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Susan Stiffelman
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Susan Stiffelman embodies a unique blend of licensed psychotherapist, credentialed teacher, beloved auntie and down to earth mom. Her book, Parenting Without Power Struggles is based on her work with thousands of parents and children, from celebrities to everyday moms and pops.

Susan offers solid, rubber meets the road advice that has been thoroughly tested on kids of all ages and demographics. At the same time that she draws on her solid training and experience, her approach to raising kids falls into step with the spiritually-based understanding of people like Eckhart Tolle and Marianne Williamson.

She’s an innovative teacher: She was employed as a private teacher for a family whose international travels allowed her to teach -- and learn -- what it means to be a global citizen from day to day experiences. The experiences she had also shaped her understanding of what a child can learn when given unbridled freedom and inspiration.

She’s a passionate educator, homeschooling her own son until the age of eleven, taking him around the world -- including India when he was two years old -- and educating him in such a way that he received a scholarship at American University where he studies Peace and Conflict Resolution in their International Studies program.

Susan’s an outside-the-box thinker: She taught herself Hindi as a teenager and when she ran out of people to practice her conversational skills, she began calling people named "Singh" out of the phone book.

She’s a dynamo: Diagnosed with the ADHD label, she manages to accomplish more in a week than many do in months, juggling writing her book with maintaining a private therapy practice, conducting parenting workshops, writing an online advice column, conducting telephone parent coaching sessions, all the while raising her teenage son.

And finally, Susan is deeply committed to enjoying her life, living with appreciation and having fun. She has had a regular meditation practice since she was seventeen years old, and has always made the nourishment of her heart and soul a number one priority.

Susan lives in Malibu, California with her son (when he's not off at college), her dog Rosie, and a full and grateful heart.

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Entries by Susan Stiffelman

Tech-Savvy Kids Forgetting How to Make Conversation

(0) Comments | Posted February 9, 2016 | 9:33 PM

My parents were with us over the weekend and my kids (12 and 14) were awful! All they wanted to do was text their friends or go on social media. Their grandparents only visit twice a year and make a lot of effort to spend time with them. I don't expect...
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'It's Not Fair! Why Does My Sister Get To... ?'

(0) Comments | Posted February 3, 2016 | 12:25 PM

It's not fair! She always gets to go first!

It's not fair! Why do I have to go to bed and he gets to stay up?

It's not fair! You gave her a bigger piece!

Sound familiar? Most parents know all too well the refrain of It's not fair! We...

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13 Year Old Skipping Gym Class Every Day!

(61) Comments | Posted January 24, 2016 | 9:50 PM

My 13 year old has been skipping gym class. She refuses to go. She said she doesn't care how much trouble she will get in, she will not go. The principal and counselor have been trying to help and now every time she skips she had to sit in principles...

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Parenting Is Easier When We Carve Out 'Soul Time'

(0) Comments | Posted January 20, 2016 | 2:27 PM

I start out each day determined to be calm with my kids but it doesn't last long. I have friends who meditate but I don't think I'd be very good at it because I have a very restless mind. I want to be patient but after doing things for my...

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Mom Tired of Battling Tired Teen to Get Up in the Morning!

(3) Comments | Posted January 12, 2016 | 12:11 PM

Every morning is a battle to get my 16-year-old son up and out the door for school. He stays up late at night and then in the morning he is exhausted and irritable. He says he wants me to wake him up but I am tired of fighting every day.

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Kids Were Happier When We Were All Unplugged!

(0) Comments | Posted January 4, 2016 | 4:23 PM

After reading your article last week, my husband and I decided to unplug our family from all our devices. Our kids pushed back at first, especially our 15 year old. But like you said it turned out to be really nice. We all got along better, and they played with...

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Can't Unplug Kids From Video Games!

(5) Comments | Posted December 28, 2015 | 12:04 PM

I've tried hard to make the holidays a time for family, but all my sons want to do is play video games. I admit that I sometimes go on Facebook or Instagram to relax, but I don't sit in front of a screen anywhere near as much as they do....

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Resetting Kids' Expectations About Christmas

(0) Comments | Posted December 19, 2015 | 12:33 PM

When I was growing up, we didn't have much. Each kid got a few presents for Christmas and we were happy about it. Our kids expect way too much--partly because my wife and I have overdone it, buying almost everything on their lists. They are happy for a while but...

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Grandparents Break All Our Parenting Rules!

(34) Comments | Posted December 14, 2015 | 5:40 PM

We are going to be spending the holidays at my parents and I am dreading it. They don't have any respect for our rules about sugar or bedtime or clearing up from the table. It takes days for us to get our kids back on track after we have visited...

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How Can I Get Child to Behave Nicely at Home? She's Perfect at School!

(0) Comments | Posted December 7, 2015 | 4:18 PM

I read a recent article from you regarding a daughter who was an angel at school and aggressive at home. This could describe my eight-year old daughter to a tee. I have sought help from doctors, health visitors and her school. I have tried The Naughty Step and 123 Magic....

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Micro-Rejections Impact Children's Self Esteem

(16) Comments | Posted November 30, 2015 | 11:36 PM

I am a 17-year-old boy. My parents are always criticizing me and telling me what I'm doing wrong in life. I don't get as good grades as my brother, but things come easier to him. I can't talk about any of this with my parents. They just tell me I...

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My Child Cries When It's Time to Stay With Daddy

(3) Comments | Posted November 25, 2015 | 12:31 AM

My son's father and I divorced when he was 3, and he is now 7. My ex-husband is a good dad and loves our son a lot, but our little boy has a hard time going over to his dad's house. He is supposed to spend a full week with...

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¿Por qué mi hija se porta mal en casa y fuera es un angelito?

(2) Comments | Posted November 21, 2015 | 9:55 AM

Tengo una hija de 11 años que se enfada con mucha facilidad. Cuando intento explicarle tranquilamente por qué no puede tener las cosas que quiere, se pone a gritar, a dar portazos o incluso a tirar cosas. En el colegio y en otros sitios se porta bien. ¿Por qué tiene...

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Pourquoi ma fille est un monstre à la maison et un ange ailleurs?

(2) Comments | Posted November 20, 2015 | 2:46 PM

J'ai une fille de 11 ans qui se fâche très facilement. Quand je tente doucement de lui expliquer qu'elle ne peut pas avoir tout ce qu'elle veut, elle crie, claque les portes et lance des objets. Elle se comporte parfaitement à l'école et chez les autres. Pourquoi fait-elle ce genre...
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Talking With Children and Teens About the Paris Attacks

(0) Comments | Posted November 15, 2015 | 4:31 PM

We are all agonizing over the tragic events in Paris. Something horrific has taken place that makes no sense at all. How do we possibly explain what happened in France to our children, when we ourselves cannot begin to comprehend it?

Here are a few thoughts that may be helpful...

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Why Is My Daughter Aggressive at Home and an Angel Everywhere Else?

(0) Comments | Posted November 10, 2015 | 9:41 AM

I have an eleven-year old daughter who gets angry very easily. When I nicely try to explain why she can't have what she wants, she yells, slams doors, or even throws things. She is perfectly fine at school or at other people's houses. Why does she have these temper tantrums...

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To Reach (for the Cell Phone) or Not to Reach, That Is the Question

(0) Comments | Posted November 4, 2015 | 1:33 PM

Not long ago, I wrote an article about The Reach, a term I use to describe the semi-involuntary movement we make toward our smart phones when they ping. You're having a conversation with someone in the 3D world. "Ping!" Your device announces an incoming email or text message. It might...

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7 Kids and Their Rooms Are a Mess!

(0) Comments | Posted October 28, 2015 | 2:03 PM

My boyfriend and I have seven kids between us. I have been struggling because the girls will not do their chores. When they go to bed at night their room is completely clean. From the time they get up in the morning to the time they get on the bus...

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Perfectionism Makes Raising a Toddler Very Challenging

(0) Comments | Posted October 19, 2015 | 8:55 PM

I have always been something of a perfectionist and am starting to have a really hard time with motherhood. My little boy is 14 months old and I am losing my temper more and more because of the constant mess. I used to be able to keep my home tidy...

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The Reach: That Involuntary Tug Our Cell Phone Delivers

(0) Comments | Posted October 13, 2015 | 7:15 PM

I've done it more times than I care to admit. You probably have, too. I try to ignore the urge, but it takes a lot of will power, and even if I resist, part of me falls prey to FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out.)

I'm talking about what I have...

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