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Playtex 'Fresh + Sexy Wipes' Suggest You Should Be Insecure About Your Vagina

Playtex 'Fresh + Sexy Wipes' Suggest You Should Be Insecure About Your Vagina

Commented Feb 6, 2013 at 18:31:46 in Women

“I'll lick a sweaty armpit if the pheromones are tasty...don't see how it's any different than sucking on your tongue after a garlicky meal...to each their own, I suppose.”
Playtex 'Fresh + Sexy Wipes' Suggest You Should Be Insecure About Your Vagina

Playtex 'Fresh + Sexy Wipes' Suggest You Should Be Insecure About Your Vagina

Commented Feb 6, 2013 at 17:39:10 in Women

“Then it's a matter of pheromones (which are yummy for some, not for others) or symptomatic of disease in which case these products simply mask odors and can even contribute to underlying issues.”

justsomeotherdude on Feb 6, 2013 at 18:24:54

“Or it's a matter of walking around all day and catching crotch sweat in the folds, and if that's tasty to you, I have an armpit you can lick.”

EL JODON on Feb 6, 2013 at 18:09:45

“Yeah, I tend to stay away when it smells like the Fulton fish market; but generally you are correct it's yummy”
Playtex 'Fresh + Sexy Wipes' Suggest You Should Be Insecure About Your Vagina

Playtex 'Fresh + Sexy Wipes' Suggest You Should Be Insecure About Your Vagina

Commented Feb 6, 2013 at 16:06:39 in Women

“Utter nonsense...vaginas are miraculous and perfectly designed...these products cash in on puritanical beliefs about hygiene...ask most men or gay women, they love the way we smell.”

InedaName on Feb 7, 2013 at 22:53:29

“I believe it was Tyra Banks who said, "The vagina is a self-cleaning oven."”

Salineone on Feb 7, 2013 at 00:46:50

“"vaginas are miraculous and perfectly designed" es verdad”

EL JODON on Feb 6, 2013 at 17:02:34

“For the most part you are correct.... But then there are a few that do smell heinously foul”
Life After Divorce: Readers Share Their Thank-You Letters To Their Exes

Life After Divorce: Readers Share Their Thank-You Letters To Their Exes

Commented Jan 26, 2013 at 11:12:15 in Divorce

“gratitude allows room for everything to be...in fact, gratitude is especially appropriate when things are tough and bitter, there's always something good to be gleaned from circumstances, even if it's just in surrender.”
When Can You Get Pregnant? Many Women Don't Know, Study Claims

When Can You Get Pregnant? Many Women Don't Know, Study Claims

Commented Sep 9, 2012 at 21:47:12 in Women

“The average lunar cycle is 29.5 days...there are 13 lunar cycles in a year, not just the 12 that we use in a calendar. This is part of the reason that women have been disempowered in understanding their fertility, not just when they wanna get pregnant, but when they can avoid it as well. So we've gotten used to 31 days, but sometimes 30, except February has 29 days, unless its only 28...and occasionally a "blue moon". Really? No wonder we're confused. Sneaky men. Also, hormones in our bodies make us more symmetrical, our voices more appealing and our pheromones finger lickin' good when we're fertile. Ever notice that you have about 5 days a month when you're horny, positive, pleasant and have every man in the room checking you out? Chances are, you're probably ovulating too.”
Confession: How I (Still) Make My Open Relationship Work

Confession: How I (Still) Make My Open Relationship Work

Commented Aug 13, 2012 at 15:43:42 in Women

“just finished reading an earlier article by the authors in which they listed some of the benefits of monogamy...one of which was "open relationships are for an elite few". it explained how those who participate in non-monogamous unions are more highly evolved and better able to handle the flux. that's rubbish, and I'm aware that I'm bristling mostly because I don't like to be excluded from anybody's club. critters have been evolving over eons, and still their prime directive is to find a mate that increases their chances of providing hearty offspring. they may very well move on, but not for recreation. we humans have been given these big ol' brains, but we forget we're still just critters, we haven't evolved that quickly.”

runner 08 on Aug 13, 2012 at 22:23:53

“I've run into that belief -- years back -- that it was more "evolved" to be in a relationship with someone and bump uglies with others. That was and is amusing to me.

Anytime someone professes to be "more evolved", have compassion for them for their foolishness and narcissism. People who are truly more evolved don't talk about it.”
Confession: How I (Still) Make My Open Relationship Work

Confession: How I (Still) Make My Open Relationship Work

Commented Aug 13, 2012 at 14:56:16 in Women

“everything goes out the window when there are midnight feedings and somebody is out gallivanting...or when there is a business/mortgage that is jointly held. sounds like open relationships are largely choice-based...something that is a luxury when a relationship becomes obligatory.”

mahaganapati on Aug 13, 2012 at 20:03:21

“Of the roughly 5,000 species of mammals, only 3 to 5 percent are known to form lifelong pair bonds.”
Confession: How I (Still) Make My Open Relationship Work

Confession: How I (Still) Make My Open Relationship Work

Commented Aug 13, 2012 at 12:12:14 in Women

“hmmm...it just sounds like dating, except one of your regular dates also happens to be your roommate. it would seem that current relationship "norms" are based on archaic ideals that worked in the past to keep dangers at bay and provide security for any resulting children that showed up. however, if you look at animals in nature, they're still trying to find a mate that best suits their needs, for the duration of their mating cycles and the strength of a tribe/pride/pod and will fight to the death to defend that union. wanna see if your "relationships" pass mettle? pit 'em against each other and see who wins.”

fyagoddess on Aug 13, 2012 at 14:56:16

“everything goes out the window when there are midnight feedings and somebody is out gallivanting...or when there is a business/mortgage that is jointly held. sounds like open relationships are largely choice-based...something that is a luxury when a relationship becomes obligatory.”
Miley Cyrus Braless In West Hollywood, Wears Awesome Ray-Bans (PHOTOS)

Miley Cyrus Braless In West Hollywood, Wears Awesome Ray-Bans (PHOTOS)

Commented Jan 24, 2012 at 20:19:41 in Style

“So...bra-lessness is hipster? It's not. It feels good and promotes breast health by increasing lymph circulation. There are more "wardrobe malfunctions" due to poorly fitting bras and unsightly straps. Plus, she's still a young woman, she should rock it while she can. Yay boobies!”
Are Men Only As Faithful As Their Options?

Are Men Only As Faithful As Their Options?

Commented Feb 6, 2013 at 19:55:53 in Women

“I like how you think. It's been a huge disservice to folks that society keeps cramming the whole "prince charming/cinderella-you're not whole until somebody completes you forever and ever" nonsense down our throats. Nobody likes to be backed into a wall and the only constant in life is change. Also, breeding cycles usually last a couple of years and include gestation and nursing...unless there's another one in the oven. Staying together for the kids is super limited for everyone, after all it takes a village.”
Are Men Only As Faithful As Their Options?

Are Men Only As Faithful As Their Options?

Commented Jan 16, 2013 at 20:29:00 in Women

“thanks...”

rsekeres on Feb 5, 2013 at 10:53:05

“Thanks for suggesting this type of tiered marriage plan. I too thought of something similar:

A "marriage license," like any, would be time bound - say 4 years. It would include dissolution arrangements, thereby eliminating pre-nups. At the end, the couple could "re-up" for another 4 years, or the marriage would simply dissolve with the license provisions automatically kicking in.

Numerous advantages:
* Stigma gone - No "bad guy" needed to end a marriage.
* No emotional, drawn-out, and financially cataclysmic legal battles.
* Abused/bullied partners can simply wait it out - no courtroom challenges, confrontations, etc. In fact, the next re-up date would likely be closer than many divorce timelines anyway.
* Dramatic reduction in courthouse resources associated with divorce proceedings.
* As with any license, there's an awareness of staying qualified - no "letting oneself go" because it's a lifelong deal with no way out.
* Most importantly, it acknowledges being human. Nowhere else do we expect one decision that will never change. We do change, life evolves, and partners grow.

Lastly, it even works for those who value the sanctity of a lifetime commitment. In fact, it's better – publicly re-committing every 4 years says more about a couple than doing it only once. There could be "re-up" ceremonies, too - like re-commitment ceremonies today. I can see a whole new industry popping up – re-up cards, caterers, planners, etc.

Seems like a total win. I can't think of any downsides - except for perhaps divorce lawyers.”
Are Men Only As Faithful As Their Options?

Are Men Only As Faithful As Their Options?

Commented Jan 16, 2013 at 20:08:15 in Women

“I realize my comments do not inherently represent the LGBT community, but if companionship and stability are the goal in relationships among these folks, then I am speaking to that as well.”
Are Men Only As Faithful As Their Options?

Are Men Only As Faithful As Their Options?

Commented Jan 16, 2013 at 16:42:51 in Women

“Humans are just mammals with an oversized brain and opposable thumbs. Critters who are not genetically progammed to "mate for life" are looking for a suitable mate to perpetuate the species, they don't really dress it up. We humans are not that far removed from our critter friends, but we have created societal norms and ethics to support the raising of offspring, and our young take a long time to grow up. So, yes, most of us are just denying basic instincts, which is why I support long-term arrangements (2, 5, 10, 20 year plans...you can always re-up) instead of "til death do us part". Also, attractive partners may be more desirable initially, but I think most folks interested in long-term situations are ultimately looking for partners who are good, kind, supportive and on the same path as their beloved. And while "cheating" may have something to do with lack of these criteria at home, I do believe it is largely opportunistic.”

hp blogger Joshua Pompey on Jan 16, 2013 at 19:03:21

“Very well put.”
Tough Love: The Day I Decided to Send My Daughter to Rehab

Tough Love: The Day I Decided to Send My Daughter to Rehab

Commented Jan 15, 2013 at 15:59:22 in Parents

“It's a good thing public high schools let anyone in. For many youth, public education is the only constant in their lives. I knew more drug addicts and pregnant teens in the private schools in my area than the public schools. The main difference is they could afford rehab or pregnancy options. Also, take a moment and look in your medicine cabinet, purse or glovebox. You might be surprised what's lurking in there in your child's reach.”

EFMGrad on Jan 15, 2013 at 16:42:36

“I think many parents believe a private school is a 'safer' environment, but that's just not the case. I've personally taught many students who moved from a private school into public schools and some of them are a real mess. Many private schools pay much lower salaries than public schools and some aren't even required to meet the same standards, even in hiring teachers. While I know there are some great teachers at private schools (and some pretty sorry ones in public schools), you have to realize that pay does play a role for most teachers. Also, many private schools will accept students who have been expelled from the public system because they need the money, so some of those schools have become the very places parents wanted to keep their kids out of in the first place.”
Girls With Guns: Not Glam, Not Sexy and Not in My Name

Girls With Guns: Not Glam, Not Sexy and Not in My Name

Commented Dec 17, 2012 at 15:01:33 in Women

“As long as boys have guns, then girls will. The latest tragedy is terrible. Hate and murder isn't a gun thing or a boy/girl thing. It's a human thing. Guns don't kill, people do.”

runner 08 on Dec 18, 2012 at 00:29:22

“And people are enable by the power, velocity, trajectory and range of a gun where they would not otherwise be so enabled.”
Do Open Marriages Work?

Do Open Marriages Work?

Commented Jan 25, 2012 at 11:39:45 in Divorce

“I was speaking to the article at hand...validation is a key component of psychological development, as children we are more likely to learn consistently with feedback, positive or not. Nobody is adrift on an ice floe by themselves, unless they are a polar bear. I get my validation from dear friends and family, from the work that I do, from the quiet stillness in my own heart...not just from sexual partners or love interests. But c'mon, if it didn't feel good to be loved and cherished and desired, we wouldn't even bother.”

zenju2 on Jan 25, 2012 at 12:06:12

“Good points. I know that's it's also good to know that you're actually needed and wanted, and that you're welcome to share in your partner's life. So yeah, I see your point. Thanks.”
Do Open Marriages Work?

Do Open Marriages Work?

Commented Jan 25, 2012 at 00:35:47 in Divorce

“Like I said, "For a time". I've heard of a phenomenon called "the birth cycle"...it's a period of about 2 and a half years which includes gestation, neo-natality and weaning. Once the tot is about 18 months old and the mama can participate in estrus again, all bets are off. We humans think we are above biological imperative, but if your babymama is still choosing you to bear more humans with, then she must approve of your genes, intuitively or not. And I suppose if there's a mortgage/business/awesome sex in the balance then the cycle may be prolonged indefinitely. Good on you. And yes, I do have 2 rad children by the same babydaddy as well as a separate sex/life partner...for now.”
Do Open Marriages Work?

Do Open Marriages Work?

Commented Jan 24, 2012 at 20:24:21 in Divorce

“thanks...takes one to know one!”
Do Open Marriages Work?

Do Open Marriages Work?

Commented Jan 24, 2012 at 16:56:19 in Divorce

“The thing about monogamy is that it's usually introduced as exclusivity while dating. If dating was considered more "open", then most of the sticky issues might be more easily navigated before committing to matrimony. I can understand how people feel the need for validation from multiple sources, and when exclusivity is introduced, even close friendships with the opposite sex can feel threatening. Perhaps monogamy is best practiced when couples choose to have children together, becoming a "mated pair". That's how it works in the wild. For a time.”

BookQueen on Jan 25, 2012 at 13:03:53

“Dating is a good time to experiment with these things, but I think many people would find that they don't like having their partner be non-monogamous. The important thing is to be able to learn from that and not insist that you "need" to be monogamous like the guy in the article above.

Making a change like monogamy when you have kids would make you crazy. Too many other big changes are going on and too much else is being lost in terms of freedom. You would just end up disliking the change. Better to try it earlier.

As for the wild, people without birth control would have kids pretty soon after they started having regular sex. So there wouldn't be a huge distinction between a mated pair with kids and one without. Which is probably why we have a natural tendency to fall in love with the people we have sex with and to be jealous of their relationships with others.”

zenju2 on Jan 25, 2012 at 03:01:33

“"I can understand how people feel the need for validation from multiple sources."
Indeed. Does all validation necessitate or involve sexual relations? Consider the logical implications of your assertion and apply them to the workplace or schools or religious organisations. And validation...do you require the approval of others to feel 'validated'? That's a key ingredient of codependency at best.”

wsdave on Jan 24, 2012 at 22:49:16

“My wife and I were open before the children, and still are after. Working great so far.”

entropychic on Jan 24, 2012 at 21:57:16

“The kind of love that blossoms during dating demands exclusivity - you are enthralled, enchanted, you want to be together all the time and communicate constantly.

Marriage for procreation requires a solid partnership for the physical and emotional health of the children.

The you find yourself 20 years down the road looking at someone who does sexually excite you anymore - time to move on and live your life!

Together and happy forever? A rarity indeed.”

Strong Hold on Jan 24, 2012 at 17:53:57

“: ) youre a smart fyagoddess!”