“Reading that you don't eat when you're hungry is a red flag as is feeling guilty about eating. I'm also concerned that you omit certain "bad" foods. Your calorie needs will need to increase to maintain instead of lose and it may be difficult to trust this idea.
I'm bordering on my professional boundaries here, but in my experience, the closer to normal your can be (eating when you're hungry, stopping when you're no longer hungry, eating foods you like, avoiding terms like "good foods" and "bad foods,") the more successful you will be with weight maintenance. You may also need to count calories to ensure you're getiing ENOUGH to eat. Take good care of yourself and remember that your health is more important than the size of your jeans.”
hp blogger Brittany Binowski on Dec 31, 2012 at 12:57:33
“Thanks regan for putting the focus back on my health and not the size of my jeans! This is good advice.
Think I'm going to have to start counting calories to make sure I'm eating enough, instead of too little.”
“Maybe "norm" is too general, but it is very, very common. I rejoice when someone comes to my office about weight loss and just needs education--it happens about one in twenty times. Usually there is a long and storied history of diets, weight loss and regain, self deprivation, food issues related to family and memories/experiences with food. Most people I work with don't "trust" themselves with food and while they can't be diagnosed with an eating disorder, they almost never eat "normally." And one of the best things I can share with people is that they are "normal" in their suffering. I think that there isn't a ton of info out there because women (men too, for sure) are expected to have this disordered relationship with food so it actually starts to seem "normal."
I'm a dietitian and from my experiences eating meals and birthday cakes with other RDs, normal can be eating a whole piece of Texas sheet cake, a few bites or none, but it is based on food preferences and enjoyment not calories and "good" food and "bad" food.
Congratulations on your recovery!”
“Wow, your honesty is amazing! I mentioned it in an earlier post, but I really like the book "Intuitive Eating" by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch. It may help you learn to better rely on your natural inner cues (they're there, we just manage to shove them away) about food you like, what "enough" feels like (rather than what the calories say is "enough") and exercise for health and well being rather than for calorie burning.
Do you feel obsessed about exercise or food? Do you "make up" for "missed" workouts, do you avoid certain "bad" foods and deprive yourself because it's "healthy"? Can you do what you're doing for the rest of your life? If a friend were doing what you're doing, what would she think?
There are good nutritionists without the credential of Registered Dietitian, but an RD is qualified to look at you and your lifestyle objectively to help you figure out if you're "taking it too far." Good luck.”
hp blogger Brittany Binowski on Dec 19, 2012 at 13:45:15
“Well, lately -- no, I haven't been making up at the gym for missed workouts or overeating, but I have been avoiding many bad foods and depriving myself of eating sometimes when I'm hungry -- even though I still do get in at least 3 small, very small meals a day and a few (again small) healthy snacks.
I've been getting a little sick recently, so I think that may have something to do with my increased hunger.
Although I do feel a little guilty when I start to eat more. I know old habits of over-eating are really easy to go back to, and I don't want to let it slip.
Even though, I am really, really happy with where my weight is at right now. I feel like a completely different person -- and everything at the store fits much, much better now.”
“She did say that she went to a hospital for treatment. And quite honestly, from what I see daily, her food issues aren't that far odd from the norm.”
dlpoly on Dec 19, 2012 at 14:48:44
“I suffer from the same disordered thinking about eating years after my "recovery" from anorexia so I was thrilled to see an article echoing my exact feelings. But is this the norm? I'd love to hear more stories like this one so I know I'm not alone.”
“Fantastic! I'm saddened by the "eating disorder" voices I'm reading in the comments though. Exercise as a way to avoid eating screams "Eating Disorder!" as does the "fill up on water" and calling eating regular food "cheating." As a Registered Dietitian with a pile of books on normal eating (yes, Geneen Roth is great as is "Intuitive Eating" by Tribole and Resch) who works with ED patients, your post has given even me food for thought. No pun intended. You are a shining example that recovery is possible and that a healthy, normal, ordinary relationship with food can be difficult, but is a necessary, worthy goal.”
hp blogger Margaret Wheeler Johnson on Dec 18, 2012 at 17:10:00
Dec 4, 2012 at 13:01:11
“BMI isn't perfect, but for a significant majority of Americans, BMI does indicate overweight and obesity. It is fast and easy and works as a screening tool very well. MDs can generally look at a person who is "obese" but is ripped and tell that BMI is misleading. A bigger concern than diagnosing healthy weight people as overweight or obese is missing people who are an appropriate BMI who are overfat.
I talk to too many people who ignore the warning of a high BMI because they don't understand how muscled someone has to be to be mistaken for overweight or obese on a BMI chart.”
“Gun laws are the most liberal they've been in years under Obama. Taxes on the wealthy are the lowest since FDR and the Bush tax cuts on the wealthy were supposed to be temporary (according to Bush). AND don't even get me started on you and yours "sanctity of life" crap when you're for the death penalty.”
Apr 12, 2012 at 12:19:44
“Agreed. I need more information to compare "cheese" and "steak." Low fat mozarella vs. porterhouse or cheddar vs. filet mignon are completely different comparisons. And the whole soy issue--good grief! Soy "milk" and miso are not the same animal. I'm a dietitian and found this "quiz" to be off the mark. And we also know that dietary cholesterol is virtually irrelevant (there are some people whose blood cholesterol is affected by dietary cholesterol, but it's really about saturated and trans fats.) I think this quiz was written in 1990.”
thereisonlyoneparty on Jun 1, 2012 at 19:09:23
“PCRM misrepresents science in an attempt to "prove" that veganism is inherently more healthy than any other diet.
The group is not a medical group; it just claims to be.
They really are playing on the ignorance of the average person. I find it rather humorous that that they do not include soy milk in the Coca Cola comparison. Soy milk has more calories than cow's milk (due to higher levels of fat). Does that mean that soy milk is also bad? It is even worse than Coca Cola.
It is somewhat scary that people may base their dietary choices upon stuff like this, but that is really what PCRM is seeking here. It is not about educating people, it is an attempt to scare people away from meat and dairy while misinforming people that such changes alone will make them healthier.”
Apr 12, 2012 at 12:08:12
“I just finished reading the post in the Parent section about allowing children to experience discomfort and have to deal with realities of difficult social interactions. I do wonder how many younger people will be less able to handle adversity as adults because they haven't had to adjust/adapt along the way because there has been so much social protection as they've grown up. The nastiness of being a teen girl sure wasn't fun, but had my mother intervened with the school or other girls' parents certainly wouldn't have taught me to be able to speak for myself in those situations, develop empathy and deal with similar but bigger situations as I've gotten older.”
Apr 12, 2012 at 11:58:48
“Celiac disease is NOT diagnosed by eliminating gluten from the diet--it is diagnosed with an antibody test and/or biopsy. If gluten is removed from the diet, the antibodies are no longer there and the test is irrelevant. If someone suspects celiac, we tell them NOT to eliminate it so it can be confirmed. When/if it is confirmed we teach the patient how to eat gluten free. If it isn't confirmed, we can keep looking for other GI culprits.
ANY diet that eliminates whole groups of food [that are normally part of a person's diet] will almost ALWAYS cause weight loss because calories are being cut. Duh. (that's the professional term for, "duh.") Eliminating sugar? White flour? Meat? Soda? Alcohol? Yep, if you eliminate calories, you lose weight.”
shimi-habu on Apr 14, 2012 at 09:16:48
“If your doctor does not understand the disease and will not give you the proper tests, and this does happen, then an elimination diet is a helpful tool. If a person sees immediate results in their health then this is a good thing. Many people do not have help learning how to eat gluten free from doctors who do not have adequate training in nutrition. This is a separate problem altogether in that most Americans do not understand what a proper diet is because our teachers and doctors do not even know. But as to your point about eliminating sugar, alcohol, meat, white flour---as a doctor you should know these are all toxic to our bodies in one form or another and we should limit or elimate them regardless of any allergy.”
“"Spoon me" pillow, really? And "you plus me equals awesome"? The best gifts for anyone are thoughtful and personal. If you're in a relationship, Valentine's Day should have some sexy. I mean, my husband loves the cinnamon hearts and pink and red candy, but it's the red and pink lingerie he's after.”
“You boys are just so clever about being able to hear that an irritated woman is menstruating. I would imagine that a very high percentage of women would be able to tell that you're morons by hearing you as well.”
leskataus on Jan 30, 2012 at 16:51:29
“The truth is they don't know but won't admit it. That's why they like to assume that any woman who is in a bad mood is that way because she's on her period, even if that woman is post menopausal.”
“The only thing in bad taste are the excruciatingly underweight models.”
Becca Bankston on Aug 21, 2012 at 22:56:30
“Hi Everyone, if you are going to read my posts, read the third one after this one first and then the second one after this one and then the first one after this one. I wrote it all as one long post and then tried to put it in the right order because when you post, it sometimes puts things in backward order with long posts, but this space does not, so the whole thing came out backward. But basically the message is love yourself as you are and don't trash on others who are not like yourself. Just because people think thin women are pretty does not mean that they cannot also find medium sized or large women beautiful as well. Thankfully beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages. :)”
Becca Bankston on Aug 21, 2012 at 22:50:49
“Most models are not underweight. They are genetic mutants with very long bones which are very small. Sort of the human equivalent to a greyhound or whippet. Most people's bones are not like that and they cannot achieve that look even with starving themselves. e.g. an emaciated bulldog would still look chunky because of its thick bones. Model women are just born that way. My ex boyfriend's sister is a model and their whole family has those long tiny bones. He is 6ft tall and his wrist bones are smaller than mine and I am small boned too 5'9" 125lbs, but not even as small boned as he 6" 150lbs. Not everyone is anorexic who is a model. The women who are anorexic have a little bit larger bones and are trying to compete with those who have micro bones. My ex always said they were genetic mutants/anomalies and I think he's right.
Regular people should not try to compete. Its pointless. Like a Labrador trying to look like a Greyhound. Pointless.”
Becca Bankston on Aug 21, 2012 at 22:48:11
“You should also be aware how the whole skinny model thing got started.
In the old days, it was only men who were buyers at clothing mfrs. The mfrs would trot out their models modeling the clothes. They used regular sized attractive women. The men buyers would spend more of their energy looking at the women's bodies than they would the clothes, so the clothing mfrs got in their heads that if they could find women who were shaped like coathangers it would be better to show off their clothes so the men buyers would not get distracted on a sexual level (because most men like women with a little flesh on their bones), so the clothing buyers started hiring excessively thin women who were fairly straight shaped with little curves (its also easier to sew garments for a straight board shape than a round ball shape). Anyway, it was all about being pragmatic.
Famous guys started dating models because in their circles that is who they saw a lot and the models, with their flexible schedules have more time to date the famous guys unlike high powered career women who might have less time on their hands. So basically all guys date who they run into in their day to day lives, basically "the girl next door" and for famous guys, the girl next door is often a model. And those models happen to be thin because the clothing industry needed humans who resembled coat hangers.”
Becca Bankston on Aug 21, 2012 at 22:46:39
“So chill out and accept yourself how you are. If you truly did, you wouldn't feel the need to rag on people who are legitimately genetically thin.”
Dec 29, 2011 at 12:36:16
“I have an idea, if you're writing an article on how to make a healthier salad, why not give examples of what to do rather than what NOT to do. First, dressings can be high in calories and fat, but it doesn't negate the value of the vegetables in the salad. If the only way you'll eat broccoli, cabbage, radicchio and cauliflower is with a little blue cheese dressing, go for it; the benefits of cruciferous vegetables are so huge.
Here's my list:
*Add more colorful and cruciferous vegetables
*Limit the amount of dressing you use, but choose the one you like so you don't need to use a lot
*Have some type of lean protein with your salad because it helps keep you full longer (yes, eggs are fine, the whole "avoid eggs" is old thinking)
*Have some type of fat with your salad, just not tons (fried chicken is just chicken with a little breading and oil)
*Add fatty fish occasionally
*Be sure you have some high fiber or whole grain carbs to provide energy (they aren't bad; the leanest, healthiest people get about 50-60% of their calories from carbohydrates) such as beans, fruit, whole grain bread, pita or tortilla or grains such as corn, brown rice or bulgur.
*Be aware of "sneaky calories" from marinated or pickled vegetables
*Add more colorful and cruciferous vegetables (did I mention that already?) and then add some more.
Be wary of nutrition advice given by someone uncredentialed.”
Dec 15, 2011 at 11:05:41
“That is a spectacularly bad interpretation of the USDA dinner plate. Corn is not a vegetable, it is a grain and the "small side of dairy" is about three times more than it should be. Oh, and it's just horribly unappealing.”
StrawHat on Dec 17, 2011 at 01:02:05
“If you look closely, I believe that's some of the silicone fake food that dietitians use when teaching portion control to diabetics and other people with health issues.
A nicely prepared plate with real food would be a better way to sell the idea, for sure!!!
You're 100% correct about the corn -- the bread should be a nice whole grain roll and the corn should be greens or broccoli or something low glycemic and rich in phytochemicals.”