“Glad some people's contractions weren't 'that bad'. I've never been in so much pain in my life and was definitely yelling to get through. I've described breaking bones as not 'that bad' but the pain level of contractions was so many levels beyond that broken bone discomfort.”
MamaShoob on Mar 20, 2013 at 13:44:42
“I agree with your sentiment, I'd like to have a "not so bad" labor pain! I went totally natural with my first one in 1996, although I wanted the epidural, they'd given me a demoral shot and said they couldn't then also give me an epidural. When we had our second, in 2011, holy moly what a HUGE difference! I had the epidural, however, it only numbed half of me so I still experienced labor pains. I will say I never yelled, I did moan through the second one though.”
“The sister said she saw numerous signs. There's a time, especially when a job involves children, where speaking up is the right thing to do. All the signs her sister saw are signs of a serious drug problem or severe mental disturbance. Would you feel comfortable seeing someone act like that and then know they were going to watch someones children?”
IJAbraham on Oct 28, 2012 at 13:52:39
“ImmunoStudent, I wonder how Ms. Krim did not notice that her children's nanny was in distress. The article stated that Ms. Ortega lost weight and aged significantly in a few months. Why did Ms. Krim or her husband not see that something was wrong with their hire?”
“Only one of them looks calm and it's not the one who looks like she's yelling and shaking her finger.”
Likely Voter on Aug 16, 2012 at 10:46:44
“He might be the president, but that does not make him automatically "correct" with the authority to be "rudely dismissive"! He is a thin skinned, rude, crass, narciccist, with a "smartest man in the room syndrome", which the lack of success in his administration, clearly shows, he is not. Actually, as the title to Edward Klein's book indicates, Obama is a classic "AMATUER", way in over his head, and a general all around, lowlife, socialist, PUTZ!”
“She actually does deny it. The interviewer asks if she finds the science on breastfeeding compelling and she says 'No...This makes me wonder whether the breastfeeding trend isn't based more on ideology than on science.' It's fine to argue breastfeeding isn't for everyone, it's not and formula has helped numerous families, but the science on breast milk and breastfeeding is pretty clear, it seems a bit odd to deny it, on the same level as people claiming that vaccines cause autism.
And she is implying in both this interview and her blog post that women who choose to give their baby unprocessed foods or cloth diaper are putting themselves in a state of slavery that is going against everything that feminism stands for. So yeah she's offending a good number of women, and not just SAHM, I'm not sure how peeling a banana is any harder than opening a jar of baby food, why is it anti-woman to do the former. Oh yeah because it cuts into her profits from Nestle.”
Skulander on Apr 26, 2012 at 12:15:52
“I don't think she gets any profits from Nestle (although DO provide links if you have some).
Sure, denying the science that breastfeeding is still the best option is somewhat odd. BUT breastfeeding HAS become an ideology of sorts. Like I said, respect is the key here, and leaving options for women. There's a LOT of judgements when a woman becomes a mother (you should do this, that, not this, not that, this way, that way, ect., it just never ends), arguably from BOTH sides (although feminists are by and large the most tolerant). This judgmental attitude needs to STOP. And we need to start trusting women with their lives, their bodies, their decisions regarding giving birht, breastfeeding, parenting, Either way, one given solution will not fit every woman. She needs to find out for herself what works best for her, her child, her situation.”
“Only about 1/4 of women breastfeed for 6 months so I don't think anyone is being forced into it. It's one thing to say that breastfeeding isn't for everyone, it's another to close your eyes to the data like Badinter does and say well I'm just not going to believe the science.
And Badinter is putting down a whole group of women and families, another example... the majority of families don't cloth diaper either, why is such a big deal that some families might choose to.”
Skulander on Apr 24, 2012 at 23:59:21
“I suggest you closely re-read my comment because you don't seem to have understood it. Besides WHO exactly is Badinter putting down? You want to breastfeed? Good for you. Go right ahead, you have all the rights to do it. You'd like to be a stay at home mom and never work a single day in your life, Ann Romney-style? Again, go right ahead.
But please, PLEASE. Let the rest of us alone. This is PRECISELY what Badinter says and that North Americans have a huge problem with, with our desire to impose one's ideology on the rest of us. And I am SICK of those women thinking they know best than other women. And I happen to have a huge problem with women telling me or other women how to be a mother. Sure, breastfeeding is usually best. She's not denying that. But it's not ALWAYS the best option and it will not work for all women.
Badinter points out the bullying that goes on by what the terms the "breastfeeding ayatollahs." Her comments obviously struck a nerve. Again, if the hat fits...”
“The workplace needs changed, science and evolution can't be. It's a short time when children are babies that they need a bit of extra care. The benefits of breastfeeding are well demonstrated, it may not be for everyone but there are numerous benefits. Why women shouldn't be allowed some time for pregnancy and motherhood without being burdened with having to go back to work before there body is healed is absurd. Telecommuting isn't given as an option to many women or temporary part-time work while they transition to motherhood. These are the initiatives that should be supported. And for men too, it will only help to build stronger family units and that in turn will help make a better society. But until we stop seeing babies as burdens our workplaces won't stop seeing them that way either.”
I dislike the headline on the front page though. Puts unnecessary pressure on new moms - adoption is quite different on the body than pregnancy, delivery and recovery. Also when you can hire nanny's that probably helps the sleep and being able to go out on the town as a new mom ;)”
Mar 15, 2012 at 10:17:03
“Self defense against a young man carrying skittles?
And the boy was the one being stalked not the man crying self-defense.
If that's how low the bar is set then Florida is a scary place”
kottison on Mar 15, 2012 at 11:13:07
“To be honest with you I don't think anything about this law means jack. The reason why there is even any conversation is because Trayvon is black. I don't care what nobody says if this tragedy happened to a young white male I couldn't see anybody bringing up a backwater law to justify any of it. Whether it's valid or not people would see it for what it is. The fact we're even debating this with some of these idiots is just shows that others believe he's dangerous because he's black. He had skittles and iced tea what more can anybody say to justify his murder? I think Zimmerman deserves capital punishment and I'm against the death penalty.”
Mar 13, 2012 at 10:18:00
“i don't think stand your ground laws apply when someone gives you a dirty look because you are following them. If that's his threshhold for thinking his life is in danger then he's a big threat to society and needs major psychiatric help.”
“Well then we just have a fundamental disagreement. Both my husband and I are in the public health field, MD and PhD and take public health very seriously. I value public health over perceived court decorum, especially when a judges personal preferences of decorum are unknown. And causing embarrassment over an important public health concern is just poor taste by a public official. Most likely he would not have handled the situation in that way if the child had been fed by a bottle and at the most just had someone ask her to step outside, so it shouldn't have been handled that way for breastfeeding.”
GlennWatson on Nov 16, 2011 at 16:59:54
“Its not a stark choice between health and decorum. We can have both if this woman will simply get up and move twenty feet.”
“Infants need to eat often, they have tiny stomachs and the protein in breast milk is digested quickly. The recommendation is to feed newborns every 2-3 hours starting from when they first began feeding. This means that there's only about an hour and a half break since feeding can take a half hour. This baby was 2 months older than what's considered a newborn but still has to eat pretty frequently. There's many reasons why a mom may choose not to bring a bottle, some have trouble expressing milk, some may be in short supply of milk and need to save anything pumped for when they're actually away from the baby, it's much more convenient to nurse than pack a cool pack and bottle and then try to figure out how to warm up the bottle when you're in a courtroom.
Anyways there's many reasons why a woman with an infant needs to be out in public and many reasons why she might not bring a bottle. Few of these reasons have to do with parading around.”
“Personally no, I won't even in my own home covered if we have guests over because people have such weird hangups not even with the sight but the thought of knowing it's going on in their presence, especially men. This is my first child but people's discomfort with it just seems absolutely bizarre to me. I have done it out in public several times with a swaddle around her in a way people think that she's sleeping, it's very discrete just like it sounds the woman in this story was being. Sometimes milk from the freezer is in short supply and it's best saved for when I have to be away, not when I'm with baby. I can't imagine what this poor mom felt being humiliated when she thought she was doing the best thing and being discrete, it was terrible handling of the situation.”
GlennWatson on Nov 16, 2011 at 07:59:12
“It was appropriately handled. She should have showed more respect for the court proceedings by leaving the room to breast feed. For acting inappropriately in such a formal environment she got what she deserved. A little public embarrassment is important in a society.”
“Why is it necessary to use a second rate store bought item when you've got something scientifically proven to be better right there. She was covered so it's not even the sight of breastfeeding but the thought of someone breastfeeding in your presence.”
tommiebrin on Nov 15, 2011 at 19:57:12
“Just take care of the whole problem by not having kids in the court room. What is going to be real funny is those people that defend this as all situations and settings are equal turn out to be the ones that would drop their child off with a bottle while they go out. What school did some of these people go to, never mind we don't want to embarass the school. Schools are not supposed to be the primany teacher in thinking. I know it is a cultural thing, if you go to a 4th world country everyone does it.”
“You can say be a grown up but that doesn't explain why you don't think breastfeeding is a grown up thing to do. Women have babies, they choose to breastfeed and often they need to go out into public, babies have tiny stomachs, asking a woman to not breastfeed in public is asking her to stay home. It's why the US has such dismal breastfeeding rates, because people like you try to shame women from doing what is healthiest for their babies. You should be ashamed of yourself and start acting like a grown up.”
GlennWatson on Nov 15, 2011 at 22:10:57
“Please point out to me where I said breast feeding was not a grown up thing.
I questioned the place where the breast feeding took place not the activity itself. Have some decorum. I was breast fed and my wife breast fed both my children. But never in a courtroom.
Tell me, would it make any difference if it had been the Supreme Court or would that be ok with you too? How about a day care, prison, a car wash, a horror movie?
Does a place or time exist where you would think twice about breast feeding.”