Apr 24, 2014 at 14:25:18
“What part of "nothing makes sexual assault okay" is so hard for men to grasp?”
Mitchell Horton on Apr 24, 2014 at 22:21:06
“It not being okay doesn't mean you shouldn't expect it.
If I walk into a crack house with a gold watch, I expect it to be stolen. That doesn't make it right, but it still makes me stupid to wear my watch in the open, in a building full of desperate criminals.”
Apr 23, 2014 at 19:05:56
“I would suggest actually watching Hannibal before writing it off as "just another psychopath series" - yes, there's a lot of gore and fear, but watching Will Graham continue to be a good man while facing off against evil genuinely gives me hope.”
“While there are some things I absolutely loathe about this country, this quiz somewhat skews the results as it insists on "developed" nations.”
megwright on Apr 26, 2014 at 21:28:20
“Yeah, because as long as we're somewhat better than third world or developing countries, we have nothing to worry about, right?
Why is it that some people refuse to compare the US to developed, industrialized countries, and want to stick to claiming that at least we're better than the poorest nations in the world?”
QuiGon on Apr 24, 2014 at 09:35:52
“Right! (I mean, WHY would the USA compare itself to developed nations? We look AWESOME compared to Somalia! But how can we be expected to compete with the likes of Canada or England? That's just unfair, man.)”
“There's a fine line. I had a workmate get furious with me because I talked about the ending of The Great Gatsby because he hadn't seen the movie ... read a #$*%ing book!!”
godlessliberal0 on Apr 17, 2014 at 14:08:00
“Yeah, if you've had your entire life to read what is regarded as one of the greatest American novels ever written, and you don't, you have no right to whine about the film being ruined for you. Also, how did his high school English teachers fail him so badly?!?!!”
“I legitimately, no rudeness or sarcasm, think she has BPD. Certainly not everyone with it acts the way she does, but BPD has that black and white thinking and sometimes the persecution complex. Either way, she genuinely needs help.”
“"lower functioning" is a false equivalency, first and foremost. Google Amy Sequenzia and Carly Fleischmann - two nonspeaking autistic advocates who are staunchly against a cure.
Also, hey, here's a novel thought: a child who bites people when they're upset IS TRYING TO COMMUNICATE. But because it isn't words, you don't care, or you can't be bothered to listen. You are presuming incompetence - imagine what might happen if you actually tried to take this behavior as a way of desperately trying to tell you what's wrong, instead of "acting out" like you clearly think it is. Nonverbal people can't use words, so they use every other tool they have.
Please, I am deadly serious, please talk to some adult autistics and get a clue as to what autism really is. If you keep treating it like it's a burden and a disease, I genuinely feel sorry for your child. Your attitude will telegraph to that child, and they will grow up as I did - thinking I ought not to exist, that I made my parents' lives harder. Please don't do that to an innocent child.”
kpdarcia on Apr 2, 2014 at 21:20:17
“Oh wait, I see, you're just defensive. You automatically assume everyone looking for a cure or anyone who sees autism as a disorder, clearly wants to eradicate autistic people. Well sweetheart, no. That isn't it at all. In fact the majority of people who want a cure HAVE family they care about deeply with autism. You know why I think a cure might be nice? Because every week when I visit my grandparents all I see is him struggling. All I see is him not being able to get through college without someone standing by him to keep him in focus. All I see is my grandparents throwing their hands in the air because they can't figure out a way to get him to do homework. All I remember are hundreds of conversations about school and watching him awkwardly try to stammer through every conversation, and all those years he didn't want to talk about his autism, not because he didn't want to but because he didn't know how.
My brother doesn't enjoy being autistic. He doesn't go through his days thinking he's "special" because of it. He doesn't try to convince people that he's completely fine. He knows there is a problem. But overcoming it on his own is so DIFFICULT because of it. I love my brother to death. I don't care that he's autistic. I care that he may never achieve his dreams because of it.”
kpdarcia on Apr 2, 2014 at 21:16:05
“Again, mistaking "communication" for strictly "verbal".
Yes. By biting. Because they can't form the words. And you don't see that as a problem. That a child who can't speak or use sign or use a picture board has to resort to biting to communicate? You want people to become mind readers?
BOTHER TO LISTEN TO WHAT? If they absolutely have no way to communicate, through any means, then there isn't a way to figure out what they want. This isn't intolerance, this is logic. People developed language for a reason. That you honestly can't see the issue is a demonstration of your OWN intolerance - your intolerance for reason apparently.
My brother is an adult autistic (and don't say "WELL YOU INFLUENCED HIM" because he's less than 2 years younger than me). Some of my close friends have Asperger's and autism. They certainly don't let it get in their way, but they don't go around with YOUR attitude of simultaneously begging the world to give you special treatment, while trying to insist there is nothing wrong with you. You can't have both. You either get treated normal, like you want, and then you don't get the accommodations you clearly need OR you accept that there is a problem.”
“I find it hysterical that you're the one accusing us of "forcing normalcy." You do realize that ABA and other therapies designed for autistic children are designed to force us to be indistinguishable from our peers? Google "quiet hands." We want to be ourselves without parents insisting that our lives must be so hard. We can speak for ourselves. Even those of us that are nonverbal can speak for ourselves. YOU just don't want to listen.
You think you know everything about autism and you are ignoring the people who actually have it. Can you grasp the sheer breathtaking audacity of that? If you presumed to say you knew all about being a person of color but weren't one, people would be up in arms. But because we're autistic we're assumed to not be able to communicate or somehow that our opinions aren't valid.
There is shame in wanting to cure autism, because you are trying to take the autism away and think you'll have a "normal" child underneath. It doesn't work that way. Autistic people are autistic, whether you like it or not, and you can accept us and work with us, or you can try to make us what we aren't.
You think you are helping us, but you are perpetuating stigma. You are making life harder for us. If you say you want us to be cured, you assume there's something wrong with us. There is nothing wrong with us. There is everything wrong with your perception.”
“I hated you on another article and I still hate you. No wonder you're such an awful person - you've bought into Autism Speaks' rhetoric about what a burden we are. I pity your son - does he know you're terrified for him? Does he know his existence breaks your heart? Do you have ANY CLUE HOW WELL WE CAN FUNCTION WITHOUT SPEECH? Ever heard of alternative augmented communication (AAC)? Or are you too busy being a martyr?
I'm fairly sure you'll just tell me to shut up, that I'm "Not like your child" because I can type. Typing is no guarantee of "high function", not like those labels are any good anyway. I am AUTISTIC. I know better about autism than these ignorant parents who only see pain.
If your son wants a cure and you have not influenced him to want one, that's fine, that's his right. If you have influenced him to want a cure, you are an abomination. There IS shame in wanting a cure, because you are wanting to "cure" everything that makes us us.”
hollyhobby on Apr 3, 2014 at 09:00:08
“Are you in middle school? Who goes around saying "I hate you" on a message board? Grow up. I'm done listening to your shouting tantrums. I will be muting any of your further responses, and will no longer respond to you.”
kpdarcia on Apr 2, 2014 at 19:31:57
“You do realize AAC is incredibly controversial because it's only used for actual communication for some, and for others requires so much aid that the person themself is not really communicating. Like many, you seem to think your particular condition is universal. Hers wasn't an attempt to be a martyr. It was honesty. It was how she actually felt. Would you prefer she lie? Say "Oh it's hard, but they're just so special and awesome and wonderful and blah blah blah"? Just try to keep everyone nice and comfortable? Absolutely not, because that's not how you help and that's not how you affect change. Ignoring those feelings and that fear just results in the absolute bullshit of anxiously avoiding the terms "mental disorder" and trying to force normalcy on conditions that are severely detrimental.
And no, there is NOT shame in wanting a cure. There is not shame in wanting to communicate freely without barriers. Why don't you try applying this argument to my mother...she died when I was 11 from a disease she had from birth that defined her just as much as you say autism defines you. She couldn't walk for most of her adult life. She overcame a lot, but others with the same condition aren't so lucky. And she died before she could see her children grow. By YOUR LOGIC there would be shame in her wanting a cure...”
“Sorry, I'm autistic and don't want a cure. You have no right to speak for us unless you are autistic. Also, functioning labels are gross and irrelevant. I can speak, but some days I'm nonverbal. Am I high or low functioning on those days? You are an ableist.”