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Susan Stiffelman
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Susan Stiffelman embodies a unique blend of licensed psychotherapist, credentialed teacher, beloved auntie and down to earth mom. Her book, Parenting Without Power Struggles is based on her work with thousands of parents and children, from celebrities to everyday moms and pops.

Susan offers solid, rubber meets the road advice that has been thoroughly tested on kids of all ages and demographics. At the same time that she draws on her solid training and experience, her approach to raising kids falls into step with the spiritually-based understanding of people like Eckhart Tolle and Marianne Williamson.

She’s an innovative teacher: She was employed as a private teacher for a family whose international travels allowed her to teach -- and learn -- what it means to be a global citizen from day to day experiences. The experiences she had also shaped her understanding of what a child can learn when given unbridled freedom and inspiration.

She’s a passionate educator, homeschooling her own son until the age of eleven, taking him around the world -- including India when he was two years old -- and educating him in such a way that he received a scholarship at American University where he studies Peace and Conflict Resolution in their International Studies program.

Susan’s an outside-the-box thinker: She taught herself Hindi as a teenager and when she ran out of people to practice her conversational skills, she began calling people named "Singh" out of the phone book.

She’s a dynamo: Diagnosed with the ADHD label, she manages to accomplish more in a week than many do in months, juggling writing her book with maintaining a private therapy practice, conducting parenting workshops, writing an online advice column, conducting telephone parent coaching sessions, all the while raising her teenage son.

And finally, Susan is deeply committed to enjoying her life, living with appreciation and having fun. She has had a regular meditation practice since she was seventeen years old, and has always made the nourishment of her heart and soul a number one priority.

Susan lives in Malibu, California with her son (when he's not off at college), her dog Rosie, and a full and grateful heart.

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Entries by Susan Stiffelman

Exhausted By My Boys' Constant Motion!

(0) Comments | Posted April 15, 2014 | 10:53 AM

My boys, who are 6 and 8, are very physical. When they can't be outside, they are constantly wrestling with each other, making noise or running around the house. What should I do to get them to behave better?

Not long ago, as I was walking through an outdoor mall,...

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Am I the Only Parent Who Calls Before Sleepovers?

(0) Comments | Posted April 8, 2014 | 3:43 PM

My almost-14 1/2-year-old daughter gets furious if I call to see if someone's parents are going to be home when she wants to go to a sleepover or a party. She tells me I am the only parent who does things like that and that I should trust her to...

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Is Conscious Uncoupling Actually Possible?

(1) Comments | Posted April 1, 2014 | 11:17 AM

I am going through a messy divorce. My husband and I can't even have a two-minute conversation without things turning ugly. My son is angry all the time and my daughter breaks down in tears at the drop of a hat. I am stressed all the time. What can I...

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My Adult Kids Think I Drink Too Much and Won't Let My Grandkids Spend the Night

(0) Comments | Posted March 24, 2014 | 4:21 PM

My adult son and daughter won't let my grandchildren stay overnight at my house with me. They think I drink too much and won't take good care of the kids, but I am very loving and caring, and would never overdo my drinking with my grandchildren around. How can I...

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Parenting With Presence

(0) Comments | Posted March 17, 2014 | 11:37 AM

I've done yoga for years, meditate at least a few times a week and read books by spiritual authors like Eckhart Tolle and Marianne Williamson. I talk about living in the moment, but when I am with my children, I am often somewhere else in my mind. Even worse, I...

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Shoes! Every Morning Is a Battle Over Putting On Shoes!

(0) Comments | Posted March 10, 2014 | 3:07 PM

I know this sounds like a small problem compared to what a lot of parents write you about. But every morning there is a war at my house over trying to get my 3 1/2-year-old to put on her shoes and socks. I have to chase her and then practically...

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Son Lies and Says He Has No Homework or Teacher 'Lost' His Assignments!

(3) Comments | Posted March 5, 2014 | 2:35 PM

My 13-year-old son lies about his school work. When he wants to get out of doing homework, he says he doesn't have any or that he did it in school. When I look online to see if he is caught up, he tells me his teachers don't update the homework...

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My Teen's Only 'Passion' Is Her Cell Phone!

(0) Comments | Posted February 26, 2014 | 2:36 PM

I know you talk about helping children find their passion, but my 15-year-old daughter doesn't seem to have any. The only thing she wants to do is text her friends or go shopping. I don't consider these passions! She used to love creative writing and made up cute plays when...

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Granddaughter's Tantrums Are Exhausting!

(0) Comments | Posted February 24, 2014 | 9:42 AM

Our 5-year-old granddaughter has awful tantrums when we don't let her have what she wants. Her parents try to be firm, but she wears everyone out with her demands. Any advice?

Children have tantrums when they feel overwhelmed by big emotions like anger, fear or disappointment. One way...

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Son's Grades Slipping: Is it ADD?

(1) Comments | Posted February 13, 2014 | 11:48 AM

My son, who is 12, is smart, but his grades are slipping because he isn't turning in all his homework. He did OK until last year, when he started at the middle school. My sister thinks he might have ADD (my nephew has it) but my husband think his problem...

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Weary of Mother-in-law's Constant Criticism

(0) Comments | Posted February 5, 2014 | 2:06 PM

My mother-in-law constantly criticizes the way I raise my two girls, who are 7 and 10. She says I am too lenient with them. I may not be a perfect parent, but I don't think I deserve to be criticized all the time. I feel constantly on edge whenever she...

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My Son Is a Sore Loser!

(0) Comments | Posted January 28, 2014 | 9:50 AM

My 6-year-old son is such a sore loser. Whether it's a board game, a video game, a game at school.... it doesn't matter. If he doesn't win, he cries and is in the worst mood possible. It kind of drives me crazy. I am of the school of thought that...

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'How Did the Tooth Fairy Find Me in New Delhi?'

(0) Comments | Posted January 24, 2014 | 8:00 AM

Click here to watch the TEDTalk that inspired this post.

I watched Julia Sweeney's It's Time for 'The Talk' with delight, touched by her transparent honesty as she dropped us into one of those all too familiar parenting moments when we wonder whether to tell "the...

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Boy Writes Parent Coach for Help With Video Game Addiction

(0) Comments | Posted January 21, 2014 | 11:08 AM

Hi, I am a boy that is really troubled. First of all, I am addicted to video games, I feel like without them I feel sad. My parents argue a lot and they both complain to me about each other and I just feel annoyed and I just want to...

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Long-Distance Parenting Is Hard On Us All

(1) Comments | Posted January 14, 2014 | 10:44 AM

Hopefully you can shed some light on this problem. I live 300 miles from my son. We keep in touch regularly (holidays, phone, text) but his mum and I have been worried about his schooling. (He is in his last year.) He has a "Can't be bothered attitude" and Mum...

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Perturbed By My Son's Procrastination

(0) Comments | Posted January 8, 2014 | 4:57 PM

My son is a horrible procrastinator. I can't for the life of me get him to do homework or even 10 minutes of chores without a major fight. Things end up taking five times as long as they need to. Any advice?

Your son is not alone in his challenge...

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'My Kids Make Me So Angry I Can't See Straight!'

(0) Comments | Posted December 31, 2013 | 10:40 AM

Sometimes I get so angry at my kids that I can't see straight. It could be that they won't come downstairs after I've called them over and over. Or I might start screaming if one of them talks back. I want to be a more patient person but it seems...

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Am I Crazy to Give My Tween a Cell Phone?

(1) Comments | Posted December 23, 2013 | 12:13 PM

We have finally decided to give my old iPhone to our 11-year-old for Christmas, and I'm already concerned that this may end up being a big mistake. Quite a few of his classmates have a cell phone and he has been begging for one. I want to make him happy...

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Does Daddy Time Have to Be Video Game Time?

(0) Comments | Posted December 17, 2013 | 5:04 PM

How would you handle tech time when playing computer games together is one of the special daddy activities? Would you count together time toward total screen time? And what about siblings watching others playing? If each of my children plays 30 minutes with Daddy, but they all watch, that's one...

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'My Daughter Needs to Make a House for Her Fairies... Right Before Bed!'

(0) Comments | Posted December 13, 2013 | 10:12 AM

My 8-year-old daughter is very creative, but sometimes she loses track of time. She will get the idea to make a house out of cardboard and cotton for her fairies just before bed. Or she will want to stay in the shower for an hour and a half (with the...

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