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Posted: May 13, 2010 03:22 PM

Life Is a Performance, Ramin

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Maybe Newsweek's Ramin Setoodeh meant to stir up the controversy he did about gays being unbelievable in straight entertainment roles, and maybe he didn't. But the topic has been busted open, and he and others should use this as a learning moment.

While the real world is not Broadway and filming Sex in the City sequels, the fact is that there are tens of thousands of gay men and women who perform in "straight roles" every day in the US military. If they out themselves, they have a high chance of losing their jobs and being discharged by a military court of justice.

Setoodeh may not have meant to convey insensitivity and ignorance -- ignorance in that there are numerous gay actors performing in straight roles in the entertainment industry and insensitivity in the sense that throughout American society, there are men and women who adequately "perform" each day in the straight roles ascribed to them while shifting to their real gay identities when they can afford to.

When I watched a number of good "gay" friends unable to salute in uniform their Commander in Chief at last year's Human Rights Campaign dinner in fear of being expelled from employment, I saw the opposite of what Ramin Setoodeh describes.

I don't want to pile on much. I am a pundit as well and get things wrong on occasion -- and sometimes have to step back. This is one of those times when I think Newsweek's columnist should reconsider the empirical realities about gays in the entertainment industry vs. his own homosexual issues filter.

He would be wise to acknowledge that everyone is performing, and with his casual disregard for gays who constantly perform straight roles in life, he took a whack at a group far more numerous and significant than the talented Sean Hayes.

-- Steve Clemons publishes the popular political blog, The Washington Note. Clemons can be followed on Twitter @SCClemons

 

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09:43 PM on 05/16/2010
their "real selves" - i find that interesting - "real selves" - they are living a lie for what? compromise for ambition? they are not living, they are lying to them-"selves" not real at all, fake!
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opsudrania
A Humanist and investigative journalist
01:39 PM on 05/15/2010
"Homosexualism and gayism" has been so much in news now-a-days for right or wrong reasons. But one thing that emerges is that it is the affluents in most of the cases who are seemingly involved in such acts. Secondly, it is the "Human Species" alone who seems to indulge in such sexual practices.

Nature designed the "Sexual" act primarily for the purpose of "procreation". It must be clearly understood. But the human beings are using it, with my all respects, as a tool for "physical pleasure". That is not its prime aim looking at it even "physiologically". So we are smartly trying to manipulate it to an undesirable secondary purpose. This exposes the practitioners to various moral and physical derangements too.

I know that there is a very "hot pro and anti lobbies" on this most contentious issue. But the original natures
physiological setting can not be denied, if not altered. As a physician, I have contemplated frequently on this issue. In my opinion, the addition of "physical pleasure factor" with sexual gratification was to induce the copulation, so essential for a continued reproduction. Without this "individual factor", it may not have been so much "assured" as the nature would have otherwise liked to "ensure". A very important psycho-social reason.
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Dr. O. P. Sudrania
04:05 PM on 05/15/2010
Sexuality exists in multiple forms and combinations, and homosexuality, specifically, is well documented throughout the animal kingdom, including wide practice in upper primates. This isn't especially new science.

Stick to what you know about medicine, doc. Your ruminations on biology and natural law, it must be understood, are uninformed and biased.
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raker
02:01 PM on 05/16/2010
I don't care why people are homosexual, and I don't care what anyone thinks is the reason. It is irrelevant, especially the references to continued reproduction. There have always been homosexuals and the species is doing just fine, thank you.

Homosexuality is not up for referendum. It does not require analysis and justification and an up-or-down vote. Our Constitution does not say that certain demographic groups shall be equal under the law if after sufficient scrutiny and debate they're deemed worthy. People who think homosexuality is some sort of unsolvable societal problem need to find something else to obsess over. Homosexuality does not require everyone's understanding or approval, and it does not need to be fixed.
07:11 PM on 05/14/2010
Pile on as much as you want, Steve. Setoodeh deserves every barb and snide comment that has been directed toward him at this point, although his track record demonstrates he doesn't learn very well. Maybe he's commiserating with Jamie Kirchick now.
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SILVANUS
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03:02 PM on 05/14/2010
I know a lot of gay armed services folk. None of them "Act" gay, nor do they even try NOT to "act gay".
As goes for gay men and women in other "roles." So people, str8 and gay, are just more this or that or expressive or 'effeminate' or whatever.

Wake up.
06:00 PM on 05/14/2010
Poor silvanus -- uses the euphemism "gay" to denote a homosexual, when she KNOWS that the term "gay" came about because most homosexual men behave in an effeminate manner ----hence the terrminology "gay". Of course they act "gay" -- they are.
05:29 PM on 05/15/2010
Carolina, dear, your characterization of "homosexual men" as effeminate demonstrates profound ignorance and prejudice. Your choice of terms, alone, is telling. Effeminate men, after all, only constitute a tiny proportion of those who self-identify as "gay". That you haven't the moxie to tell one from the other only opens you to ridicule.

And by the way, the word "homosexual" was coined in Germany (in 1869) as a neutral, non-judgmental, legal, and scientific term. It was not meant to distinguish between type, as you do, here, and, as later appropriated by "doctors", to be suggestive of perversion, sickness, and deficiency. On the contrary, the term was meant to counter cruel, ignorant, and prejudicial attitudes.

That proud men and women later rejected the term homosexual in favour of their own terms, whether Gay, Lesbian, Queer ... or whatever, seems only natural, considering the negative connotation which the term acquired, a characterization which you appear to promote, apparently as a bludgeon.

Rood
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SILVANUS
Moving to Italy indefinitely. God Bless All.
03:00 PM on 05/17/2010
Please take Carolina off your handle. You make Carolinians sound like cavepeople rednecks who never travelled 10 miles away from home, at least from your derelict, ancient comments. Your envy is showing, by the way.
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Cosatjockomo
01:14 PM on 05/14/2010
Has anyone ever tried to determine whether the "straight" guys in the military recognize the "don't asks." I wonder whether their military performance is very convincing. Not trying to be mean, but for the most part, it's hard to talk to someone for more than a minute without being able to tell which is which. Also, again not trying to be mean, I find it ironic that "sexual preference" isn't afforded constitutional protection, largely because gay isn't necessarily an overt characteristic (like age, gender and race are), but this article is suggesting it is overt, which would bolster gays' claim to protection, yet you rail against that opinion and shoot yourself in the foot.
03:37 PM on 05/14/2010
Where's this coming from? You can tell someone's sexual orientation just by talking to them for a minute? Your gaydar must work better than mine. Not trying to be mean, but your remarks about the distinctions between gay and straight, especially the one about military performance, are borderline homophobic. You might as well say that you think gays are "less of a man" than straights. That's what you are implying, right?
03:47 PM on 05/14/2010
I agree with Silvanus.

I served in the US Navy. I never noticed any difference. Nor did the matter ever appear as a significant issue.

We were all too busy doing our jobs. How well we could count on our shipmates was all that mattered.

The one thing that could become an issue was whether or not someone indulged himself with the prostitutes in port. Those who didn't could be labeled homosexuals. That depended on how popular and well-known such men were, as there was respect for someone married, who had a girlfriend, who simply wanted to avoid any nasty disease and unpleasant explanations.
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Cosatjockomo
12:34 PM on 05/15/2010
Maybe my "gaydar" is more sensitive than most people. But I'm not homophobic, have numerous homosexual friends, don't have objections to gay rights and I don't think anything in my statement was insulting or demeaning to gays. I guess I'm just surprised at everyone else's inability to spot mannerisms and attitudes that tend to give it away. No doubt there are many I don't spot and there are the "in-your-face" gays that no one can miss. There's a spectrum to heterosexual vs homosexual, its not just black or white, but I have never been surprised by any celebrity that came out and can quickly determine if a woman is not into men or a man is into men when I can actually speak with them. Maybe it's because I actually listen to and pay attention to people.
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RRT-MD
12:50 PM on 05/14/2010
"Straight roles"?
Are you daft?
Has your life style led you to delusion?
Do you really think anyone besides yourself, family, and friends is interested in your "sexual orientation"?
03:16 PM on 05/14/2010
Are you really that naive to think otherwise?

Daft indeed.
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Raphi
04:48 PM on 05/14/2010
I looked up this person's other comments. That "lifestyle' jibe is a giveaway. Yep, a Palin fan.

So I realize I'm trying to converse with someone who has already dismissed my very being. But on the off chance there is a heart there somewhere, let me explain.

I do wish this were an non-issue. As it is for increasing numbers of young people. But in the present, it does matter. I am transgendered and gay. Neither are a choice. They are intrinsic to my physiology, psyche, and soul. And these aspects affect employment and residence.

If what you say is true, that no one cares, then all of us LGBTQs will be celebrating!
Rambrewster
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11:31 AM on 05/14/2010
Spot on. Simply put. Great point.
10:34 AM on 05/14/2010
There was a massive protest in NYC on Wednesday night from AIDS activists, African American and LGBT groups, protesting President Obama's "Broken AIDS Promises" outside of a $15K-a-plate Democratic fundraiser (8 activists were arrested).

http://joemygod.blogspot.com/2010/05/nyc-eight-activists-arrested-at-massive.html

http://www.housingworks.org/blogs/detail/activists-arrested-outside-obama-fundraiser-demand-u.s.-keep-promises-/

“While they are inside sipping champagne and caviar, Obama’s broken promises for global AIDS funding mean people will die because they cannot afford a ‘cocktail’ of HIV/AIDS medication,” said ACT UP Philadelphia member Henry Bennett. “Obama gave them hope, then he took it away.” On the campaign trail, candidate Obama pledged to provide at least $50 billion by 2013 for the global fight against HIV/AIDS and to “at least double the number of HIV-positive people on treatment.” But, as the New York Times reported, Obama’s commitments to fighting AIDS have not even kept pace with inflation, let alone increased to the level he promised.
11:33 AM on 05/14/2010
ACT UP Founder, legendary AIDS activist and gay rights pioneer, Larry Kramer, attended the NYC AIDS Funding protest and released a statement about Obama's broken LGBT promises to the media:

"Why is it always so hard for us to fight back? This man does not like us. When someone does not like you, you fight back. This Obama who is not my president and not your president obviously does not like us. It's not a secret. Day after day week after week and month after month he tells us he does not like us. He tells us! He does not keep it a secret. His Attorney General does not like us. His Department of Justice does not like us. His Generals do not like us. His Department of Health and Human Services does not like us. This is not a new situation for us."

You can read Kramer's complete statement (in which he REALLY GOES OFF) by clicking the link below:

http://www.towleroad.com/2010/05/aidsprotest.html
09:04 AM on 05/14/2010
Of all the countries in NATO it is only the United States that has a problem accepting gay and lesbian soldiers and this is a sad commentary on our ignorance and hate filled culture.
03:50 PM on 05/14/2010
I agree. America has many sad commentaries on it's cultural ignorance.

I call it bigotry. America has a deep strain of bigotry in its cultural heritage.

America also has a growing incivility in its present culture.
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charles10
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08:09 AM on 05/14/2010
Sir Ian McKellen, Patrick Stewart, George Takei, and Rupert Everett. Rosy O'Donnell, Ellen Degeneres, her wife Portia, and Cynthia Nixon. There are scores more. Before they'd come out of the closet, the public had noooo idea, and they were "believable" in their straight roles.
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obtusegoose
aka David in Houston
10:44 AM on 05/14/2010
Patrick Stewart isn't gay. He's been married twice... to women. He has played gay characters on TV and movies.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Patrick_Stewart

I'll replace your one straight with three gays: David Odgen Stiers, Dan Butler, David Hyde Pierce. This time a three-of-a-kind beats a straight ;-)
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WillCooney
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12:55 PM on 05/14/2010
And don't forget Neil Patrick Harris who currently plays a hetero Lothario on a Hot, Hit TV show!
03:34 PM on 05/14/2010
And don't forget John Mahoney, "Frasier"'s dad.

Although Niles' prim-and-proper nature always made many people see him as gay, nobody except those in the know ever "suspected" the people who played Bulldog or Marty Crane to be gay too.

I love when people think they can always tell who is gay and who isn't. It's really laughable.
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Cosatjockomo
02:21 PM on 05/14/2010
Rosy O'Donnell not overtly gay?!!!!!! LOL One sideways glance and she was outed! Like saying Bella Abzug wasn't obviously gay.
03:35 PM on 05/14/2010
Hindsight, right? There were certainly millions of people who believed she was (default) straight for a long while.
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charles10
Edumakater
02:11 AM on 05/15/2010
Hell, I thought I Roseanne Barr was lesbian or at least bisexual. She truly fits the straight guy's stereotype. Madonna, Sharon Stone, Sigourney Weaver and the actress who played Morticia in Addams Family, plus a host of others would've have been the epitome.

Remember this is merely a response to the original column. People just don't know. Nor should they/we care.
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Quislet
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07:44 AM on 05/14/2010
I don't support Mr. Setoodeh's position, but Mr. Clemons you have it slightly wrong. Mr. Setoodeh did not say that gay actors can't play straight, but that audiences don't accept having openly gay actors in straight roles. That audiences don't see the straight character, but only see the gay actor.
Rambrewster
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11:35 AM on 05/14/2010
If that's really his intended position, I don't get it. When I see a Meryl Streep movie, I can't not be aware that it is Meryl Streep. What makes her a good actress is tha,t depsite the reality that is Meryl Streep, she still manages to inhabit and portray the character.
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12:29 PM on 05/14/2010
It's a testament to our collective cultural immaturity and our hangups surrounding human sexuality.
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Quislet
It is a good day. I woke up breathing.
01:58 PM on 05/14/2010
No argument from me.
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StevenWells
Objects in the avatar are larger than they appear
03:54 AM on 05/14/2010
It seems to me in the case of the Setoodeh/Hayes controversy, it has less to do with an actor's sexuality, or even Setoodeh's "homosexual issues filter," than it does with the simple matter of public knowledge. Actors like Monty Clift and Rock Hudson (among many others) "passed" as straight on stage and screen, even though they were anything but closeted in their private lives and professional circles. Audiences - and critics, for that matter - were, for the most part, blissfully unaware and unconcerned.

The same holds true for those in the military, and indeed all other segments of society, where many people can be found who'll proclaim they don't know/serve with/work with any gay men, even though they do without realizing it, and often hold those very men - about whom they know less then they think - in high regard.

In this sense, Clemons is right on the money.
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Douglas Stevens
02:35 AM on 05/14/2010
How sad we have become. I served in the US Army for six years of my life. I knew numerous gay/lesbian soldiers who served honorably, and noone questioned their sexuality. This was before DADT. In the Cold War. A war somehow lesser than the vague "War on Terror". We were on the front lines of the Cold War. Many people lost their lives in this "War". Yet everyone, straight or other, pulled their weight. Noone discriminated. Noone was allowed to discriminate. In my wildest dreams would I have imagined that we would go backwards in our acceptance of "others" doing a job just as well as the other soldier. I regret my service to a country that is de-evolving.
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StevenWells
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04:10 AM on 05/14/2010
You expressed important thoughts, much worth conveying...and hearing. I'm only sorry to see you say you "regret [your] service to a country that is de-evolving." What you've related here from your own experiences makes your service more than worthwhile, and what's taken place in our country since then doesn't diminish it in the least. If anything, it renders your voice even more important. I encourage its continued use to speak out on what many need to hear.
12:54 PM on 05/14/2010
I appreciate your post immensely!
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02:03 AM on 05/14/2010
Great point about ignorance/insensitivity. Since there are definitely huge movie stars who are gay, but virtually none who are out, it's OBVIOUS that tons of gay actors convincingly play straight every day. Just because you don't know they're gay doesn't mean they aren't.

I'm an entertainment reporter in Canada and remember this case in point from the Milk movie junket. I asked Emile Hirsch why all the great gay roles go to straight actors (Milk, Brokeback, etc)... he was like "Yeah, that you KNOW of." Yep. That about sums it up.

I think Ramin's thoughts are more revealing about him as opposed to his subject matter. For him, once you play not gay but FLAMING (for 8 years no less), you can never convincingly go back lol... but really dude, it's f**king BROADWAY. Are you serious?
GraceNotes
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09:55 AM on 05/14/2010
Yes, it is a Broadway musical. You have already agreed to suspend your disbelief that people regularly break into song and dance all the time to express their innermost feellings or to move the story along!
03:36 PM on 05/14/2010
Most excellent point.
12:53 AM on 05/14/2010
Ah, gays. Scapegoat of the election cycle. So easy to demonize, so easy to project on to, so easy to blame. Such a small proportion of our population, yet the cause of nearly all of society's ills today. Their mere existence causes morale failure in our military, the breakdown of the moral fabric of our society, and the death of cute little puppies. Nothing bad that has ever happened to you has been your fault, it's just the gay agenda at work to subvert real American values.

At least, until blaming blacks, Hispanics, athiests, Jews, single mothers, foreigners, poor people, immigrants, or Martians comes back into style.
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obtusegoose
aka David in Houston
10:45 AM on 05/14/2010
Nicely said... and "fanned" :o)
06:05 PM on 05/14/2010
nitrokitty --- you and other mis-guided fools who think we should project societal experiments and trends on the military are just so wrong .
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obtusegoose
aka David in Houston
08:33 PM on 05/14/2010
I'd hardly call 34 countries a social experiment. "In Canada, as of 1992, lesbians, gays and bisexuals are allowed to openly serve in the military." That is 18 years. Longer than DADT has been around. Discrimination against LGBT citizens is the social experiment that needs to end.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_orientation_and_military_service