nobody repossesses your car because you start seeing someone.
you dont have any more or less laundry while dating then you do while not.
nobody takes your stuff from you when you start seeing someone.
there's no mandate that you have to share a bed if youre seeing someone.
And nobody takes your independence unless you give it to them.
and youre so delusional you cant even list your so called benefits of being single (which again, have nothing to actually do with being single) without mentioning the company of others...
"borrow a man when needed", "our own friends"
euphemisms for seeking company because like i said, no normal person wants to be alone or likes being single.
not mention the friends thing doesnt even make sense. people dont very often date complete and total strangers. chances are if you're in a relationship with someone, you had at least one mutual friend before it started. Even if you didnt, the fact that youre in a relationship doesnt mean all of your friends are automatically mutual now. More than likely you'll day hi to the majority of your partners friends one time in passing and never see them again. and your relationship with your friends doesnt change or go away just because you're seeing somebody.”
“in the case of of someone like you perhaps, those things may also not happen after the 30th date, the 239th, or even ever...but even if that ends up being the case, youre still seeing somebody, youre not single. You just dont share space with that person.
At 71 and after 5 kids, you've had literally a lifetime of company so maybe you are tired of dealing with people. Not uncommon for someone that old. But the average person that hasnt already lived the majority of life has no real desire to be alone despite how many blog lists and magazine articles try to convince them they do.”
OldTart on May 18, 2014 at 01:10:05
“Wise observations to which it should be added that some of us are introverts and some are extroverts. I am very much a loner and have been since my earliest memories. To live as I live would be hell for an extrovert, regardless of age (though it is true that I have had a very, very full life, more than you can possibly imagine - go and do likewise, it makes old age a real joy).”
“I dont need to ask anybody, i actually ran track, i already know.
the only time any 10K event is considered track and field is during the olympics. Outside of that, what youre talking about is calle Cross Country., and given the types of terrain the run across, wearing these is still a terrible idea.
There is no track and field event that lasts longer than 2 miles aside from distance relay medleys, but those are run in 4 legs by 4 different people, and even those running the 3200 still wear short spikes. The only reason they wouldnt is if the track is concrete...which isnt common.”
hopper250 on May 17, 2014 at 14:57:54
“Yes, every 5k I ran in cross country (and every 10k in college) was run with sprint flats. You don't need spikes in them you can fill them with plugs depending on the terrain. It was also the best shoe possible for those runs.
I never had issues with my feet and they hurt the least after the races. I see no difference in running longer distances with flats or the Five Fingers. Especially if that is what you feel the most comfortable wearing.
I have issues wearing training shoes (they are one of the few kinds that fit my feet) I have the most comfort wearing thin soled dress shoes, or true flats.
“these are 9 correlational reasons why not being lazy is awesome, doesnt have anything to with being single. just people trying to delude themselves into thinking there's a good reason why they are alone...”
wrjfr on May 18, 2014 at 20:54:30
“Being unmarried doesn't mean being alone. Quite the contrary. I know quite a few 'single' people (not in their 20s either) who are less "alone" than any married couple I know. And I know several married couples of which one or more of the pair is desperately lonely. For some, marriage is what cuts them off from family and friends and social life in general. For others, that's not the case. It's just a big mix, married or not married. A marriage is not the determining factor.”
Bill Bushing on May 18, 2014 at 20:22:44
“I've been a bachelor my entire life and am actually disappointed when so many of my married friends suggest they would like to e living my life. Although it may not be related to remaining single, I look 10-15 years younger than many of my peers. However, I would still like a good long-term relationship in my life... one that is monogamous but gives both of us reasonable independence as well.”
maybesomeday on May 18, 2014 at 14:19:51
“No delusions here Brandon. Especially for women. We love, love, love having our space, our independence, our own stuff, our own friends, our own laundry, our own beds, our own cars, our own homes.
The trade-off for most single gals is peace of mind, quiet, stress reduction, healthier lives. We of course can always just borrow a man when needed, then send him on his merry way! Freedom Rocks!!!”
OldTart on May 17, 2014 at 16:12:50
“No delusion here. After four marriages and who knows how many live-ins I realize I loathe living with another and love being single and alone, love having the whole bed to myself, love having the bathroom to myself, love waking up and not having to talk or be pleasant, could go on and on. Some of simply were not meant for marriage or live-in relationships, which does not mean that we do not love or that we are not loved. We just don't want to live with anyone. I'm 71 and I think I know myself very well after all this time. I suspect there are many more women like me.”
“no average person would ever go into a bar and order all this random hyper fancy junk, that defeats the purpose of being in a bar. if im trying to relax, im not gonna ask my bartender a bunch of dumb questions about what year my rum is.
and Iced lemon water? really?!?! I'm gonna go out to a bar, and not only pay for a glass of water, but expect not to be ridiculed for the rest of my living days?”
“hey guys: can we stop pretending like the NFL would implode when Michael Sma enters it? Thats a stupid story the media made up. Riley Cooper is a documented good ol' boy and not only is he still alive on a team of mostly black players, that same team just gave him a shiny new high paying contract. The league will be no different with or without Michael Sam in it. If anything, the question should be if Michael Sam is ready for the NFL. The culture is hyper masculine and far from politically correct towards anybody, which means if he comes in and acts sensitive about every little thing, he'll have a hard time.”
“I can tell youve never been to a track meet. I can assure you NO school anywhere started using this BS at track events because there's no way anybody in these stupid shoes beat anybody who was wearing spikes in anything, and trying to do field events (Javelin throw, shot put, discus, triple jump, etc) is a twisted ankle or torn/crushed achilles waiting to happen”
hopper250 on May 12, 2014 at 15:39:33
“Distance running is already done in flats. Not must actuall difference. Its the long distances, over 10K, that you see the field even out. Sprinting is always different than running. You can't compare the two, just ask your high school or collage coach.”
“he isnt...either. that's such a tired excuse, so sick of hearing about who gets "forced" to do this or that. Having the ability/option to hide anything is a luxury in the first place. Living that way is a choice he made because 1) he was actually capable of doing so, but more importantly, 2) he thought it would make life more comfortable for him. He just finally figured out how wrong he was. No different from anybody else with unpopular lifestyles, opinions, or characteristics.
Gay, black, autistic, liliputian, paraplegic or otherwise there are always going to be people in the world who harbor negative judgment and mal-intent toward you for stupid and irrational reasons. if you're not smart enough to figure out early on that you cant hide from all of them and that trying to is only going to drive you to depression, that's no one's fault but your own.”
jonathan 12 on Apr 10, 2014 at 20:08:57
“And he did figure it out at a younger age than many in the past.
It may be a luxury in your mind but it is a curse to other people. Trying to please your family, your friends or whoever else. Believing them when you they tell you it is a choice and thinking something is wrong with you. Thinking you have to hide to protect yourself.
Yes we can hide if we choose. But when a celebrity comes out, and while not a national celebrity he is a local celebrity to a degree,now everyone knows. He can never hide again. And if the political winds change he may of just ended his professional basketball chances.
It may be a choice, but it is a choice that has potential monumental consequences. Especially if this country regresses like Russia and other countries currently are regressing at the hands of the Evangelicals.”