“"Unless, of course, you're one of the mannnnny people who rely on schools giving their kids b'fast and lunch - dinner too if it was available."
Those who'd rely on that are not going to be looking at adopting in the first place - so that discredits your argument.
Your fiscal snobbery is over the top! Maybe you pay for cars, colleges, sickness etc, all at once in cash, while 'mannnnnny' other supposedly irresponsible Americans like me depend on loans for such trivial costs.
And white its great that you defend the adoption of older kids, your self-righteousness is unbearable. Not everyone is ready for the drama - again you speak out of sheer ignorance - that is certain, for I volunteer at a juvenile incarceration facility and I sure am not adopting one of those kids (if you can even call them that)
Even if gestated kids may have problems, I'd like to know any parents who bake the oven knowing and wanting a troubled kid to pop out.”
Bluebird88 on Jul 20, 2011 at 14:49:34
“Incredibly sad that you write off adoption of older children entirely based on your experiences with those whom you no longer consider even human. I hope that someone who might have been considering throwing a life line to a foster kid isn't persuaded not to do so by your over-the-top cynicism.”
“I was thinking of the same thing when I read this! Its how frustration and helplessness play out. I want to to that to Fialin and Bogeymann and Can'tor and the Pizza guy (what's his face) and Coulter - the list goes on and on”
“Nice try putting the blame of Betty Friedan and sundry. The truth is women's personal safety and freedoms are interspersed to financial freedom. There are enough studies that have proven that in eastern AND western cultures. What you are suggesting is quite an offensive and chauvinist attack on women's bodies and personal choices.”
“the adoption cost for us was upwards of $25 grand. We even gave in to the process after year and a half of excruciating delay. Finally we scrapped it.
And "sooo" many older kids have "sooo" many problems. You are obviously not aware of complex issues with adopting grown up kids, so your offhand comment forces me to assume that you have not been a part of an adoption process. Even if we entertain your idea for a moment: a 30 something, never-been-parent before should be dealing with grown up kids all of a sudden?
Also according to you, if someone doesn't have a startup capital of 15-20K in adopting, they shouldn't bother since they would not afford being parents?”
Bluebird88 on Jul 19, 2011 at 22:10:06
“Yes I'm suggesting she could come up with even $20k if it was really important for her. That's in the ballpark of a car or a down payment on a house. Expenses that every adult realizes must be dealt with in order to get what they want. An adopted child should be no different. And if that child is sick expenses skyrocket. That's the reality of being a parent. The $20k up front is nothing compared to the eventual costs of raising that child and paying for college/wedding. Unless, of course, you're one of the mannnnny people who rely on schools giving their kids b'fast and lunch - dinner too if it was available. If so, then no, you won't agree with me that fiscal responsibility is part of successful parenting.
And my remark about fostering an older child was anything but flippant. If you have love to give, there's a kid who needs it. Gestating your own is no guarantee you'll have no problems.”
“Started the blame already did you? And you got a fancy header for your rhetoric too? You liars are the biggest traitors to the country! As far a laziness and incompetency goes, look in your own back yard - Bush holds the world record. Turn off Fox and get your lazy brain to think for its own for a change,”
“Agree with you. On a side note there was a research on how until someone figures out a garment that imitates natural movement of breasts - an 8 pattern - the control of merely the up-and-down bobbing is actually harmful. I believe that because every constricting garment causes tiny capillaries to break at a faster rate than can be mended by the skin around, I'd say go b-less when you can.”
“Like many here I cannot go out without a boob-corset either. And I hate those passionately. Between PMS and falling straps, I'll take the former at most times: at least I know why I'm irritated.
But for what it's worth, Hallie's advice does work for the heavy lifters too - don't sleep in one and definitely avoid the racerback for workouts. The tighter it is the quicker you'll sag. Unwired and unpadded is the way to go sista!”
“How do T-pubs make peace with themselves? They regurgitate the same devious agenda by changing words. They lie till they are blue in the face, and until they start believing their own fabrications.
Their plan, in the absence of a real policy proposal : demonize what they disagree with, and antagonize everyone who does not agree with them 100%
They repeat 'tax cuts' like a trained parrot. But they drop 'for the rich' part out of their public messages. In that one phrase, people should be able to surmise the subverted ideologies of these gangsters. How do they sleep at night?!
Such a sad state for such a great nation. Like me, if you ever needed a reason, let the debt negotiations open your eyes. Never ever EVER vote republican.
When Cantor had the opportunity, he stomped out. So why is a clown who obviously cannot negotiate, at the forefront of negotiations. Isn't he a self-proclaimed king of 'no'?”
“Now that you have displayed your unabridged compassion, put a sock in it.”
zorkas on Jul 14, 2011 at 16:32:37
“I do know that I am compassioate enough not to sell my children to pimps and sweatshops . But I would bet you take vacations there and love buying cheap made clothes with designer names ? So I suggest you put that sock where the sun dont shine .”