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Independence Day Means Giving Everyone the Freedom and Independence to Marry the Person They Love

Posted: 07/03/2012 5:57 pm

As for most Americans, the Fourth of July means more to me than a good barbecue and cold brews. It's a time for family and friends to kick back, enjoy one another and welcome the summer ahead.

It's also a time to reflect on exactly what freedom and independence means, especially here in Washington State. Earlier this year, the Washington State Legislature recently passed a law, with bi-partisan support, that upholds these fundamental rights by allowing every Washington citizen the right to marry the person he or she loves. Those very principles are being challenged by those who want to take away the freedom to marry for our gay and lesbian family members, friends and neighbors.

Earlier this month, those determined to overturn the Washington State Marriage Equality Act delivered their signatures to the Secretary of State's office to place Referendum 74 on the ballot this November.

This is not a surprise. We knew this would happen. Still, it's important for voters to remember that this was a law that passed with a bi-partisan coalition because people on both sides of the aisle came together in support of fundamental fairness, equality and personal freedom for everyone. I was part of that coalition as one of the first Republicans to sponsor the bill because I believe it was the right thing to do for Washington state.

For me, this is also a question of governmental interference. As a Republican, I believe one of the key tenets of governance is a fundamental belief in personal freedom and individual responsibility. People understand this point when asked about marriage in this way: Would you like the government telling you whom you could or could not marry? I wouldn't and can't imagine why anyone would. And that is really what this law is all about -- giving individuals; friends, neighbors, family members, co-workers -- the freedom and responsibility to marry the person they choose; to have a family with the person they choose without interference from the government.

I have been married for over 23 years to the love of my life. My wife and I have four amazing children. I am one of the lucky ones. My mother always told me that the single most important decision you will ever make in your life is who you marry. She was right. It is the person you marry, not the color of their skin, not their religion, and now, not his or her gender.

The next generation inherently understands this. What I thought might be a lengthy discussion about marriage equality with my children during the legislative debate quickly whittled down to, "What's the big deal?" My 16-year-old daughter quoted the Declaration of Independence "pursuit of happiness" guarantee and then asked for the car keys. For them and their friends, this is a no brainer.

Marriage promotes responsibility, commitment and stability; family values that we all believe are important. Taking away freedoms by overturning our bipartisan marriage law, doesn't hold up to the Washington values I hold dear and hope to pass down to my children.

That's why I'll be working to "approve" Referendum 74. I believe that my gay and lesbian friends, neighbors and co-workers deserve the same freedom and opportunity to pursue happiness, to marry the person they love and to have that special union recognized by the state of Washington.


Steve Litzow is a Republican State Senator representing parts of King County.

 
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As for most Americans, the Fourth of July means more to me than a good barbecue and cold brews. It's a time for family and friends to kick back, enjoy one another and welcome the summer ahead. ...
As for most Americans, the Fourth of July means more to me than a good barbecue and cold brews. It's a time for family and friends to kick back, enjoy one another and welcome the summer ahead. ...
 
 
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frommyeyes
07:29 PM on 07/05/2012
As I stood watching the brilliant fireworks shooting up in the sky from the neighborhood park and the distant sounds of John Philip Souza on the 4th, next to my gay son, I found myself a bit teary eyed. I found myself thinking about how far America has come, how we got here and all the hopes and dreams of everyone who came to this amazing country. I turned to him, my heart full of the wishes I had thrown into the air as I watched the bursting colors and said "Next year, it'll be better ~ I hope it'll be better." DOMA gone, maybe marriage here in California, Because that''s what America is about. That we keep trying ever onward to do better than what we've had and what we've seen. Next Independence Day, I hope I'll really be smiling!.
05:19 AM on 07/05/2012
The government has no right to stick its nose in personal, private, loving relationships. They do not have the right to tell me whom I can marry or love. And they have no right to rip apart families. It's unamerican and unchristian.
01:58 AM on 07/05/2012
This society will stop until they make everything possible relate to homosexuality. It will take the wrath of God to destroy this sin among us. Once the cup of sin is full, that is when the wrath will come.
05:09 AM on 07/05/2012
I'm not sure which "society" you mean, but in America, militant anti-gay activists will stop at nothing until they have imposed the sin of homophobia on everyone. Despite the fact that the Bible warns that revilers are going to hell, they continue to revile and defame God's gay children. Totally devoid of any real solutions to the problems that plague heterosexuality such as divorce, adultery, spousal abuse and harmed children, they resort to attacking gay American taxpayers. As if this will somehow excuse them of their own sins. Anti-gay heterosexuals need to take responsibility for their own problems and stop dragging America down the toilet with their evil anti-gay agenda.
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Tribalenvy
01:44 PM on 07/05/2012
Gee, that case could more likely be made against divorce considering how much Jesus had to say about divorce. Jesus never spoke about homosexuality though.

So why haven't I seen you in the divorce section ranting and raving and proclaiming that, "the sky is falling" over there?

Let me guess. You like cherries. It's cherry pickin' season, am I right?
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newprmmdc
Gay Grumpy Old Man --Gay American Patriot
08:58 PM on 07/04/2012
I always seem to have to teach the differences in this marriage equality issue.

Matrimony is a religious issue and what you get is a nifty expensive wedding at a religious institution or an Elvis Impersonator. You are married in the eyes of the Religion and other than the wedding that is all you get.

Marriage is a civil issue and requires a marriage certificate and your are married in the eyes of the law...a wedding is not required. You do get over a thousand rights and benefits.

It is unfair to offer this to only heterosexual couples and not homosexual couples. It is unAmerican and what Marriage Equality is all about.
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NWBrunette
Blessed Girl
03:47 PM on 07/04/2012
Marriage equality. It's like regular equality. But for everyone!
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terryaley
03:46 PM on 07/04/2012
You're not "free" if your government is telling you the proper ways for grown adults to run their lives. It's completely acceptable to the general public for someone to get divorced (often multiple times). Where's the outrage for the 50% of heterosexual couples getting divorced? Certainly God isn't happy about that. Oh wait, that's different. Because it affects you and not someone else.
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NWBrunette
Blessed Girl
03:23 PM on 07/04/2012
Good work, Steve. And well said. Marriage equality is coming; the pace is quickening. There is no stopping it now.
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Kofender
(speaks in parentheses--but I digress)
07:51 AM on 07/04/2012
Senator Litzow--let me commend you for your clear-headed thinking on what is a contentious issue for some people in the GOP. If there were more in your party like you, it would not be so glibly labeled as the home for homophobes (I know it's not, but many people now believe it is--the actions have spoken loudly). I truly hope the law stands come November. (For the record, I'm a dyed in the wool Democrat, but in some situations I have voted for intelligent and thoughtful candidates of the other party.)
03:53 AM on 07/04/2012
I don't think the actual bottom line issue for a lot of people who oppose gay marriage is denial of rights or even revulsion for sexual practices that many consider highly offensive. I think the bottom line issue is that they believe in the separation of church and state, one of the fundamentals on which this country has always stood.

To me, marriage is a religious ceremony. While it brings certain legal rights and responsibilities, it is fundamentally a religious concept. The Bible describes marriage as a covenant between a man and a woman. Period. I don't the government has any business trying to legislate religioos ceremonies.

I strongly support equal legal rights for gay couples and I am a firm believer in civil unions. But as far as I am concerned we need to leave religion out of it.
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sarahsahasbeen
Je pense...je progresse.
10:51 AM on 07/04/2012
First, I'm glad that you support equal legal rights for all couples. However, the fact that marriage is a religious concept is erroneous. If you and your beloved go to any church, temple or synagogue to be married without a license issued by the state, your marriage is not valid.

It is the state, through its laws, that legalizes your marriage, not the religious institution. It is the same in Europe. Having lived in France, I know that when a couple wants to marry, they have to go to city hall, their banns of marriage are announced outside city hall for three weeks, then they must get married in the marriage room by the mayor. If they wish to then be married in a church or synagogue, it is permitted.

Secondly, the religious ceremony only permits the person to officiate at the ceremony. The happy couple marry each other. What religions are trying to do is force their religion on civil law. Just because civil law permits their priests or rabbis or whomever to officiate at marriage ceremonies doesn't give them the right to influence secular law. The government has always legislated marriage, which is one of your religious ceremonies. The federal government legislated against polygamy and Mormons went to Mexico.

You feel it is not denial of rights - I think it is. There is no basis for not adhering to equality before the law - LGBT are people too. They are citizens; they deserve the same rights as
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Mikeygr
01:32 PM on 07/04/2012
well said!
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dpkjj
Peace on Earth
03:32 PM on 07/04/2012
I couldn't have said it better.
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EHRose
in diversity there is beauty and there is strength
12:16 PM on 07/04/2012
To you it may be religious, but the origins of marriage had little to to with religion. At some point after medieval times the church decided to take over marriage, make it a "sacrament" and put in a bunch of extra rules making it nearly impossible to get out of.

And so you're right, we need to leave religion out of the discussion. Gay couples should be able to get married because religion does not need to have anything to do with it. Heterosexuals do not need the blessing of a religion in order to get married, so gay people shouldn't need their permission either.
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Gay Pagan Man, Living Happily With Husband
02:39 AM on 07/04/2012
Wish we had more like you here in Colorado. Some Republican refused to let even a civil unions bill onto the floor in the House. This is ridiculous. This does not affect them in the least but they certainly feel entitled to affect my life, that of my husbands and thousands of same-sex couples nationwide who want the same thing bigots take for granted: the right to marry the consenting adult of our choice.
secondsoprano
It'll be alright in the end.
01:42 AM on 07/04/2012
"My 16-year-old daughter quoted the Declaration of Independence "pursuit of happiness" guarantee and then asked for the car keys. "

Love it.
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Americangangster
Dual masters in dominance and modesty
01:38 AM on 07/04/2012
Umm independence day has nothing to do with homosexuality, and it's quite annoying that they are making the relation.
11:21 AM on 07/04/2012
Agreed. While I support freedoms in every form, including the right to love and be with whomever we choose, Independence day isn't about this. =( Sorry.
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Mikeygr
01:34 PM on 07/04/2012
Freedoms are freedoms!! You wish to pick and choose which ones we celebrate? How narrow!!!
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unimatrix0
01:02 AM on 07/06/2012
You are right. America broke away from England to gain its independence and freedom, and rights to life, liberty and pursuit of happiness. Gay people still have not achived that in the US, so the July 4th would be a poor link, and pretty embarassing reminder that we claim to be about Freedom, but still discriminate. We claim to be a nation that is #1 in rights, but we were founded on slavery. Black men could vote before women. Not too long ago we had segragation. Today we still deny the LGBT community the same rights as others when it comes to freedom from discrimination from housing, work, loans, and even marriage. But we still want to teach school children how wonderful America is with freedom and rights, while other counties do not allow secret wire taps, life in prison with out a trial, or tell you what you can and can not put in your body, or who you can sleep with. But we think we are superior to them if we have a lower tax bracket. I would buy my civil rights if I could.
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Robbert Bricker
i'm not a slave to a god that doesn't exist.
11:37 AM on 07/04/2012
"As for most Americans, the Fourth of July means more to me than a good barbecue and cold brews. It's a time for family and friends to kick back, enjoy one another and welcome the summer ahead.

It's also a time to reflect on exactly what freedom and independence means, especially here in Washington State. "

hence the reason for the correlation.
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Adam of CA
Independent Information Hunter
03:36 PM on 07/04/2012
Value your friendship, Good Buddy.
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Steelsil
Warren/Grayson 2016! Yes We Can!
11:00 PM on 07/03/2012
Steve, you're in the wrong party.  Your party wants to control the freely chosen behavior of adults living their private lives in many ways, including outlawing same sex marriage.  You'd better walk out before they throw you out.
09:20 PM on 07/03/2012
Let's keep this real simple... I'm a Democrat through and through and on nearly every topic that can come up, majorly disagree with Republicans on at least a good 90-95% of it...

After reading this piece just now about your support of Ref 74, I only have this to say:

Thank you.
08:51 PM on 07/03/2012
If only more republicans where like him!
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Mikeygr
01:35 PM on 07/04/2012
Then they would be Democrats...... :-)