Sixty percent of mothers tell me their husbands are awfully annoying and disappointing on Mother's Day. Over sixty-five percent say their husband's faults are more glaring than ever on this one day of the year that's meant to be sacred for mothers. More than seventy percent say that they can't recall the last conversation they had with their husbands that wasn't child-centered. And more than seventy percent report that their husbands are insensitive to how the day is to be planned.
So while enough women complain about their husbands on Valentine's Day, wedding anniversaries and their birthdays, Mother's Day seems to be taking the lead this year in terms of discontent. And it really doesn't matter if your children are three or thirteen, college age or beyond (although usually mothers of toddlers and babies haven't yet become disgruntled).
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It isn't that mothers don't know that Mother's Day is a commercialized, idealized holiday, one where we tend to hold the bar high and are apt to be let down, even without finding husbands deficient -- it's that husbands could do so much better. For starters, gift shopping with a child (preferably a daughter) in tow works wonders. Add a store bought card or a homemade version, flowers and a box of chocolates to the mix. Husbands who decide to do the dishes, toss the garbage or walk the dog ratchet up their status on Mother's Day. And voilà , a less lame husband who aims to please.
Mothers, do you dread Mother's Day, too? Tell me about your Mother's Day gripes!
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Also, she's telling the husbands not to invite their mother over on mother's day, instead ignoring her for his wife. Does she not understand the meaning of the holiday?
The last time we ever tried a breakfast in bed, I mean the whole "everything you like on a tray" surprise, it was on a Mother's Day. Relatively early, because she takes her time getting ready for church. She was cranky, and so our son was crestfallen, and so of course she blamed me for "making" her cranky. I suggest it is avoidance of being crestfallen that causes lameness.
Mother's day, Father's day, Valentine's day ... Just stupid reasons to feel obligated to spend money.
I appreciate my mother 365 days out of the year, and come mother's day I don't do anything more special than the other 364 days of the year. If you wait for an appointed day before appreciating anyone you care about then you just suck as a person.
Heck, Mother's Day was an official holiday since 1908, but it wasn't until 1966 that Father's Day was made an official holiday, almost forty years later!
And what do women do for their spouses on Father's Day?
Not half as much as they receive nationwide on Mother's Day - men spend twice as much on their spouses for Mother's Day as women do for Father's Day.
"More than seventy percent say that they can't recall the last conversation they had with their husbands that wasn't child-centered."--Well, since most women are socialized to go for the fripperies of life (shopping for yet another pair of shoes) instead of talking about important stuff--sex and wine, notably--it's difficult to find a common topic. That's why living together 24/7 merely because one is married is such a bad idea. It kills the love and respect.
I fear you may have violated one of our most revered Female Bylaws by writing the line "I've had to rein him in on the jewelry."
Husband hating becomes an industrial complex.