Apr 28, 2013 at 18:20:44
“I'm a nontheist & have always loved choir singing, in college and as a paid church musician. Choir singing gets people "outside of their own head" and participating in any collective effort is usually pretty gratifying---probably explains the anti-anxiety effects.”
“I know this officer, and I am not the least bit surprised that he did this. You can bet he gave that stuff to people that really needed it. Brice Miller made friends with everyone, and he is a very protective, fatherly and compassionate man.
I first met him when I worked at a dry cleaning plant that cleaned the police uniforms. Even when he didn't have any uniforms to drop off or pick up, he would stop in to check on me. I was alone in the shop near a bad part of town. When it was hot, he'd come by to see if I needed a cold drink. He usually stopped by in the evening to make sure everything was ok at closing time, and he did the same for the lady who opened the store in the morning before it was light outside.
Brice Miller is a very kind man and I am sorry that he got caught breaking the rules to help another. I'm glad he got his pension and I hope he enjoys a wonderful retirement.”
“That would require imagination, not critical thinking. $3200 a month could be plenty of income or not depending on cost of living, taxes, prescription medications, etc.
I am not suggesting that the author should have provided a detailed budget. She gave us a partial budget (inviting the reader to do the math) that accounted for less than half of the family's monthly income, raising more questions than it answered.
It would have made more sense to say something like: 'after rent plus x, y, z bills plus state taxes and high medical costs associated with her epilepsy, the family only had $20 left each month.'
Most of the writers here on HP do a bad job explaining poverty to a diverse public, with the notable exception of Barbara Ehrenreich (hope I spelled her name right).”
“Thanks for clarifying Lindsey. I guess the author did a crummy job explaining your financial situation :-(
Husband working the night shift with a new baby at home sounds terribly stressful as well, I know I would have had a very hard time coping with that.”
angie1234 on Sep 7, 2012 at 09:47:47
“The author may not have mentioned it, but by using critical thinking skills, one could imagine that there are other expenses such as taxes and medicine etc. without the author having to explain these explicitly.”
“Not sure we can pin this one on progressive feminism...please explain further.
The social sexualization of children is a disturbing trend in our educational system and society as a whole. Definitely a factor in the breakdown in child-adult boundaries.”
capercaper on Aug 7, 2012 at 14:54:39
“RE: Progressive feminism and impact on education
Here's an excerpt from an article that can get you started on the path . . . .
In our schools, therapeutic practices have effectively supplanted the moral education of yesterday. Ironically, those who pressed for discarding the old directive moral education did so in the name of freedom, for they sincerely believed that moral education "indoctrinated" children and "imposed" a teacher's values on them, something they thought the schools had no right to do. In fact, the "therapism" that took the place of the old morality is far more invasive of the child's privacy and far more insidious in its effects on the child's autonomy than the directive moral education that was once the norm in the every school. [p.212]
As we see from the earlier parts of Sommers' treatment, however, things go considerably beyond this. The feminist educational project is quite openly one of indoctrination and imposition, in which the wishes of the subjects, whether boys or girls, and irrelevant or even dangerous. Privacy is invaded because the radical feminist project, like all totalitarian projects, allows no privacy. The fundamental incongruity between feminism and "progressive" education is the contradiction between the principle of the latter that children should be allowed to grow and develop naturally, determined by their own autonomous impulses, and the principle of the former that nothing about human society or personality is natural at all and that "social conditioning" is responsible for all forms of behavior. The "progressive"”
“To anyone posting a comment suggesting that it would be commendable and harmless if their teenaged son "got lucky" with a teacher (or alternately, imagine yourself in your parents' place):
Are you really cool with your kid getting involved with some middle aged woman who clearly has issues, rather than spending time doing ordinary teenage stuff? Would you be ok with assuming responsibility for grandchildren whose mother is twice your kid's age, now jobless and possibly with a criminal record? Since these women are viewed as "seductresses" (and can therefore probably lead your kid around by the you-know-what), would it be cool for them to, for example, convince your son to help them kill their husband? This has happened.
Do you really want your kid involved with sort of person (any age) who would be willing to risk career, family & maybe even freedom for the sake of their physical urges? All of this sounds pretty undesirable. Just because sex is "different" for young men doesn't mean that they're invulnerable. This is not "Hot For Teacher" (i.e. fantasy) The reality is, these are nutty, unstable women from whom reasonable parents would want to protect their kids/teenagers.”
abhorson on Aug 6, 2012 at 12:51:33
“if my 17 year old son was getting laid by his teacher - and she was attractive - I'd only worry about his grades !!! If they slipped, I'd give that teacher a real tongue-lashing...”
foresure on Aug 6, 2012 at 00:02:02
Fanned for presenting a good, sensible argument. May I add another problem.
If a social system is to work, there must be boundaries between adults and children.
Is there any human organization that doesn't recognize this, with the exception of the American Educational Industry?”
Jul 24, 2012 at 12:51:27
“Speaking as someone who was a kid when Nancy Reagan was shoving "Just Say No" down all our throats, it's really disturbing that Americans would take such offense to the First Lady encouraging everyone to eat right and exercise. Could she have possibly chosen a more innocent and inoffensive cause?? Makes me think that all this protest and hatred is more about skin color than anything else.”
Weeweed Up on Jul 24, 2012 at 20:01:55
“At least she changed her cause from "educate all the rednecks in the red states" campaign. Talk about an impossible goal.”
“The overhead for running a cleaners is insane. Sky high gas and electric bills, plus equipment maintenance, and expensive chemicals that arrive in hazmat trucks. Plus the cost of environmental inspections and charges associated with disposing of the chemicals.
They're not driving themselves out of business, the economy and government is (and rightly so!). Traditional dry cleaning is filthy and dangerous, and really should be phased out in favor of something better.”
“Not so simple. Dry cleaning shops process hundreds, maybe even thousands of garments a day, often transporting clothes back and forth between drop stores and the plant where the cleaning takes place. Even at the small cleaners where I once worked such a request would be next to impossible---there's just not enough time (or a system in place) to match hangers to garments.
I prefer plastic hangers too, but dry cleaners hate them because they break easily and take up too much space on already crowded clothes racks.”
“This isn't really new. Maybe the Vietnamese tariff part is, but I remember when working at a cleaners six years ago that the price of Chinese hangers shot up because of existing tariffs that were suddenly being enforced.
The dry cleaning business already has a crazy high overhead”
“Great tips, especially items 1-3....very similar to the dinner rules we use with our 3 year old. We do occasionally allow a piece of fruit as a substitution, but it rarely comes to that.
Having low expectations helps, but we don't really tolerate any crying/tantrum behavior. She knows that she has to leave the room and calm down before she's allowed back at the table, and I think enforcing this at home helps with behavior at restaurants too.
Suggestion for #16: Have a small dog to clean up what falls on the floor!!”
ELS1976 on Mar 4, 2013 at 15:11:49
“I remember my parents instituting the #1 rule with a slight modification, we had to eat the number of bites of our age, so at 4 if I didn't want to try something, my mom would say you have to eat 4 bites before you are done. It worked out pretty well.”
MiniFoodies on Mar 2, 2013 at 08:01:36
“Great point. And I love #16. Beats the broom any day (make that every day!)”
Feb 26, 2013 at 20:51:10
“I was born into a family of hoarders and had the pleasure (it really was!) of cleaning out two of their houses after their deaths. It felt good to set things right, and provided a welcome sense of closure.”
fit4ufor3rd on Feb 27, 2013 at 08:57:52
“it felt great to us too, especially since she also hoarded cash in folders, envelopes , in between pieces of paper, in pocketbooks, in cups, in coats, etc. you get the picture. : )”
Feb 22, 2013 at 13:29:29
“Agreed. There's no way to untangle all the variables when it comes to all the substances we're exposed to in modern life, over time, over generations and in aggregate. Her flat dismissal of environmental factors comes off unscientific at best, and also kinda shady (as though P&G paid her to write it). What a tacky article.”
“Well said. If anything, we atheists are most deeply concerned with moral issues. It's all up to us: there's no supernatural being to help us sort these things out. We can't just "trust in God" That's a BIG responsibility, and we know it. If a religious person thinks otherwise, it's only because they believe they have a monopoly on morality.”
Aug 11, 2012 at 13:45:22
“My ex was USMC infantry, later LAR. Lots of jokes along the lines of 'rolling over three times & you're still on top of her.' I had never heard of this before, but a lot of those guys had big (and tall) wives and girlfriends. Perhaps it varies with branch/MOS? It doesn't get much more stressful than Marine infantry.”
Aug 9, 2012 at 15:15:10
“This explains the stereotype about military guys with very large wives.”
factfinder68 on Aug 10, 2012 at 22:29:27
“Please elaborate! I know you mean 'stereotype' in the truest sense, but as a presently serving service member, I can assure you the majority of military members have spouses that share the same life style off base; ie: going to the gym, recreational sports leagues, jogging etc...”