goddess1871's Comments (81)

“I don't have kids yet, but I know that I WILL have the courage to parent. One only has to teach public school for all of 15 minutes to realize that there are a lot of parents who don't have the courage to be a parent. Being your child's best friend may seem easier at the time, but yields disastrous consequences.”

“Oops, sorry - incorrect use of a comma. If we are smart we observe correct use of grammar.”

“If we were smarter we would have realized that, "diareagh" is spelled INCORRECTLY.”

“I'd like to point out that, with just a few modifications to take into account the issue, this also works extremely well if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship. My husband is very manipulative and can be very childish. For a few years the marriage was too good to leave, but too bad to stay. I had read a book that outlines very similar steps, and VERY slowly things have been getting better.”

“As a practicing musician, there's nothing worse in this world than those who "fancy" themselves musicians. Those people are better known as the "artsy-fartsy".”

“If we are smart, we use our spell checker.”

“I hear you, sister. Everyone in my family (BOTH sides) is getting a lovely cookie plate and if they don't like it that's too darn bad. Thankfully I live in a very small town with no commission-only salespeople (that I know of) so shopping is still fairly safe around here.”

“Congrats on the self-discovery! I am looking forward to my summer vacation next summer when I WILL have finished and defended my dissertation. I occasionally find myself wondering what my life will be like, and I am looking forward to it.”

“I am on Weight Watchers and have begun losing the weight that I gained from stress eating during my DOCTORAL PROGRAM. So if I happen to have a heart attack in the middle of my weight loss program and writing my dissertation, does that mean I have been irresponsible? Don't get me wrong - I believe you're asking for trouble if you are eating bad fast food every day and not trying to quit smoking if you are, and perhaps no matter what you say, it's going to sound like self-righteousness to some extent. But to just look at me on the street, you wouldn't have any clue perhaps that I'm trying to change my life, yet you already assume that I'm just lazy.”

“I had a relationship with a married man when I was in college. It was very brief and certainly only for sex. I chalk it up to being young and stupid. I was scared to death the whole time - I knew what I was doing was wrong but darn it, I liked this guy. When "Waiting to Exhale" came out I certainly sympathized with Savannah (played by Whitney Houston), who has a thing with a married man. As much as the other woman may feel she is being empowered, the fact of the matter is that she is the exploited one (depending upon individual circumstances, of course). While I never had ANY romantic feelings for the guy, I knew that I would NEVER actually mean anything to this person, that I would NEVER have a future with him, and ultimately, if anything ever came down to my word against his, he would sell me down the river in a heartbeat. Our parting was amicable, but I often wonder about his wife.”

“I can believe it. My brother-in-law has Asperger's (sic) Disease, and I'm pretty sure my husband has an extremely mild form of it. If my husband were diagnosed, I think I could deal with his treatment of me from time to time a little better. He doesn't understand the concept of personal space and some social cues, a trait which is typical of people with Asperger's - I wouldn't say this makes my life a living hell, but it certainly makes it much less that what I envisioned married life to be.”

“Great ideas. I am wondering how my life will be different this time next year WHEN I have my dissertation finished.”

“I completely agree with you, but I'd like to play devil's advocate for a moment...I teach at the college level, where believe me, students need no excuse to cut class. I certainly agree that if you are a germy mess you shouldn't come to class and "share the joy" with those around you, but waking up with a headache is also not a reason to act like you're at death's door and can't come to class. (These students also often manage to stage a "miraculous recovery" at the end of the day when it's time for social clubs, sports, etc.)”

“I too agree that Obama is a true spiritual warrior. He does the one thing that is, ironically, probably driving a lot of us nuts - but he's using his quiet strength and trying to reach out rather than just slap back (which is my first inclination when dealing with the OTHER political party).

I am a teacher and a musician by profession. I don't think you can truly be a good teacher without being a spiritual warrior to some degree. While I teach on the college level I still have to deal with many of the issue my K-12 colleagues do (and as I did when I taught K-12). Students have so many personal issues to deal with now that it seems like more parents tried to shield their children from in earlier times. I certainly rely on my sense of empathy with my students when they are in trouble, and try to get them to focus and see the value in trying to fully live. As a result, I have, in recent years, not once dreaded going to work. And in this day and age, that is a blessing!”

“I know. Thinking requires effort.”

“That's just it! As sorry as I feel for those people in the clip, I'll bet you a dime to donuts they'll turn around and vote for a rethug again. That's what irritates me to no end.”

“I have absolutely no faith in our congress anymore. I weep for our country.”

“I've often wondered how those viral e-mails about Obama got started and how to start one of my own. I just don't get it - how the other side can just make up whatever they want ("Barack Obama is actually an alien from Venus who was implanted into his human host 46 years ago. That whole 'he had a mother' thing is just a cover. We know the truth."). It boggles the imagination and wow, it would feel so good to see if the other side can get as good as it gives.”

“I'd give you one if I had one to offer.”

“It's certainly a noble cause and we can all do things to reduce waste. However, all the activity that individual people do only accounts for something like 10-20% of our environmental impact. Until manufacturing and industry gets its house in order, we could all live like this guy, on virtually nothing, and it still wouldn't make much difference.”

“Amen to that! I'm still at a period in my life where career is in flux. Not sure if I'm going to stay here for the long haul or go someplace else. Thus, it's hard to think of where I am now as my "forever home". This also leads to self-doubt, since I think about what's coming up next. I shall certainly try to keep these keys in mind. Thanks for a great post.”

“Better orgasms. I'm perfectly serious.

While I'm not "old" (I'm 38), I am old enough to realize that "wham bam thank you ma'am" is no longer enough. Some of my most wonderful moments are in the arms of my husband of 13 years because sex is no longer an issue of prowess or impressing someone - it's about communication and love. I often hear the term "hook up" and just cringe. I used to be one of those people in college. I'm glad I'm past that now.”

“Wow! That sounds really cool. It's always good to hear about some of the good and healing things that happen in a prison instead of only the bad ones.”

“True dat. I have always been progressive, but going overseas for ONE WEEK back in the summer of '04 sealed the deal for me. You only have to leave the safety and security of your own home to see how little you truly are in the world, and how much we need to THINK rather than continually scream at the top of our lungs.”

“I have been truly blessed - I truly love my profession and my job, so that doesn't cause me stress other than day-to-day things that I expect. What stresses me out is what's on the other 7-or-so tabs of HuffPo - politics is breaking my heart. I had such high hopes in January. Now I wonder if this country is even going to make it. That's what burns me out. What can be done about that? Anything?”