Dating Advice: Dare To Be A Beginner Again

So you are single and have lots of time on your hands to do what you want to do. Take my advice -- don't waste it. What are the things that you have always wanted to do but either haven't had the time to do or have even been scared to do? This is the time to do those things, before you get into another relationship and have less time for yourself again. Write down a list of activities and then choose one and dare to be a beginner again, whether it's learning to swim, improving your cooking, learning to ride a horse, taking surfing lessons or a design course. Go and do it.

In between each of my relationships I would fit in so many different activities and hobbies, and then, when I was in a serious relationship and had less time, I would cut back, because I would spend more time with my boyfriend at the time. But the great thing about being so busy is that I never wasted any time and knew that all these classes and hobbies not only helped me to meet lots of new people but also made me a more interesting and diverse person.

Here is a list of a few of the things that I did in between my relationships: I trained to become a practitioner of feng shui, a professional astrologer and a yoga teacher. I learned to read tarot cards and do hand analysis. (I'm not very good at the latter!) I took a course in directing and wrote two stage plays. Then I trained as a hypnotist, and for years I studied neurolinguistic programming. I could actually go on, as the list is quite extensive, but you get the idea. Carpe diem!

Time is too precious to waste, and adding to your abilities and interests makes you a much more fascinating person. It shows how you are passionate about life and what it has to offer and that you are hungry to learn and to better yourself. Even if the other person doesn't have the same hobbies or interests as you, your desire to delve into new experiences shows that you have an interesting, multidimensional personality.

So choose something that you have always wanted to do and go for it!

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Comments

[Online Dating]

06:39 PM on 12/07/2011

Learning fun & useful things can also help you discover your own self. And the more you discover your self, the better you will be at identifying the right life partner. You may even meet him or her in the new activity that you've taken up - starting a relationship with a shared interest can give it a better chance of success.

Arjun Srinivasan
www.eventsndates.com

[Weathermaker]

01:58 PM on 12/07/2011

"Here is a list of a few of the things that I did in between my relationships: I trained to become a practitioner of feng shui, a professional astrologer and a yoga teacher. I learned to read tarot cards and do hand analysis. (I'm not very good at the latter!) I took a course in directing and wrote two stage plays. Then I trained as a hypnotist, and for years I studied neurolinguistic programming. I could actually go on, as the list is quite extensive, but you get the idea."

Wow... what a strange list....

[nix28]

12:14 PM on 12/07/2011

I'm not sure that I agree with merely finding activities to fill the gap between boyfriends. If a person decides to take up a hobby, s/he should do so because s/he truly wants to engage in that activity, not to fill a void. That's not healthy.

[Sophie Keller]

03:25 PM on 12/07/2011

Thank you for your post, I wasn't implying that you fill in a void, just that when you are single you have more free time to do interesting activities.

[she says stroke her ego]

08:58 PM on 12/08/2011

better to take up a hobbie to fill a void than alcohol..ice cream....or a pills...just saying. ;)