“It's interesting to see so much support for Ann Curry, who I always thought was an on-air disaster; fumbling her words constantly while reading the news, and acting much too "eager" in her interviews. I was amazed they didn't fire her years ago, much less promote her to co-host.
I will agree that the Today show is mostly fluff and commercials, which is why I stopped watching years ago... now I spend my mornings with "Morning Joe."”
“You would certainly think if there were an issue that *everyone* (of *any* religious or political persuasion) could rally around, this would be it.”
kornbluthwasright on Jun 6, 2013 at 20:22:22
“Agree 100%. Why aren't we hearing more outrage from the LW on this? I would hate to think that the reason is solely because a number of RW speakers have spoken against it...but it just may be a case of "the enemy of my enemy is my friend." Which is very frightening.
This may be one of the few cases in which "the enemy of my enemy is also my enemy."”
“Good point... I don't have anything against sports, nor do I think kids are, or should be, aggressive. I was only trying to respond to the man who was saying aggression is a natural part of being male; I've never been male, so I have no idea. To whatever extent testosterone causes "aggressiveness", I would guess that sports is one way to deal with it. Chopping wood is another. Whatever. Deal with it, guys. Without stomping on little girls' castles. :-)”
“Thank you for saying what I was thinking after reading that really absurd post... nobody was talking about "sacrificing a male child's well-being" (unless "respect", "self-control", and "empathy" are considered damaging traits for a boy to have???). There are appropriate outlets for "aggression" (sports!) and inappropriate outlets (hurting another child or damaging their property). I thought the article was right on target in every respect. And obviously the author wasn't bashing "all men" (or boys), because she referenced other boys who were able to behave appropriately, thanks to parents who were teaching them (just as the author had to teach her own daughter about respect for others' property). So many wounded males egos whining on here; it's obvious they didn't even read or comprehend the article.”
polarscience on May 29, 2013 at 18:57:21
“I wonder if those who think sports are about aggression have ever actually played a team sport. Team sports are about cooperation and team spirit, which requires things like respect for others, self-control, and empathy.”
4akinderworld on May 29, 2013 at 17:43:34
“My youngest son went through the hormone-aggressive phase and cut timber for firewood. Win/win.”
“Please do get off your soapbox. Any normal person who desires to have their "own" genetic children will always go through a grieving process before moving on to other avenues for having kids (whether that be donor eggs/sperm or adoption). Once you grieve the loss of the genetic connection, you are then able to move forward. I don't know of anyone who decided on adoption as a "first choice" (not saying that doesn't exist, but it certainly isn't the norm). Once the prospective parent comes to terms with the new reality of their situation, they are able to take the next steps with ever-increasing acceptance and enthusiasm. At the end of the journey they will welcome their new child with the same love and commitment any other parent feels, and will ultimately be thankful that things turned out exactly the way they did. But unless you've gone through this process yourself, you're in no position to judge.”
Robert Eroica Dupea on May 13, 2013 at 09:47:11
I absolutely receive your rebuke. You are correct, I am in no position to judge. Perhaps my initial framing was insensitive. I do want to say that my comments represent many, many families that choose to adopt as a first choice regardless of biological status. (Also, a growing number of families have a biological child and then a have an adopted child or verse visa). Finally, genes or no genes, the children we adopt our wholeheartedly our OWN. That needs to be understood in the "biological" community...Okay, I need to stop clicking on these sorts of articles. I don't know if it's good for anybody:)”
hp blogger Jennifer Delaney on May 13, 2013 at 08:25:59
“On the flip side of that coin - there are lot of biological parents who are fantastic, and some that are not equipped to be parents. Which is why we have so many kids in foster care, abused, and neglected. Kids living with substance abusing, or mentally ill parents, or bounced around from one place to another with no security and stability. It is is how you raise and treat your child that earns you the title of parent.
As for a why I was winsome over a baby that looked like my husband, my mother loved my husband very much and as she was dying she kept dreaming of a baby that looked just like him. Even asking me to show her photos of the baby. I would pull up random baby photos on my iphone with a baby that had the same features as my husband and it would make her smile and she would exclaim "BlankeyBlank's baby!" Isn't he awfully cute! Look at his chubby cheeks!" Which is part of why it is a process to let go of that idea.
My mother was a straight shooter, and judicious with the compliments. The summer before my mother died, with a hint of envy she told me how lucky the child that we have is going to be, and that she wished that she had been adopted by my husband and I. That is just her personal opinion, but it was was the greatest gift to me.”
hp blogger Jennifer Delaney on May 13, 2013 at 08:24:03
“Thanks for your support and beautifully put comment nadamaya.
Robert, although I did not get into it in this post, I have always planed on adopting as part of my ( I am using "my" because I wanted this years before I met my husband) family building plan. I just thought it would be a mix of adoption and biological.
My mother lost her mother at age 6, and her father abandoned them. She always told me what it was like to be a kid and see other kids who had parents with beautifully brushed hair, nice bows, and lovely new clothes and how that made her feel. I always knew I could and would love a child I didn't give birth to.”
“Can't fathom why this is an issue, or what people have against princesses (as portrayed by Disney). They're all very good, very resilient people. They make of the best of their difficult circumstances (Cinderella didn't start out as a princess!), keep from being hateful and bitter, and figure out a way to rise above it. Jasmine is my favorite; very much a feminist. And yes, they do meet men they love and get married, which is certainly preferable to a life of isolation and loneliness, don't you think? There's a lot a girl can learn from these princesses!”
happykayday on Nov 5, 2012 at 07:40:35
“i agree. just look at Mulan. she didnt listen to what any man said, she just did what she felt was right.”
hp blogger Jenn Horton on Nov 2, 2012 at 16:33:00
“There's much truth in that! Most of the Disney princesses do have great emotional depth and are loving/caring/kind and resourceful. Definitely can't knock those traits. I haven't shown my daughter Brave yet, but i think i want to-Merida sure seems like she's an inspiring one.”
goldengirls27 on Nov 2, 2012 at 01:29:30
“Thank you! I wanted to say the same thing, but I was afraid of the repercussions :). Although I must admit, Jasmine irks me, I prefer Ariel, who is not much of a feminist at all.”
“You seem to have shifted, Frank... last time I saw you on MSNBC... not too long ago...you were calling yourself a Christian and recommending the Wild Goose Festival. You seem to be in a very different place now. ???”
ZenSufi on Sep 18, 2012 at 17:56:22
“I think he's still a Christian. I didn't see him denying Christ.”
“I'm a bit confused... are you saying this is the description of the church *you* are the pastor of? The one you've devoted your life to nurturing when you're not on sabbatical? Why would that be? And are you saying this describes most of the churches you've attended or worked in? (It certainly doesn't describe the churches I've spent my life in.)”
“1) Why the word "men" in your description of type #2? I know as many women as men who fall into this category. Generally, if men in this category believe something, their wives believe it too, and vice versa.
2) Sadly, as much as I would be inclined to assume the members of type #2 would be "poorly educated", I have been shocked to discover several college-educated aquaintances who believe these very things. They are, from all appearances, intelligent, articulate, successful middle-aged and middle-class people. Living in a "blue state" no less. It does bewilder me, but apparently this "type" is more far-reaching (thanks to Fox News) than you would imagine!”
hp blogger Frank Schaeffer on Mar 26, 2012 at 16:21:17
“Good point Nadomaya re "men" in point 2. I should have said men and women. And I hoped with point 1 and my "old guard" GOP types I made it clear that not everyone in the GOP is in the woeful Fox-addled underclass. But a lot (most) are.”
“My point was, since Dr. Ehrman is himself an atheist (or agnostic), there's no way his comment could have been intended as a slur against atheists (or their inherent humanity). You all seem to reading reading something into that which wasn't intended. And I never *said* that "trendiness" was an argument for or against the validity of any beliefs, and I don't think Dr. Ehrman did either. He simply made the connection between those beliefs, and the "mythicist" endeavor.”
“Not dehumanizing at all. It's simply a fact; "atheism" is a trendy thing to believe these days (in some circles). You all seem to be assuming that Dr. Ehrman is a Christian believer. He is not. He is an honest scholar, and an expert in his field, and does know a lot more about this subject than virtually anyone else (particularly those who aren't scholars at all).”
Jradxit on Mar 24, 2012 at 07:36:50
“No, you are incorrect. Deniers of Jesus are not a different breed of human, whether atheist, agnostic, or Muslim. Also calling a belief trendy is no argument at all against the validity of those beliefs. Christianity is certainly a trendy thing to believe in some circles...So what?”
“And how do we find them? Primarily on college campuses, or on the internet, or where? As a Presbyterian minister I would be happy to connect these folks with our humane, liberal, and tolerant church!”
hp blogger Frank Schaeffer on Mar 15, 2012 at 15:13:29
“Hi nadomaya, I think this is why Wild Goose Festival and other efforts like this our so great. WG is the progressive "Billy Graham" in the sense that it helps people see that they are not alone. You could do worse than come to the festival with some young people or not so young and tap into what is going on, or do the same thing loyally. Keep me posted if I can help. Best, F”
“The word "Spiritual" used to have negative connotations to most churched people; it implied something different than it does today. Something really "out there" on the fringes; cultlike. It wasn't a word "religious" people would have applied to themselves forty or fifty years ago.”
Alex Fidelibus on Feb 21, 2012 at 09:40:04
“Really? I never knew that, and I grew up Catholic. I always thought that spirituality came first and religion built on top of that to add substance and structure.”
“I don't think I did make that assumption. I said it "can" be the best setting, not "must be." Ultimately we're all free to choose the path that seems best for us, and thank goodness we live in a country that supports that individual freedom. I'm only saying that, in my life experience, I've been blessed, encouraged, and supported by the "roadmaps" of my faith tradition.”
“Why on earth do people still use the King James translation? Such antiquated language, makes the most down to earth passages sound disconnected from real life. The Bible was written in the everyday language of the people, and should be translated as such, otherwise it's not going to attract anyone who hasn't been brought up hearing it the "old" (16th century) way!”
gal416 on Feb 14, 2012 at 21:19:48
“It attracted me and I didn't read it till I was 53 years old.”
“How silly of you to think that Native American spirituality isn't a "relgion"... they had beliefs and rituals same as every other religion. They had words for God (Great Spirit), and for the experience of "being" in their spiritual practice, just as every faith tradition does. They didn't go it alone, they were formed and guided by the traditions of their community. These included chants, music, dance. The only reason their "spirituality was deeply ingrained into every activity throughout the day" was because they grew up learning that from their community modeling it for them. Judaism and Christianity are no different. We are spiritual in and through the experiences, rituals, traditions, and beliefs that are taught and modeled for us. It's not a weakness; it's a great blessing!”
“I loved the article and totally agree. To go off on one's own to practice "spirituality" is like re-inventing the wheel, when there are beautiful road maps and templates, based on thousands of years of wisdom-in-community, that one can be guided by. "Good" organized religion, where one is not coerced, but is invited into a tolerant and loving community, can be the best setting for pursuing one's spiritual journey.”
french queen13 on Feb 11, 2012 at 23:57:26
“Not everyone is on the same road as those maps. Not everyone is a joiner, or has any use for the thou-shalts and thou-shalt-nots involved in specific religious creeds.”
MAH999 on Feb 11, 2012 at 23:24:40
“If you need that map and template, by all means use it. But don't make assumptions about what other people need.”