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Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

Commented May 30, 2012 at 18:26:54 in Women

“You make a good point how Euro men are raised compared to the US. I dont think American men are taught to be sensual. I have to admit that I had a lot of macho bull to get over that I was taught as a kid. Then in the late 60's and 70's with the women's lib movement wanting men to be more sensitive and express our emotions, well I got carried away with that too just to please a potential mate. It was a mighty confusing time. Woman actually want a healthy mixture of both it seems. I have read Kama Sutra and always wanted to find a partner who wanted to explore our sexuality/sensuality that Kama Sutra teaches but alas. Thanks for the input!”
Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

Commented May 22, 2012 at 16:03:15 in Women

“Just another thought. have you ever noticed how most love songs written by men are about a broken heart from their gal leaving them for another and the women write about there cheatin men and how pissed they are. It sell songs don't it!”
Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

Commented May 22, 2012 at 15:59:47 in Women

“Define sensuality. If I have to compare myself to Euro men or men in the media then I'm doomed to fail. It's interesting to me that the first comments I get are "It's you that's the problem". If the only women I found attractive were of the type portrayed in the media, I would have had awful relationships. If I defined what a sexy women is by what the media portrays, I would never have had any relationships. Not because of who I am or what I lack but because those types of women are shallow and are gold diggers. Is sensuality in men and woman defined by looks, clothes, income or is it by character, how you treat others, your belief in yourself. Help me out here, I'm trying to learn!”

therocster on May 30, 2012 at 18:26:54

“You make a good point how Euro men are raised compared to the US. I dont think American men are taught to be sensual. I have to admit that I had a lot of macho bull to get over that I was taught as a kid. Then in the late 60's and 70's with the women's lib movement wanting men to be more sensitive and express our emotions, well I got carried away with that too just to please a potential mate. It was a mighty confusing time. Woman actually want a healthy mixture of both it seems. I have read Kama Sutra and always wanted to find a partner who wanted to explore our sexuality/sensuality that Kama Sutra teaches but alas. Thanks for the input!”

Shenanigans Padunkadunk on May 28, 2012 at 15:20:04

“Also, F#k Hollywood & the Media and the silly/shallow conventional stereotypes they insist we all adhere to. Fortunately there is some sort of change happening in that department...perhaps it's subtle, but it IS happening. We can't live on Paris Hilton, Tatum Channing & Angelina Jolie for the long haul. Too many "Real People" out there. Watch "girls" on HBO...that show is pretty revolutionary for the media, but not for the rest of us. I'm almost 50 & that show speaks my life in the 80's & 90's at their age, to the T...somethings never change, but now, 20 years later, it's becoming mainstream.BTW, I'm married to a younger man and things are great.”

Shenanigans Padunkadunk on May 28, 2012 at 15:15:01

“hi the rocster, I believe every person actually has an inner compass that is often not acknowledged rendering many people "lacking" in skills that are really inherent in us all and making some too cerebral and caught up in "conventional" ways...I know that is a kind of a broad statement, but..in answer to your question, "yes" it IS about "character, how you treat others, your belief in yourself" enhance. Meaning, 1st and foremost a strong sense of self confidence with a little bit of arrogance can go a long way with men. really, I'd say reading the kamasutra & tantric lovemaking can teach a man tons about sexual/sensual pleasure, if it's not inherent in his character and culture. Many Europeans are raised with sensuality in their culture, this is why it's so appealing. The connection they have to food, land, sea & their mothers (for good or bad) in particular is part of that.”

mrportman on May 25, 2012 at 01:52:24

“Don't worry - it's not just you, we're all messed up!”
Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

Commented May 22, 2012 at 15:45:46 in Women

“Of course Iv'e questioned whether it's me or not in the bed. I already stated that. It's could very well be that I'm somehow attracted to women who are the type who like to be done to instead of it being an actual participant during sex. I can only go by my experiences which are not enough to paint the whole female sex as one type. A lot of women my age have talked about how they were raised that to be proactive in bed meant they were "Bad Girls" to put it mildly. So there are other factors at play I admit. Still, it always comes back to "It's the mans fault" or it's my fault. I just would like to see women take some responsibility in these issues.”

Candid Centrist on May 31, 2012 at 21:27:06

“"It's could very well be that I'm somehow attracted to women who are the type who like to be done to instead of it being an actual participant during sex."

Solution: blind date.”

WyrmGurl on May 22, 2012 at 16:58:14

“I am 53. A lot of women my age see sex as a chore, are inhibited, and become skilled at sex, and use those skills during the entire "courtship", then close down shop once financial security is assured. And a great many men my age see women as there for their convenience, or as incapable of enjoying sex, or as being "too demanding" because they frequently require more time to achieve full arousal and climax in even purely sexual encounters...and that's a chore. And there are men who make love passionately, romance a woman in a whirlwind, treat her like a queen...then marry her and inform her in every way possible that their duty as a "lover and friend" is over, and that she has been relegated to "wife and mother" status...during which no more effort will be made on his part. It can go both ways.
I am not trying to be unkind at all, but I didn't just mean that you are attracted to/attract a certain kind of women. I also meant that your behavior may be influencing the women you date to not want to be an "active participant". Not just your actions in bed, either. I let two husbands abuse me. I blamed it all on myself. I was being a "Superior Wife". It doesn't mean what you think it might mean, as in condescending or belittling. It's self-destructive as hell. I truly hope you find someone wonderful.”
Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

Commented May 22, 2012 at 15:37:13 in Women

“Thanks for your comment. It's also true how the media portrays men as sex crazed and indifferent to a woman's needs. Most of the men I know love to to talk, cuddle, are romantic, etc. but lord don't show that side of yourself or you are a wimp. Lets not forget that we have to look like Adonis as well.”

DianaLynn1967 on Jun 9, 2012 at 02:41:15

“Yeah, men get plenty of excrement slung at them that they do not deserve. I don't like the current manifestation of "The Men's Movement," since it often seems to be based on sticking it to women and bringing things back to the way they were in the bad old days, but I certainly think that men should feel free to stand up for themselves and reject the double-standards that make their lives hell. And I think that women should be just as concerned for the well-being of men as we expect men to be for our well-being.”

WyrmGurl on May 22, 2012 at 19:37:10

“Sorry, wrong on the Adonis bit, and the "don't show that side of yourself...". My husband le's me lie with my head on his leg while we watch TV. We cuddle. We talk. He is very romantic (I got a romantic trip to New Orleans, my favorite spot in all of the world...and I do not drink), and likes romantic movies a lot more than I do (I vastly prefer films in which things explode, or there is a haunting or something inexplicable, or truly eerie or bizarre..and I loathe romances and rom-coms). He is gentle, and cries when we lose one of our cats. I detest macho, roided out morons. My husband is also all man, but he not an "Adonis", whatever that means (a lot of male models are gay...and they certainly do typify the whole Adonis look...but are no use to us highly sexual females). He is a medium height, balding, broad shouldered man who wears glasses and speaks softly. He is no wimp. Stop using stereotyping to make excuses for why you have problems. Intelligent women don't read Cosmo or pathetic romance novels, watch movies featuring perfectly turned out actors du jour, or listen to whiny love songs to help define their ideas of what makes a good man.”
Will Smith Slaps Journalist Who Tries To Kiss Him (VIDEO)

Will Smith Slaps Journalist Who Tries To Kiss Him (VIDEO)

Commented May 21, 2012 at 18:34:35 in Celebrity

“Good for Will! Some people just don't know how to keep their odd behavior to themselves. The guy was obviously looking to cause a stir!”

sanfran55 on May 24, 2012 at 15:21:56

“I agree.”
Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

Sex Life Satisfaction: FITNESS Magazine & Yahoo! Shine Survey Looks At Sexual Satisfaction Amongst Americans

Commented May 21, 2012 at 18:27:47 in Women

“I have yet to meet a woman who enjoys being an active participant during sex. Your first reaction is that it must be my fault. But after years of reading articles like this and about romance and doing the activities that were suggested, I have found that woman are not as romantic as portrayed in movies, magazines, TV, and in love songs. Nor are they as sexual as portrayed in these articles. I hate being jaded but it truly seems that money is their only aphrodesiac. Romance and sex have nothing to do with what women want from a man and in a relationship. What a pity!”

corwian on Jul 1, 2012 at 18:52:53

“Geez, I honestly have not read this from a man that was not being facetious. Sounds to me as if you have had bad experiences with women. Try dating and older woman, we know what we like and and do aim to please as well.”

Joanne Pang on Jun 10, 2012 at 22:13:08

“Um, you have NOT met the right woman. Keep lookin, we are among you! =)”

pitlover51 on Jun 9, 2012 at 09:38:10

“bingo, couldnt agree more”

uche34 on Jun 8, 2012 at 06:33:08

“Your post makes sense. Women are not as involved in sex as they are portrayed to be. They are usually receivers. They would rather receive than give and when you are not initiating it, they rarely make a move. I find it hard to believe these so called studies that say 50% of women indicated that they wanted more sex. Well, then, where are these women from? The ones that I know are all the same. Their husbands and boyfriends are perpetually complaining about how they never initiate things and are difficult to get into bed.”

Wendylcs on May 22, 2012 at 11:09:25

“... I disagree about the money part. I could be happy living poor.
but you are mostly right about sex. movies, magazines, Tv, love songs, even novels,
all the time portray women as wild about sex. which I've decided is just fantasy on the part of the (male) authors. in turn, this pressures women to feel like they aren't normal if they aren't wild about sex, so they fake it... at first. after a long enough time, they give up on faking it. of course there are exceptions to this, but I believe this is generally the case.”

Shenanigans Padunkadunk on May 22, 2012 at 09:29:54

“definitely it's you honey..sorry..."sensual" is something one has or does not have. It's not just about "sexy"...For most women there has to be a strong level of "sensuality" that many men lack. More often it's euro men who have it. If you really want it and you already have the $$, I suggest going to explore how to get it. Watch some films like "kama sutra" and then go explore the world...”

WyrmGurl on May 22, 2012 at 07:26:40

“Statistically true, about the money. But again, it's very dangerous to make generalizations. My husband is making an extremely good salary at work. Better than ever. However, last year his workplace was a disaster of epic proportions, and he was depressed and miserable. He's highly qualified, and his abilities and background are very much in demand in our region...but his company pays almost ridiculously well.
I told him to quit. Our sex life was suffering, he was unhappy, he was feeling terrible. I don't give a damn if we had to tighten up...we live quite modestly anyway, by choice. No $6000 vacations, $60,000 vehicles, or fancy toys. He decided to give it a year.
We were thinking about our son, and college, not the high life. I loved my husband when he was poor, and the sex was awesome. I would love him if he took another job and a pay cut and I would be happy if he was happy...and the sex was awesome. He got a new team manager, and better co-workers, and the higher-ups started behaving like intelligent beings...so he stayed...but that was HIS choice. We don't live any differently than we did before...and he's happy...and that's why the sex is awesome.
You know, when every woman you've met isn't romantic, or doesn't actively participate in sex with you...maybe it's not them...maybe it's you. Just a thought.”

Nelly Flacka Flame on May 21, 2012 at 23:26:54

“I disagree with everything you just said except for the money part... I do agree with that, partially. Most women won't admit it, but if they have to choose between a man who can turn them on and give them amazing sex, and make them laugh, etc etc etc, or a man who can support them and buy them anything and everything they want, they will usually take the guy with the money. It's a sad story, but a true one. It really sucks, because enjoying someone's company, having some good laughs, and having amazing sex on a regular basis are 3 of the most important things when it comes to being happy in your relationship. Money does not, can not, and will not ever replace those things.”