“Right on. I knew there were enough children on the planet without me having to reproduce. I also knew that many children are born to mothers who unconsciously had them, don't truly nurture them, and leaving them twisting in the wind. There are plenty of identities in this world that need a mother's heart and brain. While each woman may have a mother's heart or brain, that doesn't mean she has to use those parts of herself 24/7. There are so many other options in which a woman can utilize all her skills and abilities to contribute to the planet and fulfill her own internal soul requirements.”
“There are women who are not like you two are describing. These are the women who are my friends. Educated, liberal, and expanded in their expression of desire and need. Don't know where you seek the women who are so frigid with you, but perhaps it is how you present yourself and your attitude that makes them dry up and shut up.”
Frank Gulla on Aug 9, 2013 at 09:45:31
“The women I have been with were never "dried up " ( maybe afterwards), but they never give any input as to what feels good or what they like, I have to do all they work and just go with my experience and intuition. I have to ask afterwards for feedback and the result is usually positive, but the fact that I have to DRAW it out of them instead of it giving freely makes me think these women are just selfish. You get what you give, but it is usually not returned.”
“I lost a brother doing a ropes course called going beyond your comfort zone. I think there is quite a good reason to respect one's comfort zone.”
Jason1324 on Jul 26, 2012 at 00:26:38
“Hi Lisa, I say this sincerely from the heart.
If your brother was with you, would he want you to make your life small and safe and secure, not growing, not pushing yourself, not expanding your comfort zone? Or would he want you to play full out, and be a passionate, unstoppable, beautiful loving woman who is giving it everything she has got in honor of her brother?
Just a thought.”
palindrom on Jul 25, 2012 at 16:59:04
“Oh, heavens, I'm so sorry to hear that!
I completely agree about comfort zones. They're often there for very good reasons.”
I honestly don't understand many of these comments and
they disgust me as they exhibit an obvious fundamental hostility toward
women that I do not understand.
Sexuality is a complicated thing of course, in a way, but outright and plainly obvious true hostility toward women really gets me.
We should be each others companions, friends and lovers, with everything that entails. That's life.
However, that doesn't exactly relate to the subject matter of this article really.
These women make their living the way they do. Fine. I certainly have no moral problem with that.
That being said, countless men here going on about how the escort is
supposed to please them, not the other way 'round, completely missing
the point and intention of the article, the fine print, etc, etc, and exhibiting an obvious
hostility toward women in the process really just disgusts me.
Well, I imagine there is a reason they are offended/worked up about it, and there is a reason why they have to pay for it as well. I feel badly for the women that have to deal with such men. No doubt they are something less than a ticker tape parade - on
It's an old adage that you can't do anything well if you don't like what you're doing.
I think that relates here as well.
Maybe these types of guys should just stick to slapping each other in the locker room with towels.
“My connection to the Washington Color School hooked me up with Nina's book last year and the movie about Mary's life played out by Gretchen Mol. Great book and movie. I've always believed in conspiracy theories and hope to read this book.”
Jan 22, 2014 at 16:09:49
“Thanks Sadhvi. I knew at a young age that there would be plenty of children in the world to shower love unto when ready. I also knew that parenthood is such a demanding-all important-hour gobbling imperative that I couldn't do that and still be me. I used to think it was because I was selfish. Now I know it is because I know how I can give me, truly me, and not just "guilt and obligation" which Dr. Christiane Northrup says most families give and demand. I bet you would agree with me. We're not selfish. We just know what it takes to fill up with us so we have the real us to give. It takes a long time to learn that limits and boundaries are healthy. Thanks for reading and commenting.”
“I'm glad you've brought this out Emma. I believe men and women are both dealing with anxiety and depression, albeit differently. I believe solutions have more to do with making changes to one's lifestyle and thinking, than medicine. Yes, if people are stuck in situations that can't be altered, meds are necessary to cope. But often little adjustments that take into consideration the need to balance out society's overwhelming desire to success which pumps up adrenalin, cortisol and other sympathetic responses with parasympathetic activities which most people in the fast lane don't have time to think about much less practice.”
“Good job Greg. Let us not forget how many are paid to fight, thus they fight. I will never forget Eisenhower's speech the night before he left Washington and warned us of the Military Industrial Complex. I didn't hear it but it explains so much about the turn of events in this country since the 50s. How many do not have any real understanding of what the conflict is really all about, thus they are just following orders. As for the Christian element . . . the privacy of heart felt connection with the divine, as versus the show on the Sabbath to socialize with the right group. The whole war mentality is empty and meaningless. When you get on the ground and talk to children caught in the cross hairs, holy words mean nothing. It becomes merely cause and effect... and like Gingrich has said his ends justify his means. Um, no, it doesn't.”
hp blogger Greg Barrett on May 28, 2013 at 20:01:45
“Hi Lisa. Absolutely re the financial incentive/necessity. The economic divide ensures it and provides a steady employment line. Our "wars" today are fought primarily by the working class and the strain this puts on families is dysfunctional. If we'd had a military draft in 2003 -- where the risk and suffering was spread across US economic classes -- I'm pretty sure this nation would have never allowed a preemptive war and the invasion of a sovereign Islamic Republic.”
I don't hate men, even though some men/people are abhorrent and deserve to be viewed accurately, not with the romantic cloud they intend their fake and phony words cast on the situation at hand. The gentlemen I've savored most were few and far in between. I didn't have sex with every man I met, far from it. As for using them, I was honest about my desires from a deep place of confusion as I had no idea early on why I was so curious about love and lust and listening within. Some women just want someone because they feel empty inside. Others want a trophy or family to show off or fit in.
She said I cornered the market because the men I loved-loved me. They treated me better than she had been treated. She read my stories because they interested her. She's known me all my life and respects my honesty. Many women don't speak up for their own satisfaction. Why are you so threatened by one woman who does? My goal changed over time as is healthy and authentic.
I have blessedly met and loved good men. The female masses? Many are no longer just a man's property, and they indeed do think for themselves. I learned about the deeper emotions of sex, self and true love. It's not selfish to be full of self. You have much more to give that way. This takes time.”
“Bravo Emma. I've got a treatment coming up that is a repeat of a treatment I had in 2011. It involved steroids. I'm telling the doctor I won't do it because I don't want anymore weight gain. Let's see, something that kills my living cells or something that makes me more fat. It shouldn't be a choice.”
“I really love the way you write. I agree with you, that these ties to the past bring back to us a sense of who we were then. I understand the soul's need to view life as lots of lessons, often spiraling, and points of view evolving as we continue on our path. Those we walked with before, who were the quality we attracted then are fine gifts. I also understand jealousy, the depth of the emotion that makes people do crazy things. It is sad in our culture that we insist on ownership, when ownership is just an illusion. When we respect ourselves and our past lessons, we honor that person from our past and who they have chosen for their present and future. I like so much that you brought this honorable issue to light with such humor, shock and awe!”
“Brilliantly written Greg. I wasn't sure I wanted to read it when I read the title, but read it I did with great respect and agreement. I don't have a poster, but I certainly voted for the President to have his second term. I do believe if he gets back in that things will get better. Statistics have proven that government and debt has risen during Republican reigns. So for all their talk of smaller governments, the facts never weigh out. I was mightily disappointed by Obama's connection with Monsanto and a few other issues, but if Romney wins I'm just going to stop listening all together.”
hp blogger Greg Barrett on Nov 19, 2012 at 20:40:20
“Thanks Lisa. Just now seeing your comment. I agree with you-- I suspect and dearly hope that Obama will take the gloves off (pardon cliche) in his second term. No worries about re-election and all. However, with the House still divided, there is only so much the prez can do.”
“I was kicking myself for not having cable, not having access to HBO when I first started reading about her show, Girls. Then about two months ago I found a tube and a couch and I got to watch the whole entire series in one sitting. I was completely impressed. I thought she was so brave. I remember being her age and having those experiences; abusive work relationships, pitiful sexual encounters, desires to speak my voice and make it count. I was one of millions too afraid at that age. I listened when someone said to me, "You won't know anything until you are thirty." Madonna started her opinions (she a year or two older than myself) and I watched over the years as her expression grew and changed. Had I published what I was writing and hiding back then, my life and health would be much better now. I was too afraid. Lena is not. Bravo and I can't wait for more of her. I may just have to get cable and HBO next year when her series returns!”
“Right on sister. Who we love and who we lose is all subjective. I lost my baby brother when he was 31 in 1993. Someone asked if it gets easier. As time goes by, it doesn't get easier, but the grief becomes more familiar and becomes that personal and private connection I have to him. When I call to him and need a sign he is near, often that sign appears within five minutes. Recently it happened within the minute. I believe we are never truly separated once the love is divinely ordained whether through marriage or simultaneous conscious agreement.
I also have finally come to the conclusion that when others are all up in our business, it's because something in their own business is a problem for them. Whether it is criticism or compliment, who it comes from tells the tale. Well written and so very important a subject to examine, discuss and get comfortable with over time.”
“Lee, I saved this and put it in my family file. When my mother called this afternoon I mentioned the wonderful piece I'd read in HP today by you, and who you are. I then read it to her. She said, "This gives me goose bumps." She wanted to know how old your father is. I said I didn't know, but that a wonderful picture of him was on your website. Thank you for writing so deeply with such breathtaking artistry!”