Shortly after the New York Jets toppled the New England Patriots Sunday to advance to the AFC Championship Game, Raymond Larsen, in an act of celebration, hopped on a snow saucer and took off down his driveway in Staten Island.
The 46-year-old father of two veered into the street and was struck by an oncoming vehicle. Neighbors told The Staten Island Advance they heard what sounded like a car hitting a pothole before discovering Larsen lifeless and bleeding from the head. He was later pronounced dead at Staten Island University Hospital.
At 2:10 p.m the next day Deadspin, the web's top sports blog and a leader in national sports media, published a post on Larsen's death titled "Victory Sled Ends Tragically For One Happy Jets Fan."
For a site whose taste is questioned regularly, the entry lacked the snark and ridicule the site makes its bones with. When one scrolls down to the comment section, however, humanity quickly fades. Below are comments from the site. I've linked to the (largely-anonymous) users' profiles where applicable.
While Deadspin readers took potshots hoping their attempt at edgy sports humor got noticed, readers at The Staten Island Advance engaged in a volatile debate on Larsen's sobriety and intelligence. While his street was blocked off so the snow soaked with his father's blood could be removed, Larsen's son Ty logged on to defend his father.
guys...this man was my father. drunk, sober, old, or young...he was having a good time, something that he loved to do. as his son, im asking you to stop with your immature, nasty comments...if your father died, im sure it wouldnt have mattered how...it still feels the same
On Tuesday, The New York Times published the article, "Jets Fan Should Be Remembered For Good Life, Not Unusual Death, Friends Say."
It talks about Larsen's smile, the quality best remembered by his friends and family. He's remembered for the great lengths he took to celebrate Halloween and for helping plow neighborhood driveways after last month's blizzard.
The qualities Larsen is best remembered for -- in an obituary carrying an unfortunate footnote -- are qualities many of us shed when we rest behind the cloak of a keyboard.
The web allows us to take out our frustration on people we may never see or hear from. It allows us to get on Twitter and call out companies whose products we're having trouble with.
It allows us to behave in a manner we may otherwise not have. I'm guilty and, odds are, so are you.
Now, this varies from simply being a little more sarcastic to becoming a darker person online.
In 2009 I interned for The Big Lead, another wide-read sports blog. I've seen comment threads dissolve into ignorance. I've read commenters attempt wit in bad taste in hopes of getting discovered and blowing up like the sites they read once did. I must mention, however, that this is not a macro statement on all readers of these (and other) sites.
The Deadspin post that ran Monday afternoon didn't attempt to make light of Larsen's death. Its headline was carefully worded and it actually only posted a blurb from The Staten Island Advance story. But for some sitting slumped at home or in a cubicle, it became mid-afternoon fodder as they fought post-lunch fatigue hundreds of miles away from a family grieving.
I usually don't make New Years resolutions, but I'll be making an extra effort this year to ensure my behavior online mirrors who I am.
I also hope to see more websites move away from anonymous commenting, save for rare exceptions. I hope we can have discussions online with comments and opinions we feel strong enough about to sign our names to.
I hope we can all act a little more human online.
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I also think it is a little rich for someone who makes their living off a business that promotes itself as being interactive ( indeed news sites congratulate themselves regularily for this), to lament the content of the interactivity.
It's just another example of the crassness that has become the fad. Same thing as the so called Dead Pool. Let's banter and make bets and jokes about some poor soul dying. Ha ha, aren't we so cool! People no longer respect basic decency. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If you would not like some fool making snarky and snide jokes about your mother passing, don't do it to someone else's mother, regardless of how famous she is.
I predict that over time, more and more websites will simply do away with comments.
The asininity is just too much to bear.
So, your someone who uses an untimely death as a personal soapbox to rail against the inhumanity of anonymous postings on the internet. Yeah, classy.
How else could you possibly interpret this author's actions the way you did??
Wow, you need some serious something.
Someone get the fainting couch ready and hand me some pearls to clutch!
Writer, Journalist, Hypocrite
i think that you need to get off your high horse and realize that finding humor in dark places is just as much a human quality as being a sanctimonious, condescending prick, like you were in your article.
and, regardless, since you're OBVIOUSLY so culturally refined, certainly you can find other things to rail against other than a throwaway comment about some sports story. we get it, you're too smart for such basic humor, but apparently you're not smart enough to stop reading things you don't like.
being a judgemental a$$hole is not the way to get your voice heard.
Wait a second, you're referencing a Gizmodo article. We're complaining about Deadspin here.
Its like a 6th grade locker room.
Gawker Media needs to drop some of these sites or gets some moderators over the age of 12.
Isn't the wonderful thing about the web that there's a place for everything? If you don't like a site, you don't have to read it.
in your view then, we shouldnt offer any dissenting opinions on that which we dislike or wish changed....but rather just avoid those things altogether.
.....as you should then have avoided this article.