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Sophia A. Nelson
Sophia is both an award winning journalist and author. She contributes regularly to The Daily Beast/Women In the World, The Washington Post-Opinion, New York Times,, Essence Magazine, and MSNBC. She is a recognized TV Personality, Columnist & Corporate Leadership Trainer. Nelson is also a former White House Correspondent & columnist for JET Magazine. She is author of the award winning 2011 non-fiction book, "Black Woman Redefined: Dispelling Myths and Discovering Fulfillment in the Age of Michelle Obama." Her 2nd book "The Woman Code: 20 Powerful Keys to Unlock Your Life." is in stores and is a best-seller on several national lists.

Entries by Sophia A. Nelson

You Must Make Peace With Your Past

(0) Comments | Posted January 5, 2015 | 10:30 AM

So, it's a new year -- 365 days are now behind us, and we all want to have a better, more prosperous 2015. Yet for all of the RESOLUTIONS people will make, very few of us will actually keep them, change, grow, and shift into a healthier way of living,...

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It's Time to Stop Cooperating With Those Who Mistreat You

(6) Comments | Posted November 21, 2014 | 4:03 PM

Do you know why the people who do the wrong things in our lives, and bring the wrong things into our lives often get away with it?

It's because we teach them how to treat us. We allow them to silence us. To control us. And to even abuse...

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5 Things Maya Angelou Taught Us About the Power Of Living

(0) Comments | Posted May 30, 2014 | 4:28 PM

Someone like Dr. Maya Angelou only graces the earth every 100 years or so. We encounter these "soul fireflies" so rarely, but when they show up, we instantly recognize them for the light that they bring.

They light up our world with their own brilliant light. They touch us and...
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Why Don't We Talk Anymore?

(0) Comments | Posted April 9, 2014 | 2:46 PM

"It's so funny how we don't talk anymore,
It's so funny why we don't talk anymore." -- Cliff Richard, We Don't Talk Anymore

Something has gone wrong. Very wrong. And we have to fix it.

We simply do not talk anymore. We text. We email. We post on Facebook....

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The 5 Things Black Women Must Do in 2014 to Live Happier, Healthier, Healed Lives

(15) Comments | Posted December 27, 2013 | 10:55 AM

The funny thing about stereotypes is that they often have some measure of truth to them. As black women in America, no group has been more stereotyped, or misunderstood, or more devalued than us. As we begin the countdown on the year that was 2013, it is time for us...

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Time to Put the 'Sister' Back in 'Sisterhood'

(0) Comments | Posted December 11, 2013 | 11:05 AM

"Women who understand how powerful they are do not give into envy over meaningless things, instead they fight to maintain the beautiful bond of the sisterhood. These are the real women who know that we need each other's love and support to survive in this world. Love is the essence...

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Sex, Lies and Video Tapes: Is It Time for the Black Church to Change?

(59) Comments | Posted November 4, 2013 | 11:00 AM

As Fix My Life OWN Reality TV Star & Life Coach Iyanla Vanzant likes to say, "You must call a thing a thing" in order to get healed from that thing.

For years we have rightly dissected, discussed, and demanded change within the Catholic Church relative to the cover-up...

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America, It's Time for a NEW Dream

(2) Comments | Posted August 28, 2013 | 10:28 AM

"Hold fast to dreams. For if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly." Langston Hughes

August 28, 1993 I had the honor to attend the 30th anniversary March on Washington. I was a law student of 25 years of age. I was not yet born when Dr....

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'Let It Go... '

(0) Comments | Posted August 21, 2013 | 8:28 AM

Of all the trite things people like to say that drive me nuts, nothing annoys me more than when people know you are hurt, have suffered a loss, betrayal or broken heart and they look at you, make a stern face (or use their stern voice on the phone) and...

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It's Time for a 'Soul Detox'

(2) Comments | Posted August 7, 2013 | 5:05 PM

What's eating you? What's chipping away at your soul each day?

What do you think about when you actually get quiet enough to think?

What is holding you back from greatness? From having peace in your life? From love? From the desires of your heart?

It's simple really: soul pollutants....

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'There Is a Woman Code': What It Is and Why It Matters!

(1) Comments | Posted July 26, 2013 | 12:52 PM

This post is hard for me to write as a woman, because to be candid I am still in shock.

If you heard the audio tape of actress Rae Dawn Chong's open, hostile and notorious radio rant against Oprah last week (AUDIO link here) then you are...

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How Race and Racial Stereotypes Swayed the Zimmerman Trial Jury

(13) Comments | Posted July 20, 2013 | 11:32 AM

The verdict is in. And it is disturbing. We can argue all day about whether or not the prosecution made its case, or whether the defense distorted the facts. But for me the issue is the fact that race and racial stereotyping is at the very core of this case....

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How Are You Teaching People to Treat You? 5 Steps to Help You Get It Right

(11) Comments | Posted June 19, 2013 | 11:58 AM

We've all heard the famous Maya Angelou quote, "Believe people the first time that they show you who they are." It is probably one of the most profound pieces of wisdom ever to be uttered by a human being on how we should pay attention to what people tell us...

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Should My Friend's Enemies Be My Enemies, Too?

(4) Comments | Posted May 23, 2013 | 12:14 PM

I came across a great quote recently that I had not seen in years, and it really challenged me and my core belief system as a person of faith. The ancient proverb reads, "The friend of my enemy, is my enemy." Or the inverse, "The enemy of my enemy, is...

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You Gotta Face It to Fix It

(0) Comments | Posted May 17, 2013 | 2:12 PM

"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced." -- James Baldwin

Many of us like to live in what I call the 51st state: the state of denial. We have all been there, done that. It's what we do as humans...

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Talk It Out Before You Walk Out

(3) Comments | Posted April 12, 2013 | 12:33 PM

Of all the things we do as human beings that I think is among the most damaging, it's that we are much too quick to walk out on, away from, or over some of the best people that life sends our way in a moment's anger or offense.


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How to Handle Your Haters

(3) Comments | Posted March 27, 2013 | 3:48 PM

It seems like there is a lot of "hateration" in the air these days. All of us seem to be consumed by those pesky folks known as our "haters." This is an important topic to address because "hate" in any form is toxic to our mind, body, and souls.


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Womanhood Lessons Learned from Oprah & Iyanla's Public "Sister" Break-Up to Make-Up

(15) Comments | Posted September 17, 2012 | 12:10 PM

Each Sunday I watch Oprah's Super Soul Sunday faithfully. If I am traveling I DVR each episode. It is one of the small indulgences I allow myself as a woman, that truly has had an impact on my growth and well being as a person.

But nothing has riveted...

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Introducing the Paul Ryan I Know

(28) Comments | Posted August 29, 2012 | 6:18 PM

Tonight is a big night for Congressman Paul Ryan. No doubt the biggest night of his life.

As Ryan takes the podium tonight, I wanted to share with the black community in particular the Paul Ryan I know. I met Paul in the mid 1990s in the offices of Empower...

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Where Do Broken Hearts Go: Whitney Has Found Her Way Home

(24) Comments | Posted February 12, 2012 | 11:55 PM

"Where do broken hearts go, can they find their way home, back to the open arms of a love that's waiting there. And if somebody loves you-won't they always love you. . ."

I am shocked. I am saddened. I was crying as I penned this column in the wee...

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