04/27/2009 05:12 am ET | Updated Nov 17, 2011

Enjoying the Breeze, and Kicking a Little Knowledge Online

My PR dude said no, my manager said yes, my lawyer worried about the legal implications, and my guy just wanted me to not get my feelings hurt. In the end it came down to this: I am so fed up with the bickering, bitching, brawling, screaming, screeching ignorance masking as intelligence on the web that is just mean and nasty, for the sole purpose of selling books, getting ratings, garnering listeners, or generating headlines, that my head hurts.

You would think that no one likes anyone anymore, no one has any friends, no one makes love, no one smiles and no one is proud of anyone other than themselves unless it benefits them. I'm a happy person right now. I got some stuff I still need to sort out and some work I want to do on myself, but all in all, I'm not hungry and I still have a place to sleep and my health is good. My parents are healthy, my 90-year-old grandmother is still alive and kicking, I have a few significant people in my life who love a respect me, and my country is on the right path with the right guy at the right time.

It's tough out there, but can a sister enjoy a sunset for goodness sake? I'm stopping to enjoy the breeze, celebrate others who have brought joy to my life, and kick a little knowledge born of my ups, downs, and sideways. It may seem trite to others but it is my intent to celebrate what is blessed, good, smart, stimulating, interesting, inspiring, fun, joyous and positive in my life, my community, our country, and in our world.

Oh stop with the violins! There are already enough stone-throwers and flame-starters on the web; this is my alternative. So no dirt-dishing, back biting, crab-in-the-barrel hatoration will take place on "Positively Star." Like it or not, I vow to elevate only those thoughts, words and deeds of my gender and my race that are examples of excellence and stand as something we can all aspire to. That's what happens when you're closer to the grave than the cradle -- you mellow and take a little time to enjoy the view.

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