“Maggie's entire argument is, "don't call me a bigot because people are mean to bigots." Oh where is that world's tiniest violin when I need it!”
Parade Keegan on May 11, 2012 at 19:14:33
“I don't think it's bigotry. I think that the people against gay marriage are so lost into the myths and fantasies of their religions they can no longer think for themselves and rely on their "leaders" to think for them.”
“It is an unfair double standard, but most of the ridicule is directed at men whose those full body dolls. There is a fear that the dolls reflect how the men view women in general. It isn't fair to assume men aren't capable of knowing the difference between a toy and a real person, but, to be fair, for most of human history, civilization had done everything in it's power to turn real women into lifeless sex dolls, so the anxiety level is kinda high.”
“I'm an 80s child, so I don't have first hand experience. According to Wikipedia, Ritalin has been used to treat hyperactive and impulsive children since the 1960s, but in the 90s the criteria for diagnosis was refined, which led to an increase in children being treated. Also, it seems at least some of the most prominent "don't drug kids" groups got money from... The Church of Scientology. Ok, I won't pin the controversy on them, but some people do.”
“Sometimes there is no right environment. I grew up on a cattle ranch. I wasn't allowed video games and the only TV we had was CBC (Canadian Public TV). I had pony! and I still wasn't happy or functional.”
“Actually, ADHD has been considered a disorder in some form or another since the 1920s, they just didn't bother diagnosing it because there was nothing that could be done about it.”
timskee on May 10, 2012 at 11:22:50
“I guess in the last 20 or 30 years they have developed a medication that helps. hayley, this is a bit rude and ungentlemanly like, but what is your age? I am 49 but knocking on the door of 50. I ask only to come to some kind of understanding about this Are you like me and had never heard of this until the mid-90s? Or, have you known for many, many years?”
“But that's just it. There was more than one step between your son and the drugs. Teachers and parents are not the ones writing prescriptions, doctors do, and most doctors are very aware of what is real and what isn't. That's what doctors are for. Did the teacher say, "put him on the drugs!" or did s/he just suggest that you see a specialist?”
TeeSC on May 10, 2012 at 10:43:05
“No, she was pretty adamant... it was just short of insisting. Thank God I DID have an informed Doctor. But the problem is that many doctor's are the same way... toss out a prescription because the teacher recommended it. Too many parents themselves are uninformed and take the words of a teacher over their own best judgement.”
“Actually, some people are starting to say girls are under diagnosed because they show different ADHD symptoms from boys, so they are not noticed. Girls with it have more motivation and social problems. I saw one study that found girls who are diagnosed have a lower than average IQ, but for boys ADHD has no effect on IQ, so it is possible that girls are only diagnosed when their grades slip. Also, the highest rate of diagnosis for women is when they are adults and they have a son who is diagnosed (it is genetic). But it definitely is a disorder, brain scans show a lag in development, and there is a systematic set of symptoms other than just being a little restless (poor motor skills, poor social control, just generally having no control over you own mind, spotty memory). Also, when it is untreated, children have a much higher risk of developing a (real) drug addiction later on.”
wphurley on May 10, 2012 at 17:06:46
Female adults are diagnosed with ADHD for the first time at a rate of 3x that of men. The reasons being a) as you suggest, girls are under diagnosed and b) when those girls become women then mothers it is the diagnosis of their children that leads to testing of the parents which leads to the high adult ADHD diagnosis rate for women.
ADHD has the same heritability as height, that being 0.8. In other words, if a couple is "tall" than there's an 80% chance that their child will be tall. Same goes for ADHD.”
postman31 on May 10, 2012 at 14:46:26
“They will say that anyone is underdiagnosed if it will help them sell another pill.”
"Let’s introduce you to an idea which I’ll call the near side and far side of sexual power. If we assume that the woman is the gatekeeper when it comes to sex, then she can grant or deny access. This is the near side of sexual power.
After a couple has had sex, the woman does not have as much near-side power. However, she can have a different kind of power: the power to be incredibly good in the sack. This is what I call far-side power."
Female virginity is only valuable once, then what are you left with? Nothing! Doesn't sound very valuable to me at all.”
“It isn't as simple as people should or shouldn't have certain tastes. Virginity is an unrealistic expectation (you can only be a virgin once, after all), and the effect is that women (predominantly women) and considered disposable and a forever haunted by their past. That's not to say that there aren't noble reasons for restricting sex (attaining nirvana?), but wanting your partner to have been pure forever leaves no room for exploration or change. I guess you can like what you want, but I don't really respect it (but then, why should you care about my respect!)”
The Corporate Champion on May 8, 2012 at 17:06:35
“Staying a virgin until marriage is not an unrealistic expectation at all; we are not talking about eternal celibacy, its not about staying "pure forever." A person's sexual morals reflect on the person's character. If women have made bad decisions in the past, then I will avoid forming a relationship with them. What counts as a bad decision? That depends on the person judging, so yes, it does simply come down to tastes.
The problem is that you are unaware of the shaming that feminists do on virginal women, on men who prefer virgins, etc., and the reason for that is quite simple: they [feminists] fall below the standards otherwise.”
“We don't loathe it, we just go from the assumption that your own opinion of yourself is what matters most, even if you are a woman. If you don't like me, that sucks, but not even a fraction as much as if I don't like me/my life/choices. Come to think of it, you not liking me doesn't really suck at all. If someone doesn't like my choices, I don't need them in my life. Feminists loathe people who think their opinion of a woman matters more than her own.”
2crudedudes on May 8, 2012 at 14:04:04
“You have a nice opinion of yourself. If only that was enough to keep other people around...”
The Corporate Champion on May 8, 2012 at 12:26:04
“I agree with half of what you said. Marriage is about preferences, and if a man desires a virgin, he'll marry one. If a woman chooses to marry a non-virgin, she can do so. But you can't forget that marriage is a two person decision, so your partner's opinion does come into play. If a man rejects a woman because she's slept around with others, you can bet that feminists will try to put him down.”
“Thank you! I may have got a little defensive because the internet has mad me used to hearing comments like yours being followed by "I'm a humanist because feminists hate men." So I had some venting to do.”
geekdrummer on May 7, 2012 at 17:02:44
“No problem here. I really do appreciate your comments. Vent on.. :-)”
“True, but more female CEO's would mean that women are not being seen as inferior just because they are women. The lack of femCEO's is not proof that women have it bad, but more of them would be proof that discrimination is fading away. Or, to put it another way, we know that it isn't impossible for a woman to be president (for example), but we don't know it is possible either.”
“"I dont think everything has to be exactly 50/50."
Fair enough, but people start condemning feminism as women approach 50%, and heaven help is if they pass it. (women are 60% of university students! poor men!) No, we won't, and shouldn't, have exactly 50% in everything, but averaging 50% would be nice.”