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Susan Stiffelman
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Susan Stiffelman embodies a unique blend of licensed psychotherapist, credentialed teacher, beloved auntie and down to earth mom. Her book, Parenting Without Power Struggles is based on her work with thousands of parents and children, from celebrities to everyday moms and pops.

Susan offers solid, rubber meets the road advice that has been thoroughly tested on kids of all ages and demographics. At the same time that she draws on her solid training and experience, her approach to raising kids falls into step with the spiritually-based understanding of people like Eckhart Tolle and Marianne Williamson.

She’s an innovative teacher: She was employed as a private teacher for a family whose international travels allowed her to teach -- and learn -- what it means to be a global citizen from day to day experiences. The experiences she had also shaped her understanding of what a child can learn when given unbridled freedom and inspiration.

She’s a passionate educator, homeschooling her own son until the age of eleven, taking him around the world -- including India when he was two years old -- and educating him in such a way that he received a scholarship at American University where he studies Peace and Conflict Resolution in their International Studies program.

Susan’s an outside-the-box thinker: She taught herself Hindi as a teenager and when she ran out of people to practice her conversational skills, she began calling people named "Singh" out of the phone book.

She’s a dynamo: Diagnosed with the ADHD label, she manages to accomplish more in a week than many do in months, juggling writing her book with maintaining a private therapy practice, conducting parenting workshops, writing an online advice column, conducting telephone parent coaching sessions, all the while raising her teenage son.

And finally, Susan is deeply committed to enjoying her life, living with appreciation and having fun. She has had a regular meditation practice since she was seventeen years old, and has always made the nourishment of her heart and soul a number one priority.

Susan lives in Malibu, California with her son (when he's not off at college), her dog Rosie, and a full and grateful heart.

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Entries by Susan Stiffelman

My 14-Year-Old Wants to Have Sex

(0) Comments | Posted July 22, 2014 | 11:56 AM

I found out from the mother of one of my daughter's friends that that she is thinking of having sex with her 15-year-old boyfriend of two months. When I asked my daughter about it, she says it was not true. But her friend told her mother that they have already...

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Dreading Visit From Wild Nieces and Nephews!

(0) Comments | Posted July 16, 2014 | 4:32 PM

My brother does not live near his children, so he tries to do something fun with them during their month together each summer. He usually brings them to see us for a few days during those visits, but this year, he has asked to stay with my kids and I...

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'Till Death Do Us Part'

(2) Comments | Posted July 6, 2014 | 3:38 PM

Last week would have marked my twenty-fifth wedding anniversary. Although my former husband and I have been parted now for many years, when the date rolled around and I did the math, I felt it as a momentous occasion. Right away I was transported to the Rose Garden in Kansas...

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How Can I Get My Kids to Like My New Boyfriend?

(0) Comments | Posted July 1, 2014 | 12:03 PM

My children are 6 and almost 8 years old. I have been divorced from their dad for over three years and have been with my new boyfriend for over three months. We are very much in love and already talking about getting married in the future. My kids met my...

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My Daughter Lied to Me. What Should I Do?

(0) Comments | Posted June 23, 2014 | 3:38 PM

My 8-year-old daughter recently lied to me. I told her that someday we could watch the Harry Potter movies, but that they were too scary for her right now. She recently spent a few days with my father and stepmother. I asked about what she did with them including, "Did...

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'Will You Send the Baby Back to the Hospital Now, Mommy?'

(0) Comments | Posted June 19, 2014 | 9:41 AM

When I told our 4-year-old daughter that I was having a baby, she could not have been happier. Now that her baby brother is here, she is having a very hard time. She is defiant, moody and tells me she wishes I would send the baby back to the hospital....

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What Is the Best Approach to Discipline?

(0) Comments | Posted June 10, 2014 | 11:18 AM

My sisters and I have very different parenting styles. They both use time outs and punishments, and my approach is more what you teach here, Susan, where you try to see the child's misbehavior as letting you know there is a problem that should be handled that the child may...

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'School Is Out and My Kids Just Want to Watch TV!'

(0) Comments | Posted June 3, 2014 | 11:20 AM

I have three children ages 13, 11 and 9. On weekends and school breaks they have a bad habit of getting out of bed and going downstairs and turning on the TV. They come down at different times, the last being my 13-year-old, which therefore extends their viewing time. Before...

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Please: If You See Something, Say Something

(1) Comments | Posted May 27, 2014 | 11:32 AM

Yet again, someone fell through the cracks. Warning signs were noticed but underestimated -- if not entirely missed -- and now, here we are, yet again...

I am filled with sorrow as I think about what is happening tonight in the Santa Barbara homes of the victims of this most...

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Playdate Problems!

(0) Comments | Posted May 20, 2014 | 11:25 AM

Hi Susan,

My son is a very sweet 9-year-old boy, and we get along very well when it's just the two of us. But when we invite a friend for a playdate, he becomes a different person. He gets overly excited and doesn't listen to me. I sometimes refuse to...

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Can't Get Your Kids to Read? Read on!

(2) Comments | Posted May 13, 2014 | 11:49 AM

I am having trouble getting my 12-year-old to do his nightly required reading. He is a pretty good student, but we fight about his reading log every single night. My friends are saying the same thing about their kids; they never pick up a book for fun and they argue...

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Defiant 5-Year-Old Brazenly Eats Her Brother's Cookie!

(0) Comments | Posted May 7, 2014 | 12:40 PM

My almost-5-year-old granddaughter is starting to push the limits with me. For example, when she was here last with her 2-year-old brother, she had the two last cookies in her hand. I told her to be sure she offers her brother one. She said she would, but proceeded to eat...

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My Daughter Has a BAD Attitude!

(0) Comments | Posted April 29, 2014 | 10:58 AM

My 10-year-old daughter has started using a sassy tone with me whenever I ask her to do something like clear the table or turn off the TV. Her teacher and friends' parents tell me that she has wonderful manners but these days, she is often rude to me. Even if...

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5 Tips for Helping Little Ones Adjust to Babysitters

(0) Comments | Posted April 21, 2014 | 10:44 AM

My almost-5-year-old daughter refuses to stay with a babysitter. I have no family nearby and it has been ages since my husband and I went out on a date night. (The last time was six months ago when my mother was in town. She is the only one my...

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Exhausted By My Boys' Constant Motion!

(0) Comments | Posted April 15, 2014 | 10:53 AM

My boys, who are 6 and 8, are very physical. When they can't be outside, they are constantly wrestling with each other, making noise or running around the house. What should I do to get them to behave better?

Not long ago, as I was walking through an outdoor mall,...

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Am I the Only Parent Who Calls Before Sleepovers?

(0) Comments | Posted April 8, 2014 | 3:43 PM

My almost-14 1/2-year-old daughter gets furious if I call to see if someone's parents are going to be home when she wants to go to a sleepover or a party. She tells me I am the only parent who does things like that and that I should trust her to...

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Is Conscious Uncoupling Actually Possible?

(1) Comments | Posted April 1, 2014 | 11:17 AM

I am going through a messy divorce. My husband and I can't even have a two-minute conversation without things turning ugly. My son is angry all the time and my daughter breaks down in tears at the drop of a hat. I am stressed all the time. What can I...

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My Adult Kids Think I Drink Too Much and Won't Let My Grandkids Spend the Night

(0) Comments | Posted March 24, 2014 | 4:21 PM

My adult son and daughter won't let my grandchildren stay overnight at my house with me. They think I drink too much and won't take good care of the kids, but I am very loving and caring, and would never overdo my drinking with my grandchildren around. How can I...

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Parenting With Presence

(0) Comments | Posted March 17, 2014 | 11:37 AM

I've done yoga for years, meditate at least a few times a week and read books by spiritual authors like Eckhart Tolle and Marianne Williamson. I talk about living in the moment, but when I am with my children, I am often somewhere else in my mind. Even worse, I...

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Shoes! Every Morning Is a Battle Over Putting On Shoes!

(0) Comments | Posted March 10, 2014 | 3:07 PM

I know this sounds like a small problem compared to what a lot of parents write you about. But every morning there is a war at my house over trying to get my 3 1/2-year-old to put on her shoes and socks. I have to chase her and then practically...

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