“Oh I so love this article! At the age of 50 with a gorgeous 7 year old son who happens to have autism..life has been a little bumpy as of late. Suffice it to say that I will be checking out Rosetta Stone from my local library to refresh my French. Expedia is very busy with my requests for travel to France :-). Merci Mlle Ollivier!”
“Yes marriage is "easy" per se. However, when a disabled child is born the picture changes significantly. With the addition of the (wife) primary caretaker of the child (who has given up her career and is now cleaning houses for other ppl more fortunate) becomes ill herself - it's a horrible and gut wrenching situation. The husband continues to advance in his career and somehow reverts to the 1950's, expecting an immaculate home and a 4 course dinner in progress. Said husband flies for a living and is home perhaps 20% per year. Totally not involved in special ed, IEP's, the multiple therapies etc. Sadly, many ppl are in this situation and hang on for the income and insurance only. It's my story and I thank God every day that at least I can look after my little boy for now. My health is failing rather quickly and I am scrambling to make arrangements for my dear little boy because he does and will need help for the rest of his life. I am currently negotiating a separation agreement with my husband as he "did not buy into having a special needs child + a terminally ill wife" Tread carefully.”
MaryfromIL on Oct 9, 2011 at 01:17:58
“I am so sorry.
Do be aware many heartless people in the last few years of their life frequently develop a conscience. They are tormented night and day by the choices they made if they were wrong ones, like your husband in this scenario.
I was told this by an aide who worked in nursing homes and hospitals, and saw it first hand. I have also seen it in a couple of relatives. One who was particularly cruel to his wives and thoughtless to his children never had any peace the last 5 years.”