Friends are an integral part of your life, but every friend you have must live life at their own pace. When the time comes and they must leave you, there is no need to grieve over there parting from your life. It is the very essence of life that it should be so. But it hurts nonetheless and we grieve nonetheless, but we hold them in our hearts forever. Always cherish the joy, laughter, memories and love that they have brought in your lives. Always remember them with a warm smile for what they have given you.
-- A Beautiful Mind
How long has it been since you last had dinner with a friend? When was the last time you put all work aside and went out with some loved ones for a couple of drinks and a laugh?
How many times have you had to apologise to a family member for deciding your work, your dreams, were more important than spending time with them?
I also know that feeling.
I was recently privileged to some much needed free time from the day-to-day rigors of running a successful business, so decided to spend this pot of gold on something worthy and in desperate need of attention: Cleaning my office.
In the process of clearing out some old clutter from under my desk I came across an old, dusty shoebox under a pile of paper that I did not recognise. As everything under the desk so far turned out to be worthless garbage I assumed this must also be the case with the shoebox as well, and went to throw it away. Right before I did the deed I decided to be sure I wasn't throwing away a small box of treasure, I used to hide money in boxes when I was younger for safekeeping, and emptied the contents onto the floor.
To my utter surprise the box was filled with treasure, and with a heart heavy with guilt I picked up long lost pictures of my deceased mother and father.
Like a toy boat in a tidal wave of raw emotion I was picked up and submerged, a thousand questions bombarding me from all directions; How did those get there, how long have they been there, how could you have left those there for so long, left to decay in a pile of rubbish? As these questions were racing through my mind an even greater realization came to the forefront; When was the last time you called your sisters?
I had not spoken to any of my family members for over a year.
After getting myself together I sat down, looked at a calendar and remembered the birthdays missed, the holiday greeting cards not sent out, the missed phone calls from my nearest and dearest asking me how I was and to call them when I next get a chance. In my quest for success and glory I willingly became blinded to one of the few things that truly matter the most and that I already had, a family. Granted, we don't always get along and we have our problems like anyone else, but I'm hard pressed to remember a time in my life when my money gave me a hug when I was down.
So what does this have to do with the successful entrepreneurship, you might ask? Nothing, directly. However, out of all of the people I have met that most would classify as financially wealthy, the ones with longevity, who truly appreciate life and what they have achieved are the ones who have someone to share it all with.
As the winter months and corresponding holiday seasons approach, it is important to remember the things right under your nose that are most important to you. And don't be the little person who hides behind excuses. If you haven't spoken to that someone in a few years and your feeling guilty, all you have to do is PICK UP THE PHONE! Worried about an argument that you've had and still hasn't fizzled out yet? SO WHAT, BE A BETTER PERSON AND TAKE THAT FIRST STEP for yourself and your loved one as he/she might be here today but might not be here tomorrow. And if that special someone has already passed away, maybe it's time you opened up your own little box of treasure and remembered the good times and the loved shared. After all, would anyone who really loved you want you to live a life of constant heartache and pain, or a life of happiness and remembrance?
What are some of your own personal treasures? Is there someone in your life that you haven't spoken to be know you should? Feel free to share.