“1. Houses, animals, and children are not legal entities entitled to other adult rights. So that's a pointless argument.
2. Marriage and matrimony are not the same thing. They used to be, but legally they are no longer about the physiological ability to bear children without intervention. By your argument, post-menopausal women cannot marry, neither can anyone with infertility or sexual dysfunction, male or female. Matrimony is marriage for the sake of bearing children. Marriage is the legal contract between the two individuals, regardless of intent or physical capability of producing offspring. Some churches marry based on matrimonial concepts (Catholics, for example), and should not be required to perform non-matrimonial ceremonies. Okay, done! Nobody is objecting to that. But other churches who do not have a matrimonial foundation for the ceremony of marriage should not be barred from performing those marriages. Currently, they are, in most states. My church would and does perform marriages for people who cannot procreate without intervention, so your assumption that 'gay marriage' is a matter of definition of terms is in error - my church considers that marriage. So now we're down to separation of church and state. Does one church get to decide what the legal definition of a legal contract is for all churches? Does another church get to exclude my church's definition? So far, it is sure trying to.”
Canonshooter on Aug 2, 2012 at 10:50:07
“Very well said hedra! That's precisely the issue in this debate; the fact that one church wants to impose its definition of marriage on the entire country! Each church is free to marry whomever they want according to the dictates of their religion. What they're not free to do is impose that belief on others that do not subscribe to their religious beliefs. Those in favor of same sex marriage are not telling the churches that they have to perform or recognize those marriages. Yet those same churches are certainly trying to tell the state that because their religion doesn't accept or condone them, that the state should not extend the benefits of marriage to same sex couples. I'm sorry, but this is not a theocracy. Keep your religious beliefs within the confines of your church and stop trying to shove it down everybody else's throats. President Obama said it best:
"Democracy demands that the religiously motivated translate their concerns into universal rather than religion-secific values… it requires that their proposals be subject to argument and amenable to reason.
Now, I may be opposed to abortion for religious reasons, to take one example, but if I seek to pass a law banning the practice I cannot simply point to the teachings of my church or evoke God's will. I have to explain why abortion violates some principle that is accessible to people of all faiths, including those with no faith at all."”
Mamary on Aug 2, 2012 at 09:19:29
“but what about the people who have tried to marry houses, animals, the eiffel tower? who are we to deny them that right? who says they can't? where do we go for those answers?”
“I think you missed a point: not talking about something and not being able to use the real terms doesn't make it meaningless, It indicates fear or disgust. It can give huge negative emotional weight as an unstated message. That's way more distancing than just an 'I dunno what it's called' reaction. This part of the body is so scary Mommy can't even talk about it. (I was raised with the right terms, and my kids are, too. I agree it's weird hearing someone use the wrong word, like they called their entire leg a toe.)”
Sandra Muoz on Dec 29, 2011 at 14:52:54
french queen13 on Dec 23, 2011 at 20:56:34
“You're right - and not just Mummy not being able to talk about it, either: look at the men who seem to think that words like vulva or labia (or vagina, for that matter) are just 'women being crude'. It's like they equate the real words for our genitals with the hate-laden slang they apply to it.”
May 24, 2010 at 06:42:09
“I don't know about the discoloration, but the pain (including skin pain) is typical for one of my kids with fructose malabsorption. She cannot bear anything rubbing or tight against her skin when she has had any fermentation going on (GI fermentation).
No onion, garlic, most yogurts (inulin/prebiotics are killer), wheat (especially whole grain), 'gassy' veg, many fruits (especially pit fruits, apples, and pears), etc.
A lot of 'natural' foods will have fruit juice or whole grains, both of which can be problems for FM. Sometimes trying to make it better makes it worse - getting to the baseline will take help from your housemates, too. Look up the low-FODMAPs diet (medically founded, by the way), or anything by Sue Shephard (Australian dietician/researcher) - her recipes lean toward celiac first, FM second, but they're a good place to start.”
May 24, 2010 at 06:32:40
“You just listed a bunch of the typical foods that people with FM can't eat because of fructans (long chains of fructose with a terminal glucose) - soy, broccoli (stems), cabbage, wheat. People with FM often have to manage the reaction to beans as well (beano). And a lot of people with FM also have LI (lactose intolerance) - though it is essential to get checked for celiac disease first if you have both FM and LI.”
May 20, 2010 at 13:27:15
“Fermentation from Fructose Malabsorption can cause the mood and mind symptoms without any 'GI' symptoms, as well. A low FODMAPs diet can help, IF that is your primary condition. It is essential to get the underlying causes sorted first, or you just end up in a loop.”
nightswanred on May 20, 2010 at 19:46:02
“Thanks for the comment. It seems I've tried almost everything in the way of diet to try and find out what food may be the culprit(s). My GI symptoms differ from the norm----no problems with bowel functions, but there is terrible bloating, cramping, and the vagul responses that are quite nerve-racking. Foul moods, feeling run-down, moderate to severe pain in the neck and joints, and feeling "spaced-out" are what gets me the most. I've narrowed the no-no foods to be dairy (milk in particular) soy, yeast (breads), and anything that can cause gas like beans, broccoli, and cabbage. I take multi-vitamins, Beano, Acidophilus---all of which seems to help I suppose---but it doesn't hurt if not. There's no real cut and dry approach to my IBS I've found----only guidelines of what does and does not bother me, but just when I think something is figured out I'll get the aforementioned and start from square one. Thanks again.”