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Body Image Perception: Learning To Love The Body You Have Now

Posted: 06/10/11 08:16 AM ET

The human body is an utterly amazing creation. Even a basic consideration of its functions boggles the mind. Neurons connect to the nervous system, the nervous system connects our muscles and hair-trigger messaging occurs at lightening speed. Every component is composed of microscopic cells, tiny self-regenerating entities numbering in the trillions. Yet, somehow it all comes together, each intricate system functioning in a harmonious symphony conducted masterfully by the brain.

This exquisite miracle of biology makes it possible for us to move around in the world and to experience it with all of our senses. It is the foundation of our very being. Shouldn't it be easy to sit back and simply appreciate our bodies for all they are and all they do for us?

Not so according to recent studies. When participants were asked to what degree they love their bodies, results consistently show that the majority of women harbor a negative body image perception.

Body image perception is often measured by assessing the difference between how a person thinks she appears and her ideal image of how she thinks she should look. For much of the female population, what they see and what they want to see is vastly different.

A 2011 research study of British women, conducted by the University of West England, found that 30 percent of women would give up a year of their lives if they could achieve their ideal body weight and shape. Those findings are reminiscent of another study last year in the U.S., which found that about half of women polled would prefer forgo sex for the summer rather than gain 10 pounds. Similarly, a 1997 Psychology Today survey found that 56 percent of women were unhappy with their body image and would go to great lengths to change their appearance. Female body image perception does not appear to have improved over the past decade.

Why is it so hard for women to love their bodies?

As an increasing amount of documents testify, women are sexualized from a very young age. Abercrombie & Fitch's clothing line is a prime example of this. The clothing giant recently made headlines when it released a two-piece bikini for 7-year-old girls with push-up cups in the top.

The female body is also routinely portrayed as a product and a commodity through advertising. Images of women are routinely used to sell seemingly unrelated products such as automobiles, men's cologne and destination vacations.

Furthering the idea that the organic female body is not beautiful in and of itself, we are constantly surrounded by airbrushed images of female "perfection" in the form of roadside billboards, magazines at the checkout stands, television programs and internet ads. Everywhere we look, we are bombarded by suggestions that we are not beautiful, that we do not measure up and that we need to be more beautiful in order to live happy lives, have successful careers -- and most importantly -- attract a suitable mate (lest we die a lonely, frumpy, old, cat lady).

A 2007 report by the American Psychological Association found that this culture-wide sexualization of women contributes to an epidemic of negative body image perception. The constant stream of unhealthy messages about beauty, happiness and success affect women deeply -- even on a subconscious level.

It IS possible to love your body as is.

As pervasive and insidious as it is, you can fly in the face of societal programming. Improving one's own body image perception is a process that occurs over time and requires shifting the way in which you define beauty and your own self-worth.

Key to making the shift to a positive body image perception is becoming acutely aware of the hidden messages about beauty that surround you. Recognizing the impact of these images and observing thought processes that lead you towards beliefs that undermine your self-love is an excellent place to start. Here's how:

1.) Notice when women are being portrayed sexually to sell a product and notice airbrushed images that do not accurately portray the female form. Recognize the beliefs that you conjure up from these images about your own beauty.

2.) Question what you are looking at and the hidden intentions behind what you see. Oftentimes media images are intended to manipulate you into believing that you are not good enough so that you will then purchase a product.

3.) Form your own opinion about what it is to be beautiful. Include all of your amazing female
qualities in your definition. Connect with the exquisiteness of your body and appreciate the joy,
pleasure and life that it brings to you each day.

People can -- and do -- change their beliefs throughout the course of their lives. The most powerful and healthy belief systems are the ones that influence love of and care for your body. When your body image perception improves and you begin taking better care of yourself, your confidence improves along with your health.

In direct opposition to what today's media and advertising purport, finding happiness and fulfillment is an inside-out job. Choose today to start being a critic of what you see in the media. Enjoy the positive effect this has on your entire life.

 

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The human body is an utterly amazing creation. Even a basic consideration of its functions boggles the mind. Neurons connect to the nervous system, the nervous system connects our muscles and hair-tri...
The human body is an utterly amazing creation. Even a basic consideration of its functions boggles the mind. Neurons connect to the nervous system, the nervous system connects our muscles and hair-tri...
 
 
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Irina Wardas
Women's Lifestyle Coach/Talk Radio Host/Photograph
01:28 PM on 06/16/2011
Susan, thank you for such an important message for women of all ages. Negative body image perception causes low level depression, severe menopause symptoms and even heart attacks in women. We should be wiser and love ourselves at any age because we are worth it. I have enjoyed the article as much as our interviews.
Breathe, smile and be happy
http://www.holistichealthtalkradioforwomen.com
10:53 PM on 08/09/2011
Great to bump into you here, Irina.
Have equally enjoyed our many interviews on your radio show.
-Susan
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William Anderson LMHC
Licensed Psychotherapist, Weight Control Expert
08:12 PM on 06/14/2011
Good article Susan. Loving one's body as it is and deciding to care for it as a precious charge is required for positive change. Knowing that beauty exists there today, believing in it's potential and destiny of greater and greater beauty and life with each day we care for it -- these are all needed in order to believe in our best potential and imagine it, which in turn brings it about. These are ultimately matters of faith, what we decide to believe, regardless of what others might believe or teach, whether it is the family or TV.

Again, good article.

William Anderson, LMHC
Author of 'The Anderson Method - Secrets of Permanent Weight Loss'
www.TheAndersonMethod.com
10:53 PM on 08/09/2011
Thank you William.
11:44 AM on 06/14/2011
Yes!! this is what we need to be talking about, and more importantly how we should be talking about them. Last august I launched my blog http://mybodymyimage.com to create a forum for just this type of conversation, one of healing and understanding, creating a healthy perception of self, and a elasticized concept of beauty that is allowing of many forms of beauty (including our own) we have a category called Habitat for YOUR humanity that helps people fill a tool box with the things they need to build a better sense of self if you are interested check us out! http://mybodymyimage.com/category/habitat-for-your-humanity or join our FB fan page! http://www.facebook.com/pages/My-Body-My-Image/126771127392897
10:54 PM on 08/09/2011
Yes, the word is out.
Thank you for being another VOICE for this critical issue.
-Susan
10:27 PM on 06/13/2011
Great article, Susan! I'm always struggling to balance my image and perception of myself with being healthy - yet being able to enjoy eating the foods I love to eat. It's a tough balance, and I've come to believe that as long as I'm healthy and have the energy I need to enjoy my life, I'm good (even if I'm not the super skinny self I used to be before having 3 kids).
10:55 PM on 08/09/2011
Rachel,
Love your awareness of the importance of balance.
Sounds like you have your eye on what truly matters.
-Susan
10:24 PM on 06/12/2011
I am not sure how I feel about being okay with my own body. Where is the motivation for self improvement. Sometimes looking at models, who are in fact healthy, (most, there are of coarse exceptions) be something to strive for. Male models are in peak physical condition. Why shouldn't can't people be happy, while looking at these models and striving to be a healthier. I feel there is more reward and happiness in achieving one's health goals rather than coming to terms with one's self. I may be critisized for this point of view, but I feel every person should strive to make themselves better in all aspects of life, including health and education to make themselves a better person.

The sexualization of clothing in advertisement is a different issue altogether.
10:57 PM on 08/09/2011
I want you to feel empowered to use the perspective that works best for you.
My latest Huff Po article may help clear up where I was coming from RE: Self Acceptance.
-Susan
08:07 PM on 06/12/2011
Great article! I especially enjoy the point about forming your own opinion about what it is to be beautiful. What is and isn't attractive varies from individual to individual. Therefore it is integral to decide for yourself that your body is beautiful and not allow the media to dictate your self-worth :)
10:57 PM on 08/09/2011
Yes!
You got it!
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JBS
Part time misanthrope & full time curmudgeon
03:20 PM on 06/12/2011
I already love the body I have, I just want the last 30 pounds of it to go away.

Doctor says that would be good for my heart too.
10:58 PM on 08/09/2011
Excellent.
From this place, I believe you'll do it!
Check in with us and let us know how its going.
Salute! to a LONG life!
-Susan
01:14 PM on 06/12/2011
Finally! It has been so long since I have read such a helpful article on this site as this one. Keep 'em coming! Keep 'em coming!
10:58 PM on 08/09/2011
Thank you Jeremiah.
Will do.
Here is my latest: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/susan-liddy-ma-pcc-cpcc/disordered-eating-obesity-anorexia_b_916703.html

-Susan
12:53 PM on 06/12/2011
"Love yourself for who you are"
What can be more destructive for a human being
10:26 PM on 06/12/2011
concur
09:55 AM on 06/12/2011
Love yourself, but don't delude yourself into thinking that being fat is normal, OK, or that some people have a harder time losing weight than others. If you are overweight it is because you either aren't working out or you aren't working out hard enough.
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brooklyncitizen
Soror quaerens lucem
09:17 PM on 06/13/2011
It is interesting that right away you make it an issue of weight when women have a host of physical areas they consider flawed- hair is a big issue, aging is huge and the whole push to be youthful, then there are body parts- too flat chested, too big chested, then legs - cankles, no cankles, no claves, thick thighs, on and on and on.If it were as simple as "weight loss" we wouldn't spend billions on "improving" our ALREADY FABULOUS SELVES.
; )
11:00 PM on 08/09/2011
Hear! Hear!
10:59 PM on 08/09/2011
True. Love yourself and from that place find the motivation to become healthy.
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kadellagroove
Left leaning, Jeffersonian Whig.
02:20 AM on 06/12/2011
I studied for two months to write a huge research paper on the objectification of women in the media when I as in college almost ten years ago. And one thing I noticed way back then that I still see today that bothers me is this obsession with female body image. you never see anything like this about men.

it reminds me of a girl friend I had who had some body image issues that effected her life in a pretty negative way (despite the fact that she was beautiful). I never understood her and we fought about it all the time and one day she yelled at me for calling her beautiful all the time. she said that in my head it was a compliment but to her it reiterated that looks were important and it focused her even more on her looks and ended up having a negative effect. I'll never forget that. sometimes we think we are doing the right thing but in actuality we are drawing more attention to something and causing the problem to get worse.

This article, and many like it, are attempting to do something very good, but sometimes I wonder if its just more of the same obsessing of the female body that creates the problems in the first place. when you look at the lack of articles and studies done about male body image it certainly seems like its nothing but more obsessing over the female body.
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brooklyncitizen
Soror quaerens lucem
09:20 PM on 06/13/2011
Actually some of us never quite own we are beautiful....sometimes we have to own it.Too often our beauty attracts unwanted attention or creates a false image about who we are...it's as if we are only two-dimensional and aren't allowed to be more than beautiful.
11:05 PM on 08/09/2011
Yes, I see your point to an extent.
Important to not obsess, yet we can not ignore that the majority of the US population is afflicted with eating disorders or obesity... affecting both men and women, girls and boys.
We've got to face the issues that still need addressing.
The perspective we choose as we face the issues is key: GROWTH and FORWARD MOVEMENT versus victim.
-Susan
06:04 PM on 06/11/2011
A woman needs to recognize that her body does so much for her and *love* her body by taking care of it, not by starving it or filling it up with empty calories. I personally thought the point of this article was that too many women think that loving their body means seeing in the mirror the "ideal" portrayed by models/actresses, and they need to redefine what loving one's body actually means. Whether or not you think it was a well-written article, I think the message is a positive one that can be misinterpreted to mean "if you're overweight, become complacent," when that wasn't the true intent.
06:26 PM on 06/11/2011
So sorry for repeating myself. I think something's posted, then it's not and nothing's pending, so I get confused!
11:06 PM on 08/09/2011
Yes, Catherine.
You got it.
-Susan
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freddypudwacker
It's all psychological.
10:19 AM on 06/11/2011
Try being morbidly obese, losing all the necessary body weight to become healthy through diet and exercise, then being stuck with God only knows how many pounds of loose, wrinkly, flabby, skin...and then not having the means to do a thing about it. Try loving that.
11:07 PM on 08/09/2011
Freddy,
I want you to know that I deeply received your comment.
And, although it's hard for you now it must have been harder for you before.
I think it's amazing that you lost all of your weight.
So MANY are not able to do that.
You are an inspiration.
Can I give you a *high five*?

-Susan
09:57 PM on 06/10/2011
Susan...thank you for this post! It is not only young people who are affected by these media images and the way they are portrayed. For women in midlife, a changing body can become a source of anxiety, fear and even shame. In so many industries and career paths, women of 'a certain age' suddenly become invisible. http://www.fiftyisthenewforty.net/life-after-50/midlife-crisis/
11:08 PM on 08/09/2011
So very true!
We are affected at every age!
Thank you for your comment and wonderful website.
-Susan
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Holly Smoke
Humor is the best defense for absurdity.
08:30 PM on 06/10/2011
Not liking your body is essential to economic recovery. How can we increase our GDP if not body use deodorant, bot-ex, cosmetics, diet food and programs, exercise gear, just to name a few.
11:09 PM on 08/09/2011
Gotta giggle on this one.
Thanks for the chuckle.