“By that calculation my first son would have been counted as "mistimed." I'd had a miscarriage and was advised to wait 6 months before becoming pregnant. I started birth control 6 weeks later (as advised). But I got pregnant for my son before the birth control pills were taken (something that is evidently very rare. Since I didn't want to be pregnant at that time he'd be "mistimed." I'm not sure the mistimed are fairly categorized - I'd like to see that broken down even more.
I do know that a lot of young women at my former job would get pregnant while with their boyfriend. They would specifically not get married until after the baby was born because the state Medicaid program would cover them if they were unmarried. Many of them married shortly after the baby was born but not before the taxpayers paid the bill.
I think the 19% of unwanted babies and the numbers of babies that are unintended being paid for by the state are worthy of followup. I do not begrudge anyone pre-natal care and medical coverage during birth - even if paid by the state. It is a small price to pay to ensure a child's health and well-being. But it would help if we could learn why this number continues to increase.”
Kippey Dale on Sep 11, 2013 at 23:46:49
“I read your comment...and wondered if it were an old post of mine. Are we the only two people on HP who know lots of women who don't get married specifically to have the baby on Medicaid? In fact, I know more women with children in that situation than I know married ones who had children on private insurance. The other option is the father-to-be joins the military and THEN the couple will marry. No one is going to get married if it interferes with their benefits. It just isn't done.”
“Who can drive a car is heavily regulated. You have to pass a test, have car insurance, pay a yearly registration fee. And if you use your car as a weapon you can be charged accordingly. Let's regulate guns just as much as we already do for cars. If you are willing to pass a test, have insurance and pay a yearly registration fee then we can talk.”
skiptrippi on Aug 5, 2013 at 22:41:57
“Yep, those laws/regulations/insurance/license kept him from doing what he did. I know 0 people personally that have shot at much less killed someone. Guns are bad though...”
“I was watching the sentencing while getting ready for work. I noticed that the judge ordered no contact with the victims and this monster asked if he could contact his daughter by Berry because he has parental rights. The judge said "Well, you can file for those rights. But whether they will be granted is another matter and a different court. I'm ordering no contact and she is a victim so no contact with her." He actually feels that it would be OK for him to have contact with Berry's daughter?????? He is a monster and there are no words.”
roshni on Aug 1, 2013 at 19:46:30
“The real disgrace is that rapists in this country negotiate with the woman they raped threatening visitation if rape charges against them are not dropped.”
roshni on Aug 1, 2013 at 19:45:26
“Rapists have too many rights in this country. I would vote to remove them all.”
Watcher from outside on Aug 1, 2013 at 19:14:39
“How do we know if this creep was not touching and getting the baby ready
for his pron addiction is the cause...grrrrrrr
justice wil soon happen to him....like Dalmer...oops will be put in general pop..oops
and he will be gone...”
Donna Time on Aug 1, 2013 at 19:13:47
“There are no words. He should have no rights left let alone to see that poor little girl. Her mother should never have to deal with it either. They have been through enough!!”
TheOverlord on Aug 1, 2013 at 18:54:11
“The real monster is the law that would make such a thing possible as letting a rapist have parental rights... it's truly monstrous.”
“This happened to me. We had a diamond ring purchased at JC Penny (an anniversary ring - not engagement ring). The center diamond kept falling out of it - several times. I took it back for repair three times before I told them I wanted my money back. I did get my money back but I haven't stepped foot in a JC Penney's since that time.”
“Because people would like to do more than just survive, not everyone has that easy of a time with it, more women are working than ever before and spending time with a baby while young is important for the baby and the parents. Also, letting parents stay home in the short term (when they are only getting a few interrupted hours of sleep per night) pays dividends in the long term - who wants an employee that feels like falling asleep at their desk?”
LUVINLIFE2003 on Apr 30, 2013 at 14:16:14
“How do you think that will help you survive better. If after 5 months of having an infant and you totally need that time because its so rough--After 5 months babies go through teething,get sick,get colic and so on after the 5 months mark--If you can barely hack it with almost 5 months off more than likely you won't be able to hack it at all--We by the way--were tired and went to work and our bosses expected no drop off and that was what was expected.Our bosses and employers didn't give birth to the baby and it was up to us to handle our stress and our lack of sleep/ Otherwise we had to produce. That was reality back then and guess what--iT WORKED AND SO DID WE”
aaraujo on Apr 30, 2013 at 14:13:50
“parents should demand more paternity/maternity leave because, in the end, it is good for thr baby, the parents, the community and society as a whole”
“I suppose the only positive (and it is a small one) is that this unfolded at night when most people were home in bed. Can you imagine how much worse the chaos would be if this started at say noon? A few years ago a man escaped in the neighborhood near my sons' school right as the dismissal bell was about to ring. I was in the parking lot when the loudspeaker came on and said the school was going on lock down. Tons of parents were in the parking lot. Soon swat teams came out and surrounded the parking lot with dogs and big guns. Later we figured out it wasn't so much to protect the kids - they were safe in their locked school - but more because they wanted to evacuate the parents but knew we probably wouldn't go. We had to wait nearly 4 hours for them to let the kids go.
My point is - this manhunt could be going on under much more adverse conditions and if there is any silver lining to this truly bizarre story it is that.”
“Why can't the media wait - they want to rush in and make the same mistakes they did before. How about waiting before you destroy someone else's life unnecessarily? This isn't in the name of news - this is all about "getting the scoop" before someone else.”
Mar 29, 2013 at 00:58:54
“Well, I have never had a passport. But you know what - I am a white woman and would never be asked to show my passport by a border guard anywhere. I live in AZ and have driven through checkpoints numerous times. I'm rarely asked anything - usually just waved through.”
“You can't get any kind of benefits in the US if you are here illegally unless you fraudulently use someone else's social security number. Funny thing - although I support reforming immigration laws I don't have a problem with the word illegal - they are here because they broke the law. Acknowledging that rather than berating people for using that word would at least show some contrition.”
Scott Leland on Mar 26, 2013 at 11:48:41
“momand2boys: There are millions of inmigrante undocumentados receiving the benefits of Cupones de Alimentos because they are members of "mixed families," with some members that are citizens.”
“No, that is their parents' job. I would let my 7th and maybe even my 5th grader read this. It is certainly no less horrific than "Hunger Games." If "Hunger Games" is there this book should be there.”
Jerseytime on Mar 15, 2013 at 22:56:02
“Look, they aren't stopping parents from letting their own children from reading the book. They are seeking the right grade level for teaching it in a public school. Its not "banned".
Is it a topic open to debate? On which people of good will can disagree? Yes.
Not my shcool. Not my town. Not my kid. Their call.”
“The way to win is to NOT change our way of life. We need to NOT live in fear, to go about our business as we always have. I am as liberal as can be. But this stand is absolutely unconstitutional when it comes to our rights to due process. I thought it would be a cold day in hell before I could support a Republican given the current political climate. But the conservatives are right on this one!”
“The judgmental comments are ridiculous here. Children are growing up entirely too entitled these days because they are the absolute center of their parents' world. But this makes them entitled and bratty. Your child is NOT the be all and end all of greatness in the world! Neither are my two amazing boys. When our boys were born we agreed that we would never put our children first but rather put our family first. That means all four of us - not the two children who think they are the center of the world. So I have needs, their dad has needs, they have needs - all of our needs are important. At times my needs and their dad's needs take a backseat - but all of our needs get met. I think not putting your children first in everything makes sense. It doesn't mean they aren't important and we don't mean their needs. But sometimes they have to wait especially when it is a want and not a need.”
Lola2000 on Mar 3, 2013 at 01:21:50
“you really think their kid isn't growing up totally spoiled and entitled?”
I am deeply saddened by the corporate lobbying done by Dunkin Donuts to get around key provisions of the new health care law. I do not want sick, uninsured workers handling my food and I want all families to be able to enjoy the health care that I do. As a result I will no longer be purchasing anything from Dunkin Donuts including my twice monthly purchase of several dozen donuts for my employees and gift cards used as rewards.
I understand a business needs to make a profit. But by not insuring your employees you place a greater burden on the public and that is not acceptable. Emergency room visits increase at expense to those who are insured, Medicare and Medicaid use explodes especially for family members of those employed at Dunkin Donuts. Being a business owner entails responsibilities and I am saddened to see Dunkin Donuts shirk this responsibility.”
“It doesn't matter if he is a pastor or not. Students are allowed to pray, read the Bible, even preach to their peers. But they simply cannot force someone else to do so and a teacher (as I am) cannot force her beliefs on to her students. God has never been removed from the classroom - forcing everyone to parrot some kind of magic charm like a meaningless prayer is the only thing that has been removed from the classroom. What he said was factually NOT TRUE!”
Randy Creasman on Dec 27, 2012 at 15:09:33
“He was referring to the way the American society has become more secular. He clarified his statements on his Sunday evening show. ”
The Colonel on Dec 27, 2012 at 13:10:21
“Exactly! The kids don't pray, they recite the prayers.”
“I am a teacher! NOT a law enforcement official. These guns were LEGALLY obtained by his mother. How do we keep the mentally ill from getting guns? This is very much about two twin issues: guns and mental illness.”
Nov 15, 2012 at 11:59:51
“The part I have a problem with is the fact that this guy is encouraging his customers to leave crappy tips because his servers are the primary beneficiaries. How dare they expect health care at a reasonable cost since they work for such a skinflint that can't give them benefits? The disdain he has for his workers is astonishing but not at all surprising. I hope his employees quit in droves.”
“Having read the actual study it was extremely flawed. The leaps it made from the data to the conclusions was speculation and reported as facts. I'm not sure why everyone thinks it should be reported as fact - it wasn't. If it is replicated and some of the questions explained maybe then it would be news. Right now it wasn't noteworthy and the conclusions appear to have been written to be as inflammatory as possible - with little scientific objectivity.
Also, every science study does not deserve to be on the news. There are 1000s each and every month - and 99.9% of those never get reported. To say that a non-objective and highly speculative study should get more attention than those about any other subject is simply not a valid argument.”
dtmfman on Oct 25, 2012 at 11:19:26
“case in point...I once conducted a scientific study of how many dingle berries accumulated on my butt with each underwear change....so I concur...all studies do not deserve news publication...”
“Ummmm.....illegal immigrants don't get free housing or food stamps. Legal immigrants (from all over the world) get the same benefits you do if you need them. The only possible exception to this is emergency room care. Now that is a true, honest to goodness problem (well, at least to folks who use their brain - evidently Mittens doesn't think it costs money to go to the ER). But still....that is the only benefit.
I wonder if you have the same anger for the people who hire illegal immigrants as you do for the people simply trying to get a job?”
hlasv3 on Sep 24, 2012 at 08:55:27
“As soon as they pop out the first anchor baby, (citizen) all the freebies kick in.”
Sep 14, 2012 at 21:35:49
“Or their parents could do the job they are meant to do.”
Tsadik on Sep 14, 2012 at 22:38:50
“Who are "parents" exactly that they have the training or emotional reliability to take care of that? Birthing a child is not hard, a teenager can do it. It doesn't mean you are in any way mature or that you could impart any kind of wisdom to your offspring.”
humanfromspace on Sep 14, 2012 at 22:14:09
“Unfortunately not all parents do this, so schoold are usually the backup for kids's education in all fields.”
Peace Warrior on Sep 14, 2012 at 21:44:22
“Or, good manners could be encouraged throughout society without blaming a specific segment for the lack thereof.”
“How many children have you adopted? Every night in the state I live 11,000 children go to bed without parents. So how many have you adopted?
Furthermore, there is considerable expense involved in having a baby. How many of these pregnancy by rape situations have you paid for? There are an estimated 32000+ of these pregnancies each year. (Am J Obstet Gynecol. 1996 Aug;175(2):320-4; discussion 324-5.)
Finally, to suggest that someone who has been to hell and back should be forced to be victimized for 9+ months because of the potential of human life......well that is just horrendous.”