Question: "I'm a 22-year-old, gay, Afro-Caribbean man living in the U.S. Virgin Islands, and I'm at my wits' end in trying to find friendship and companionship. No visible community exists here, and I doubt an underground community exists, either. Online attempts to find "friends" have been disappointing. I'm at a point where I've realized that what I need most now is emotional and physical intimacy, but I'm in a place where this is most unlikely to be found. I'd love to move to a city with thriving communities, like D.C. or NYC, but I lack the resources to do this. How do I cope with this loneliness?"
- Get out of Dodge. Even if it's a challenge and seems difficult, it will give you a goal to aim for. You should be around people of your own sensibilities and interests. A large percentage of the Caribbean can be very anti-nurturing for gay people, and you probably have very little support there.
- Downelink.com is an online LGBT community that allows users to interact with one another through social networks and resources. Both the site and app are free.
This article originally appeared on Advocate.com.
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