“When reading this story, I wonder what could make someone go that far. What if it was some sort of sexual encounter that was unwanted (i.e. rape, incst, etc,) and she was afraid or embarrassed to tell anyone. Many things she did let's me know she had remorse cause she could've dumped her/him somewhere and never been caught. In todays society with shows like "16 & Pregnant" a top tv show, young girls think its fun and cool to get pregnant and teen sex is a joke. Something in this story isn't being told. I can't pass judgment until I know.”
runeagle on Nov 19, 2012 at 07:49:30
“I agree with you that something is missing....she could have been molested...people fail to remember that she is only 14 years old!! She was scared and she shouldn't be facing LIFE in prison. Maybe if she had been 18 or 20 years old, this story probably wouldn't have been a tragic one.”
kashiskay on Nov 19, 2012 at 07:22:10
“WHAT? HUH? She showed remorse by holding the babys mouth closed so it would stop breathing and THEN stuffing it in a shoe box? They lived in a trailer and the mother only found the baby because of the odor, which means she slept there for at least 2 nights knowing a dead baby was there. GTFOH! And the glorification that show places on pregnancy would cause her to want and keep the child. NOT kill it. Something about your comment is as sick as this story. Lol @ you can't pass judgement unti you know. Silly!”
“Ok..no one truly knows the COMPLETE story here! I was 13 when I gave birth to a child which was a product of rape. If not for the tests given at the hospital, I wouldn't have even known and probably been scared and ashamed to tell anyone when I realized later. My mother didn't believe in abortion and believed in her own demented way that it was MY fault what happened to me. She agreed, after deciding in her own selfish way that she couldn't live without her first grandchild, to take the baby at birth and raise him. She was engaged to her 7th husband (there has been 10) and he didn't have any children of his own and my mother had her tubes tied. To make a long and very traumatic story short, by the time I was 8 months, my mother and her fiance' had broken up and things started to change. When he was born, I hated him and I was forced to care for him. I wouldn't even hold him. It took years of therapy to resolve the issues for him and myself. Now he's 21 and I feel bad for the way I felt and the fact he never was able to form the bond that is critical to newborns in the earliest stages of life.”
Shanda Smalls on Nov 19, 2012 at 11:34:54
“Wow, yours is a very trammatic story. It's clear from the few things you stated that your mother was not ready or capable of rasing children herself.
This is why I am an advocate for parents having to prove some level of "fitness" to procreate.”
jiggy15 on Nov 19, 2012 at 09:50:43
“I'm so sorry that all happened to you. I pray that you and your son have some peace in your lives now.You deserve it.”
MandyG1976 on Nov 19, 2012 at 08:11:41
“I'm so sorry you had to experience that and are still experiencing the ripple effects of other's decisions so many years later. I don't have that tragic story, but I do have a sexual assault story. None to share here, but I will say that mine was minor compared to yours and I thought a few years of therapy would be the fix. But I've found that continuous therapy is the only way to continue to cope. The best thing my advocate said to me was that, "it's more than just surviving you need, you've already survived. Now the goal is to get you to thrive!" I hope you continue to survive but also that you thrive in life! Love and respect.”
onlythetruth83 on Nov 19, 2012 at 06:38:28
“you should be proud of yourself. i had my first child when i was 18. now i am a male so it was easier for me to have one. but i hated the mother and those feelings lead me to not want to have anything to do with my daughter. as she got older it got worse as she looked just like her. when she got to be 5 yrs old she asked me daddy why do you hate me. it tore me up i couldn't even look at her for days. then i started thinking about the girls i had known in high school how the ones with out a fathers would go out of their way for any man to accepted them. making them do stupid things for attention. i realized how important it was for me to man up and be there for my daughter so she would not go through that. she is 12 yrs and couldn't be happier me and my now wife have custody of her. i would of never been able to do what you did at 13 do not be hard on yourself for those feeling you had when he was first born. just be there for him now. and be sure you have talked with him about that if you haven't already. you are a awesome person to overcome so much.”
Man4AllSeasonsCU on Nov 19, 2012 at 06:04:40
“It is not the child's fault that he came into this world because of rape and shouldn't be killed because of that fact. The people who need to be delt with are the rapist in this country and should be excuted immediately, if not sooner, when found guilty of the crime.
A mother who has been married 10 times is not a woman who you should go to for advise nor should you put much stock into how she feels about you.
It is obvious when you refer to your child as a product that you had issues of your own; but, I pray you have finally come to understand and to forgive your son and have reached some degree of sanity and peace with what you have lived through.”
jwald1 on Nov 19, 2012 at 05:44:36
“heartbreaking story, I hope you are both well now.”
ghee99 on Nov 19, 2012 at 05:40:01
“well, that is sad, sorry to hear that.
i would imagine, or at least hope (but then again who knows) that seeing your son now, you're glad he is alive?
but either way, hope that you gave him, as best you could, in a terrible situation, that was not your fault, enough of the values that you now have, that the cycle of abuse/blame might end soon.
and glad to hear, even though it took you years, that you were able to work things through”
Chillaxed on Nov 19, 2012 at 05:30:18
“don't beat yourself up, I know plenty of friends who had difficulty forming that bond and even now their kids are older would have even more difficulty admitting they love them. But they absolutely do and would do anything for their child. I also know women who fawned over their babies and were on course for perfect mother of the year awards, yet now they have a deteriorated relationship with their offspring because they were too in love with the ideal of the child and not the reality of how hard it is to be a parent. The fact that you acknowledge how you feel or felt (and I don't see how anyone could judge you for that given the circumstances) goes a long way to show that whether you think you did your best or whether things are easy, you still have the emotions that prove you feel for your son and that in itself is testimony to your strength and ability to accept your own faults. If more parents did that, less kids would act out in the way they do.”
“I am confused on the whole condom related to the case theory....when has there been another case from a missing persons/murder victim story where the perp used a condom??? What was he afraid of....giving her chlamydia or getting her pregnant??? In most cases that I have seen of a rape, semen is usually found on the female somewhere. Doesn't that whole aspect seem odd to anyone else???”