Soren Gordhamer works with individuals and groups on ways to live with less stress and more effectiveness in our technology-rich lives. He has been featured in various media, including GQ Magazine and Newsweek.com, and has taught classes on stress reduction to such diverse populations as youth in New York City juvenile halls, trauma workers in Rwanda, and to staff at Google. A former project director for Richard Gere's public charity, Healing the Divide, he organized the "Healing through Great Difficulty Conference" with His Holiness the Dalai Lama.

Soren’s latest book is Wisdom 2.0: Ancient Secrets for the Creative and Constantly Connected (HarperOne, 2009), which applies Zen and mindfulness-based teachings to our modern, networked lives. His website is at www.sorengordhamer.com.

Blog Entries by Soren Gordhamer

Video Games And Children -- What's The Right Amount?

Posted December 8, 2009 | 02:32 PM (EST)


"Dad, I really want a PSP," my seven-year-old son Navarre recently said to me.

He does not know too much about the hand-held gaming console from Playstation, only that one of his friends has one and he watched his friend play it and thought it was really cool. Last...

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When Our Cell Phone Owns Us

4 Comments | Posted December 1, 2009 | 02:41 PM (EST)


I enjoy my gadgets as much as the next person. My cell phone is almost always with me, and I appreciate the direct and instant communication it provides. However, I have increasingly noticed how often these days people let them interrupt face-to-face communication. I cannot help but wonder sometimes, "Do...

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The Fire Of Thanksgiving

3 Comments | Posted November 25, 2009 | 06:23 PM (EST)


Thanksgiving is one of those few times in a year when families, even ones with which there is discord, come together. For some this is a joyous event, for others it is greatly loathed.

Ram Dass used to say that if you ever thought you were enlightened, go spend...

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Mindfulness With Email: 4 Steps

2 Comments | Posted October 22, 2009 | 04:07 PM (EST)


Email is one of the central means of communication in our increasingly connected world, but as helpful as it can be, we can become a slave to it. Living increasingly distracted and rushed lives as we constantly check for new messages, email may impact our stress levels and productiveness.

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You (Yes, You) Have Just Won The Nobel Peace Prize

Posted October 9, 2009 | 09:10 PM (EST)


The phone rings. It's 4:30 in the morning. You roll over in your bed and answer it, still half asleep. It's a woman who says she is from the Nobel Peace Prize committee. She's calling from Norway to inform you that you have been chosen to receive this distinguished honor....

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Why Seeking To Be Perfect Never Works

4 Comments | Posted October 9, 2009 | 12:50 PM (EST)


"We need not seek to be perfect, but instead find that within us that is perfection." -- Stephen Levine

I see it all over the Internet. All the promises of perfection: buy this shirt to have the perfect look, do this exercise to have the perfect body, consume this...

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How To Be a Jerk on Twitter (and Gain 1,278,457.5 Followers)

4 Comments | Posted October 6, 2009 | 06:21 PM (EST)


It is not easy to be a jerk on Twitter, but with the right strategy, approach, and perseverance, it is possible. Don't believe the crap out there from people like Kevin Rose on how to gain Twitter followers. I mean, he has what, like 1,169,154 followers. Who the hell...

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My Interview With Zappos CEO, Tony Hsieh, On Happiness

Posted October 6, 2009 | 02:14 PM (EST)


This interview with Zappos CEO, Tony Hsieh, was conducted at the Zappos corporate headquarters in Henderson, Nevada. It was conducted some months ago, before the sale to Amazon. It is rare that a CEO of a large company talks about happiness, but Tony is clearly not the average CEO.

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Turn That Off! What To Do If Your Partner Is "Constantly" Connected

Posted October 4, 2009 | 11:38 AM (EST)


You ask a question, and he does not seem to hear it, because his attention is on his computer monitor.

You set aside quality time to spend together, but during it you notice him glance down at his phone to check his messages.

He pays attention to you for short...

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Twitter And the Dalai Lama: Can Social Media Help Create a Happier World?

Posted September 30, 2009 | 07:49 PM (EST)


I hear it quite a bit, including comments here on Huffington Post: "Twitter is useless. It is just people with big egos trying to promote themselves. The sooner it dies, the better." People argue that it is inherently opposed to a mindful, happy life.

In fact, the issue of...

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The 5 Keys to Twitter's Success

3 Comments | Posted September 24, 2009 | 02:42 PM (EST)


Twitter continues to thrive, increasing users monthly, and is up 422% in the past twelve months. As such it is impacting many areas of life, from where we get our news to how we do business.

It is a site, however, that has taken time for people to...

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Is it Taking Over? Study: People Tweeting from Cars and Toilets

1 Comments | Posted September 23, 2009 | 05:38 PM (EST)


I use and greatly enjoy the social network, Twitter. It is a very simple and direct way to stay in touch with people and to share and find good content. There is a place for it in many people's lives, but it is somewhat concerning when it takes over our...

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Internet Addiction: How Big Is It?

7 Comments | Posted August 24, 2009 | 03:54 PM (EST)


Internet addiction is upon us... how big is the problem?


Some people are suggesting it is as high as 10% of online users.


News has recently hit the blogosphere of the first internet addiction residential treatment center opening in Washington to...

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Why It May No Longer Help to Be a Liberal

18 Comments | Posted August 17, 2009 | 01:58 PM (EST)


While working last night on another blog post for the social media site, Mashable, I was perusing through past tweets of Evan Williams, Co-founder and CEO of Twitter, and I came across this one in response to a Twitter user with the username "brokedad."

Ev wrote:

@brokedad...

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Keeping Twitter Relevant: The Art of Unfollowing

2 Comments | Posted August 8, 2009 | 06:42 PM (EST)


There is an old story about a construction worker named Bob, who regularly brought his lunch to work. However, everyday he complained profusely about the contents of his lunch box.

"A turkey sandwich again," he remarked one day, "I hate turkey sandwiches!"

After hearing his daily complaints, one of his...

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Can You Be Conscious in a Coporation? A Yogi at Google Says Yes

1 Comments | Posted July 30, 2009 | 02:07 PM (EST)


"We are moving so fast, it is harder to know who we are. We're living great lives, but we're never there for them. . . . We have no time to linger or savor. We are starving for that."
-- Jon Kabat-Zinn

As the pace of our lives...

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The Art of Mindful Tweeting . . .

Posted July 28, 2009 | 02:41 PM (EST)


I recently wrote on a piece on 5 Steps to Using Twitter and Facebook Consciously, and decided as a follow-up to explore mindful tweeting.

Considering more of us are spending an increasing amount of time on sites like Twitter, it seems prudent to ask how we can make...

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5 Steps to Using Twitter and Facebook Consciously

Posted July 24, 2009 | 03:05 PM (EST)


I have recently been spending more time on Facebook and Twitter, and have been exploring how to consciously engage with these two web phenomena. Here's what I have come up with:

1. Simplify, Simplify, Simplify

I know it can seem impolite to unfollow a user on Twitter or unfriend...

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Twitter: Revolutionizing Information or High School All Over Again?

1 Comments | Posted July 20, 2009 | 10:28 AM (EST)


Just about everyone, at least everyone who has something to sell or promote, has tried Twitter. Many people see it as a democratizing tool that will radically change how people share and receive information online. Others see it as the epitome of banal, meaningless posts and self-promotion run amok.

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If the Buddha Used Twitter . . .

6 Comments | Posted July 6, 2009 | 09:48 AM (EST)


I can't say whether the historical Buddha, the one that lived some 2,500 years ago, would use Twitter if he were alive today, but if he were alive I think he would advise the following 5 approaches to this web phenomena:

1) Don't Give a Damn About How Many Followers...

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