“If you play with a snake DO Not complain when it bites you!
The ingredients for success- Attractive woman with no integrity, a lot of greed, the believe that you are the most important person and have 0 responsibility to acknowledge anyone with the slightest amount of decency.
What has she done to give back to society? Opened a food pantry? No. Start a college fund for those in need? No.
What does she do with the millions she has received? Put in her bank, and smiled at the public while saying to herself " You idiots."”
May 11, 2012 at 09:05:40
“If Every Mother in this country were like Jada Smith this would be a much better society.
Her daughter Willow said how she feels " helping people is really good." at the age of 11 to voice a feeling of compassion shows Great Parenting.
This was 3 generations having a loving and Honest conversation. Willow is a very Lucky girl not because she comes from a famous family, Because she has a Loving Mother.”
shada524 on May 11, 2012 at 18:23:38
“I agree, I would love to be able to sit down and have a conversation with my mother and grandmother. Sadly, my grandmother is deceased so I won't have that chance but I really appreciated what JPS put together here. It inspires me to have a "red table" discussion with my sisters and mother.”
camp4bell on May 11, 2012 at 09:43:51
“Well said. She seems well adjusted AND she thinks of others.”
yakmaster60 on May 11, 2012 at 09:33:11
“I agree, Mrs. Smith must be a hell of a good mom, and her dad is not far away if not ahead. These kids will grow up with love and money, it does not get any better then that. Have a great life kids.”
“To Azita K Goodrich- You have obviously Never breast feed a child.
I breast feed my children until they were 7 weeks old. Men reading this- pull your nipples until they it is longer Painful when pulled- that is right it is Painful. Now on to the second stage- When you are in public spill milk on both sides of your shirt- yes this is also part of this wonderful experience. - Even when a Mother places the pad in her bra this accident may still happen.
When a child has Teeth that may be a clue Nature is giving that is saying it is now time to Stop breast feeding!
I believe the mothers that choose to continue to breast feed do not intend to harm their child, they are just not in tune with reality.
A child knows the difference between a sexual act and breast feeding.
“Don't Judge? Hello are there any people left in this country with a ounce of common sense?
This is 3 children under the age of 3!
If the mother is homeless than she could have- (1.) Went to a homeless shelter. (2.) Overwhelmed mother- then any hospital, fire station, police department leave the children some place safe.
Now to respond to your negative comments- You are so insensitive, You do not know what you would do, etc...
I was a Homeless Mother with a 5 month old And No Family, Not One Person on this earth to call for help. So yes I know the feeling of absolute no where to turn. What I did was go to the Salvation Army, then in a longer stay homeless shelter.”
puppynip on May 26, 2012 at 03:44:28
“since the economic down turn, shelters have been turning people away. I took a lady in with her 2 small children for 6 mos.
she was being beaten by her husband, she got a restraining order and tried to get help from shelters and was turned away, she called every one in the phone book.
she is having trouble locating the father now, to have him served papers so she can get him to help support their children.”
drdeweyjnk on May 26, 2012 at 02:31:09
“Why would you bring a life into this world without being able to provide for them? Take responsibility people, the world does not owe you a living, I don't care what the libs say.”
“Zincq10- If you read what my comment is -" than I think stepping up and acting with some concern would have been the right way to go here." That is Exactly what I am saying, as well if you read my other 5 comments on this site, I am Clearly saying The Author should have called CPS!
I also have 3 very detailed comments on the Authors bog that she had the responsibilty to call cps.
When I responded to the comment by wsdave I was making the point that though I do not know for 100 per cent, I believe the Author should have " stepped up and acted with concern- meaning she should have Acted not just walked away.
The only way evil flourishes is when people walk away.
So Yes no Adult should see all the different issues, that the Author describes with this 3 year old and just walk away. Again this is what I am saying for the 7 time on this site.”
“DorisTheFunkasaurus- If the story were about a homeless Adult than yes I agree with you.
Just be happy the Author has promoted a "we all should be grateful for what we have" view point, And " what kind of person they are not what they wear" That is a Healthy, True look on life.
The Author used a 3 year old child to make her point. There was not One but Several issues the author used to describe the situation of the 3 year old, that a Caring adult would not simply walk away from.”
“justmy2sense- I read the Authors blog and she said her daughter has played with this 3 year old " several more times for over a hour." But she still has not meet the mother, Very Odd - typically a mother will Always without exception walk over and say hi. I have seen many times different class and races all types of mothers, walk over and start up a conversation with the mothers their children are playing with. So this is Not a Class issue.”
“wsdave- I agree being poor is not a crime. And the author said " I felt sorry for the girl."
there is Multiple issues that the Author is describing that are part of the whole picture that suggest the - keep in mind the childs age is 3 - that this 3 year old was neglected. Do I know this for 100 per cent as a fact no- but if there is more than one and in the Author description she list more than one- than I think stepping up and acting with some concern would have been the right way to go here.”
“Redsfan06, Really? You classify someone making a point to act with Courage and help a child as " sitting on a pedi stool becuase their perfect." So, your making the assumption that a person who is poor would not have the believe that to help a child is the right way to act? Typical rich girl thought.”
“Sickofrepukes: What states does cps get bonuses for taking a child from the home? What state is actually giving the social worker a pay bonus for removing a child from their home? I will answer 0. NONE. Not One.
Your comment people should mind their own business- What if your child as a teenager or when they go to college , were ever in a situation and needed someone to help, but instead the person thought as you do!
The author made a story of what she described as a 3 year old child " who had scratches that she hoped were not from hard living."
That is great if you let your children play in dirty cloths and I agree what cloths a child is wearing does not by itself mean the child is neglected. The Author mentioned more than the cloths as her "feeling sorry for the child."
There are 2 types of people in the world those like you who feel justified in walking away from helping someone by saying "mind your own business." And people who have the Courage to help.”
“Sweetbelle: Being a mother of 5 and not having the time to be a helicopter mom I have spent alot of time as you put it " dusty old ball field" and I have never seen a 3 year old child as the author described " cloths that were dirty the kind of dirty that is worn a few days, she was saying "dirty bastard" "scratches on her face that I hope were not from hard living." the child is Neglected. And needed someone to care enough to help. If you feel better walking away from a 3 year old because you do not have the courage to act like a caring person, than at least have the basic intelligence to acknowledge this. There are 2 types of people ones like you who will always walk away.
And the people who uplift All of humanity with the Courage to help.”
Sweetbelle on May 9, 2012 at 08:56:57
“Well again, FAKE "compasson is strength" since you wonder what type of person I am - I have "3" children adopted (we adopted them) from CPS and one is special needs - all are the light of our lives, all get dirty at the ball field. So if you want to know who is doing their part and who isn't - it's not me. You are a really loud finger pointer as are most of you "compassionate" types but when you really need to lay your life down for another - doesn't seem to happen - so go ahead and uplift all you want for all the rest of us who actually DO”
“The author also said " the scratches on her face I hope were not from hard living." This combined with no shoes. You want to excuse the fact it is okay to see a child who needs help and nothing. I hope karma meets up with you soon. You Sweetbelle were born in the wrong time, people like you who walk away not helping with your justification of I am not a busybody would have flourished in Germany.”
Sweetbelle on May 9, 2012 at 08:38:26
“You might want to take inventory of your own FAKE "compassion is strength". There is no such thing as Karma only "treat as you wish to be treated". You better make sure all your ducks are in a row else someone may come snooping around in your life and find fault. Kids get scratches on their face and they LIKE not wearing shoes and getting dirtry -you know why - because THEY ARE KIDS!!”
“Yes I also feel blessed when I walk by a woman sleeping on the sidewalk.
However the story is also about a 3 year old child. Ms.Uhl says " her cloths were dirty and the kind of dirty that cloths get when worn often and not washed." Ms. Uhl also wrote " the scratches on her face I hope were not from hard living." That is Great if you read the article and feel blessed. This is only part of the story. I agree if you want to write a article about feeling blessed and how great it is to not judge someone based on what cloths they are wearing than I 100 per cent Agree. If the article is making this point based on the appearance of a 3 year old than is different.”
“I agree being poor is not a crime. When a mother makes a choice to not wash her 3 year old clothing that is Neglect. Mind your own business- the golden words to excuse ones lack of courage to take action to help someone.
The Author says " the kind of dirty cloths get when worn often and not washed" that is Neglect. It is good the Author daughter does not judge based on class. But that point does not overshadow the reality that the Author also wrote a story of a very young child who was Neglected. Is it a unattainable height to put clean cloths on a child?”
zeephyyr on May 10, 2012 at 10:21:26
“Besides, what's wrong with being dirty? Have you ever heard of the Hygiene Hypothesis that relates increased incidence of allergies, autoimmune diseases, immature imune system, and even certain kinds of leukemia to excessive hygiene and lack of exposure to infectious agents and symbiotic organisms during early childhood?
So you may be doing more harm than good by keeping your children so clean.
A similar reasoning can be applied to the obsession with shoes, feet need to be out of shoes to develop properly, this is something that has been well known by podiatrists for mor than a century. The prevalence of foot and lower leg pathologies are much higher among the hod populations than among the barefoot ones even in those populations with similar genetic background.”
Redsfan06 on May 9, 2012 at 10:37:42
“Sounds like your from a rich upper to middle class whos sitting on a pedi stool because youre perfect.”
Sickofrepukes on May 9, 2012 at 06:10:32
“I have special play clothes for my kids...when I know they are going to get real nasty anyway...I make them wear them...they are gross and they get washed once a week...if you seen them you would think they have never been washed....though those clothes get washed weekly and the kids bathed nightly.......and as for her real dirty appearance...she could have been playing outside since the early morning hrs...we really do not know the parents side of the story...and as for the level of dirtiness ..that could just be the authors interpretation / exaggeration for a juicy story.....once again.....we don't know the entire story behind this...and an errant phone call could ruin a family....cps has been known to invent things...they do here in Florida all the time...it some states they get bonuses to remove the kids from homes....”
“This is NOT a story about poverty. This is NOT a story about class. I agree being poor is not neglect.
Being a mother means you have a responsibility to take care of your child, which includes keeping the child clean- don't have money to buy soap than you go to a food pantry OR go in any public restroom and wash the child cloths in the sink. My sisters and I went to school Hungry and bruised with dirty clothing, and the adults who walked away from us I am sure also used the excuse busybody- yes let the justification of doing Nothing to help a child make you feel Great you are not a busy body.”
Fran Jaime on May 10, 2012 at 02:42:21
“Thank you! I'd rather be considered a busybody than to know I walked away from such a child and did nothing!”
“Responsibility = basic humanity. Fact 1. The child is very obviously neglected. When you witness a wrong there are 2 and Only 2 choices fate has placed on you Act or do nothing.
Mrs. Gebhart Uhl made a choice to do nothing to help this child. How difficult is it to dial the police- oh I do not want to get involved- than do not give a name.”
momofrfna on May 9, 2012 at 03:45:13
“If you have read the article more carefully, Ms. Uhl wrote "Eventually the little girl joined some teenagers and children at a picnic table" ---- the girl wasn't alone, she was with some group of people. The essence of the article is that Ms. Uhl meant that the thoughts she has of the girl can give her some sort of a 'wake-up call' or a 'fire alarm' especially during those times when we want to over-indulge on some luxury, when we ignore and neglect our blessings, when we complain about some misfortune, .....
It's a very well-written article --- makes you think deeper of all the blessings that you have.”
The Watcher2 on May 9, 2012 at 01:33:56
“Being poor does not equal neglect! The teenager who told the little girl to be good or she would tell her mother shows that the child is cared for. This is old school caring. It goes back to when everybody knew their neighbors and their children. The child was watched over by the neighborhood. It is terrible that she had lost an arm. We don't know how that happened, a birth defect, some horrible accident, a drunk driver it makes no difference. The child is happy. She is functioning quite well. Sometimes it is the well meaning busybody who causes the most harm by sticking their nose where it doesn't belong.”