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Spirituality As A Way of Life

Posted: 02/10/10 12:41 PM ET

I never like the word 'spirituality' because it seemed New Age or tied to concepts of God in organized religion. However, having returned from my first trip to India, I find it best describes the culture I experienced there.

Let me define spirituality as 'a sense of connection to something larger than oneself' and in India this attention to spirituality is pervasive. It is evident in every aspect of the culture -- there is a constant integration of reminders that we are part of something larger than the self. It is evident in the shrines that are present on every street corner, created on sides of houses, roadside stops, hilltops, alleyways, the back of tractor trailers, and beyond. Shrines are big, small, colorful, bland, dedicated to Shiva, Ganesh, Hanuman, or thousands of other manifestations of our shared nature, to Hindus the manifestations of a Oneness or God or an Ultimate Reality. It is evident in the pervasive Namaste -- a greeting with hands folded in a prayer position accompanied by a bow that means something like "I see the Oneness in you." It is evident in the pervasive 'bindi,' the smudge of color between the eyebrow -- a reminder that we are part of something larger than the self -- visible by a 'third eye' if you will.

On a road in a rural region of Rashastan, we stumbled upon a shrine that had been established in honor of a young man killed on a motorcycle. The motorcycle and image of the man were centered behind a fire, kept alive by the eternal visits of thousands of strangers to this roadside shrine. Vendors had sprung up to provide gifts of donation at the shrine, bells and drums were played, and devotees prayed for safe travels. It was an example of both the magical and superstitious thinking pervasive in India and the recognition and gratitude for life and our connections to one another; a spiritual connection to something beyond the self.

To the outsider, India and its spirituality may seem a land of irrational thinking -- far from the rational mind of the West. But the integration of spiritual development into daily life may be a factor in why India ranks higher than the U.S. on national rankings of Happiness (e.g. happyplanetindex.org). Perhaps constant reminders of our interconnected and dependent nature make emotions and actions stemming from self-centeredness more difficult to come by.

In the West, we tend to compartmentalize our time for spiritual practice if present (times of day or days of week) while in India it is constant -- morning to night, birth to death. I am not suggesting an adoption of the religions of India but rather adopting an increased awareness of recognition of our interconnected nature into daily life. I am suggesting that attention to our connections beyond our 'individuality', our individual 'self,' is important for health and well-being (science shows that is true, for example, see R. Cloninger, Feeling Good: The Science of Well-being). Perhaps we can take a lead from the Indian culture and attend more overtly to our relationships beyond our self.

It can be part of daily life by acknowledging more readily the influences that shape you:

1. Home, environment, air, water, food
2. Family, parents, children, friends, strangers
3. Music, art, literature, Nature
4. Humanity, Universe, Evolution, God, Oneness, Truth

What if we attend to these elements with acknowledgment, gratitude and love every day from morning to night. It can be internal (heartfelt attention) or external (smile, handshake, eye contact, a nod, listening, and action). It is possible to integrate spirituality into our daily lives without adhering to any particular religion and without compartmentalizing it to circumscribed times of day or days per week.

Perhaps we can make spirituality a way of life, much like in India, albeit with a different external appearance.

 

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I never like the word 'spirituality' because it seemed New Age or tied to concepts of God in organized religion. However, having returned from my first trip to India, I find it best describes the cul...
I never like the word 'spirituality' because it seemed New Age or tied to concepts of God in organized religion. However, having returned from my first trip to India, I find it best describes the cul...
 
 
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LifeChangeStartsNow
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05:51 PM on 02/12/2010
Susan, wonderful post. It's great to read that you've gotten what India is all about. She is by far my favourite country. Despite their hard lives and other social ills which affects a significant section of the population, the spirituality which is endemic in the country buoys them along creating a brightness that I've never witnessed anywhere else.

Thanks for sharing India.
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Beth Boyle
02:25 PM on 02/11/2010
I like that definition of spirituality!
01:24 PM on 02/11/2010
Wonderful article! Thanks for posting it.
08:58 AM on 02/11/2010
Interesting article!
01:24 AM on 02/11/2010
While I agree with the conclusion of the article I find it typical of some westerners who automatically have to insert the comment about religion, as Ms Smally has at the beginning of the piece, and then go on to wax lyrical about a particular faith as Ms Smally does with Hinduism.
And she is right about the fact that we overly compartamentalize our lives now. Still.
Her exculsion of organized religion at the start (and Hinduism is definitely an organized religion) references expressions of Christianity, Judiasm and Islam as faiths that are not, by her definition, spirtiual.
This would come as some surprise to the likes of St Francis, Thomas Aquinas, Mother Theresa and millons of unnamed Christians who live their faith every moment of their lives as best they can. Not perfectly perhaps but they try.
There are millions of Jews and Moslems who do the same. Quietly, without screaming to the rooftops or shrinks. They just go ahout celebrating creation, protecting and conserving it as best they can and those around them can.
What about this is different than what she found in India? Or what it another gratutious shot as "organized" religion?
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05:31 PM on 02/12/2010
TtfnJohn,

Hinduism is a way of life, not an organised religion. And you're way off base in your comments based on the article but I suspect that you're very comfortable there.

Cheers.
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Riverman
The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars,
08:15 PM on 02/10/2010
Becoming aware of the internal nature of our experience is good. Seeking any understanding beyond our own constructed reality is even better. However I still instinctively reject delusional thinking even as I acknowledge that reality is more complicated than our perceptions and understanding. I am not able to define the border between perception and reality let alone between meaningful and not. Is there a formula for this? How can our fleshy brains understand a hyperdimensional multiverse and if we could pull it off would it actually mater?
06:19 PM on 02/10/2010
If religion makes you happy, God bless you.

If drugs make you happy, more power to you.

If public service makes you happy, thank you.

If constant sexual gratification makes your happy, etc. etc. etc.

Understand that it's all just killing time until the end...
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rdiaz921
01:18 PM on 02/11/2010
what if it isn't? what if...?
01:23 PM on 02/11/2010
Well, then you had better live your life in fear, give them your money, repeat your mantra and pray like h3ll.

Your argument smacks of one I've heard time and again from the religious...the "if you're right and there is nothing, then I lose nothing by believing whereas if I am right and there is a God, then you are in trouble" argument.

Is that what you call faith?

That's what I call hedging your bet.
05:24 PM on 02/10/2010
Spirituality may or may not be connected to one's "religion." There are countless church goers for whom church attendance is a social activity, but they have no authentic or deep connection to God or any other spiritual entity or force greater than themselves. I happen to be a Christian church member, but I've known my share of spiritual individuals who did not belong to any religious organization.
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onlyThis
How do you free a bird from an empty cage?
01:15 PM on 02/11/2010
One of my favorite quotes comes to mind - "Going to church no more makes you a Christian than standing in your garage makes you a car".
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05:38 PM on 02/12/2010
I heard someone say once that *religion is the door that leads to spirituality". I completely agree with that. Most people become bogged down in the dogma because it feels safe and they're with other like-minded individuals and never find the enlightenment they were seeking. That's a shame.