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Stacy Twilley

Stacy Twilley

Posted: December 31, 2010 11:06 AM

I'm not a big believer in New Year's Resolutions. So while I am (obviously) passionate about volunteering and community service, I beg you NOT to make a New Year's Resolution to "volunteer" this year. If you genuinely want to find more meaning in your life, give back, make a difference in your community or volunteer more in 2011, make this resolution instead: Resolve to be selfish, to get real and to make a promise.

Be selfish. Making a resolution to volunteer is a lot like vowing to exercise more. It's an easy resolution to make because you know you'll feel better when you do it. But carving out the time to do it regularly is really the resolution you are making. So how do you motivate yourself to workout regularly? I doubt it's because "it's the right thing to do." More likely you to drag yourself out of bed early to exercise because you know you'll be thinner, your skin will look better, you'll live longer, or your sex life will be better. Honestly, am I right? Those are the benefits that will keep you going back to the treadmill. So why not apply the same motivators that get you to the gym to get you out in your city to volunteer too? No, I'm not suggesting that volunteering will necessarily improve your sex life (well, maybe it will?), I'm merely saying it's okay to be selfish about the reasons why you are volunteering. Is it to meet other people? Does it looks good on your resume or college app? Will it bring your family closer together? Will it help you network for a job? Wanting to volunteer to help others is a noble intention, but you'll find the time to do it because of the selfish reasons you do it. So be selfish when you consider volunteer opportunities and you'll end up acting selfless.

Get real. Examine your interests honestly, get real, and own them. For example, are you slightly embarrassed that you have never missed an episode of Teen Moms? Yup. We know you watch it. So just admit it. But rather than resolve to spend less time in front of the tube watching reality shows about children having children, vow to volunteer once a month to help babysit for local teen moms so they can finish high school. Your clandestine TV pleasure will actually become useful and you'll make a big difference in the lives of others in your community.

Make a promise. Ever wonder why couples don't make marriage resolutions but make vows? Or why officials don't take resolutions of office, they take oaths? That's because resolutions are decisions and vows and oaths are promises. Promises are more active and carry more weigh. So if you really want to make a difference in your life and in the lives of others by volunteering this year, it's not enough to decide to do it. It's not enough to make a resolution. You have to promise yourself you will do it. Then make realistic attempts to keep your promise -- daily, weekly, monthly, all year. If you promise to volunteer, you'll be more likely find ways to make a difference in ways that will work for you.

To help you keep your New Year's Promise in 2011, go to iVolunteer.org. Everyday -- yes everyday -- we post new ways to make a difference -- big and small. Bookmark our National Edition so you can check in everyday, or if you live in Los Angeles or Chicago log on to our expanded city editions. Want updates that make a difference? Then subscribe and our local editors will make sure you stay in the know. Check out our Get & Give sections, our Know This weekly posts, and our Watch this collection of videos with meaning. Help others keep their promises too: spread the word and LIKE iVolunteer on Facebook and following @iVolunteer on Twitter. We promise we'll help you make a difference in 2011. Happy New Year!


 
 
 

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Donald Simon
08:15 AM on 01/02/2011
I disagree with the writer of this article to a large extent. Thwere are causes I volunteer for that do little or nothing for me but are world changers; Haiti Clinic, Common Passion and International Dark Sky Association are a few.
04:22 PM on 01/02/2011
Hi Donald,
I understand what you're saying. But I'm not suggesting that people volunteer for causes that benefit them. What I am saying, is that for many people -- especially those with full time jobs, three kids, who need to make dinner every night, help with homework, care for their aging parents, etc -- to resolve to find the time to volunteer for a cause they care about is a very difficult New Year's Resolution to keep. And Resolving to just "volunteer more" won't make it happen. So rather than set themselves up for failure, I'm suggesting that reframing the resolution will actually make it happen. Focusing on what they will personally get out of finding the time to volunteer for a cause they care about, getting real about what really interests them rather than what they think they should do, and promising (not just declaring) that they will make volunteering an important part of who they are and what they do in 2011, is a more effective way to approach it.

I think people want to volunteer because it changes the world. But I think people actually make the time to do it for many reasons. What matters is that they do it. Just my p.o.v.
10:41 PM on 01/01/2011
There are communities organizing "job banks". A person donates an hour of their skilled labor for an hour of someone elses skills. For example, you can baby-sit while someone takes a class. You have a skill that you do in return. I'm not explaining it well so someone help me out here. A time of your time for a time slot of someone elses. Everybody wins when communities help each other in crisis. The entire country is crisis.
10:40 PM on 01/01/2011
This is for those people who have suffered job loss but can type. This is for people who have compassion for the handicapped and are kind hearted.

Relay Services is a nationwide service for the deaf/mute community. They seem to be in need of a lot of help frequently. I'm not sure why this is exactly. It could be a job where people are very rude or because of ever increasing need for these services. I just don't know. If anyone else knows, please leave me a comment.

The position is called communication assistant, which vastly understates how valuable the people who help the deaf/mute communicate with the hearing people are. These assistants help people stay in touch with family, friends and doctors are very important and should be respected.

Relay Services want people who can type 60 wpm and if you know sign language then you are golden.

Google Relay Services for more info. There are many links on Google.

I spoke with Relay customer service about the 60 wpm, she said it’s FCC requirement. Every time I have dealt with Relay Services the people have been very kind. So nice people with patience should apply.