness and anti-sense of the GOP perspective that seems to ignore the invaluable treasure of a diverse and pluralistic nation limitless in its potential and talent if nurtured - didn't hear anything of sense. It fell on deaf ears, as they say.”
rsstone74 on Sep 8, 2012 at 14:41:12
“I respect your view, Avicenna, but I don't entirely agree. I was leaning toward Romney until he chose Ryan as his running mate. It made all kinds of bells and whistles go off for me (just like McCain's choice of Palin). I started looking more closely at the Romney/Ryan ticket, then listened to both presidential candidates speak. From the perspective of this Independent/swing voter, there was no contest. I agree with Obama's 7-pt. bump in the polls (post-speech) and Romney's 1-pt. bump. Obama said so much more, and it was readily apparent, than Romney.”
“Stench by any other name smells just as foul. All people are equal; the very idea of some homonids being more equal than others is a sickness of delusions of grandeur that need not be advocated by mass hysteria born of money owned by collective madness. Unfortunately, that is what seems to rule America. Lithium salts - lots! Hypocrisy abounds unreigned.”
Trollstein on Sep 6, 2012 at 17:03:39
“All people being equal is not the issue. Sometimes people need to be separated for their own good and the good of each other. Naturally, minority groups will prefer this separation more then the surrounding majority.
When such separation occurs (and it was not uncommon in the 20th Century), the issue is still not superiority. It is how to divide the assets and resources. If the majority group (or in this case its leaders) hates the separation concept badly enough, they will NEVER be satisfied with any possible split of assets and will use their grievance to keep the conflict fueled.”