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Susan Stiffelman embodies a unique blend of licensed psychotherapist, credentialed teacher, beloved auntie and down to earth mom. Her book, Parenting Without Power Struggles is based on her work with thousands of parents and children, from celebrities to everyday moms and pops.

Susan offers solid, rubber meets the road advice that has been thoroughly tested on kids of all ages and demographics. At the same time that she draws on her solid training and experience, her approach to raising kids falls into step with the spiritually-based understanding of people like Eckhart Tolle and Marianne Williamson.

She’s an innovative teacher: She was employed as a private teacher for a family whose international travels allowed her to teach -- and learn -- what it means to be a global citizen from day to day experiences. The experiences she had also shaped her understanding of what a child can learn when given unbridled freedom and inspiration.

She’s a passionate educator, homeschooling her own son until the age of eleven, taking him around the world -- including India when he was two years old -- and educating him in such a way that he received a scholarship at American University where he studies Peace and Conflict Resolution in their International Studies program.

Susan’s an outside-the-box thinker: She taught herself Hindi as a teenager and when she ran out of people to practice her conversational skills, she began calling people named "Singh" out of the phone book.

She’s a dynamo: Diagnosed with the ADHD label, she manages to accomplish more in a week than many do in months, juggling writing her book with maintaining a private therapy practice, conducting parenting workshops, writing an online advice column, conducting telephone parent coaching sessions, all the while raising her teenage son.

And finally, Susan is deeply committed to enjoying her life, living with appreciation and having fun. She has had a regular meditation practice since she was seventeen years old, and has always made the nourishment of her heart and soul a number one priority.

Susan lives in Malibu, California with her son (when he's not off at college), her dog Rosie, and a full and grateful heart.

For more information, please visit www.parentingwithoutpowerstruggles.com. Or find her on Facebook.

Blog Entries by Susan Stiffelman

Helping Children Adjust to a Move

(0) Comments | Posted May 22, 2013 | 11:18 AM

How do I help my kids through a move, especially when I'm torn between trying to make their environment comfortable (e.g. unpacking) and trying to help them sort out everything that is new in their lives? They are definitely struggling, missing our old home and life. Frankly, it's been hard...

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My 6-Year-Old Got in Trouble at School and Isn't Sorry!

(1) Comments | Posted May 15, 2013 | 2:27 PM

Hi, my 6-year-old brought home a yellow card today for talking too much, not listening and not following directions. I asked him if he felt bad when he got the card and he said no. How do I guide my child to be accountable for his actions? How would you...

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Are Words Enough When My Child's Upset?

(0) Comments | Posted May 8, 2013 | 12:02 PM

My 2 1/2-year-old is very good at expressing his feelings, ("I feel like hitting," etc). Typically, I remind him that we can't do those things, and we talk about how to handle the situation in a different way. Lately, he has started saying, "I feel like yelling" when he's upset...

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My 13-Year-Old and I Are Both in Hormone Hell!

(1) Comments | Posted April 30, 2013 | 2:32 PM

As an older parent via adoption, I am desperate for suggestions that will help me stop butting heads with my 13-year-old. She just had her first period ten days ago. I haven't had a period for about four months. We are both quite hormonal and both strong-willed. Even asking her...

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How Can I Get My Daughter to Sleep in Her Bed Instead of Mine?

(20) Comments | Posted April 24, 2013 | 10:32 AM

My 8-year-old has a very hard time sleeping in her own bed. When she sleeps with me, she is very restless, making it hard for me to get a good night's sleep. She promises to stay in her room, but usually ends up climbing into my bed at two in...

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My Kids' Rooms Should be Declared Disaster Zones!

(1) Comments | Posted April 15, 2013 | 2:39 PM

My children are 10 and 12, and their rooms are always a mess. We battle every weekend, when I try to get them to do a big clean up. What can I do to avoid these power struggles?

Children make messes. They move from one activity or outfit to another,...

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'I Can't Buy My Kids Everything They Want!'

(4) Comments | Posted April 10, 2013 | 10:28 AM

I am recently divorced and money has been tight, to say the least. We live in a fairly well-to -do-community and I can't afford to buy my kids -- 7, 11 and 13 -- the same kinds of clothes or let them have as much spending money as their friends....

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'My Daughter Lies -- What Should I Do?'

(82) Comments | Posted April 3, 2013 | 1:13 PM

I don't know what to do about my 8-year-old daughter, who lies to me regularly about little things, like telling me she has showered when she hasn't. She knows she's going to get caught, but lies anyway. What should I do to get her to tell the truth?

In truth...

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How Should I Handle My Teen Trying Marijuana?

(46) Comments | Posted March 26, 2013 | 2:22 PM

My 15-year old son just told me that he tried marijuana a few weeks ago with his buddies. I don't know if I should punish him or if doing so will only make him become dishonest. He said he didn't like it, but I'm not sure I believe him.

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My Stepdaughter Wants Nothing to Do With Me

(5) Comments | Posted March 18, 2013 | 1:52 PM

My 14-year-old stepdaughter spends every other weekend with us, and she makes it clear that she doesn't like me and shows almost no interest in my 7-year-old son. I have been in her life for two years now and have tried to be nice but it bothers me that she...

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'I've Had it With My Sassy Tween!'

(5) Comments | Posted March 12, 2013 | 1:56 PM

My 11-year-old daughter has been acting very sassy with me. She mimics things I say and rolls her eyes when I ask her to do something like put on a sweater. What can I do about her bad attitude?

In nearly every tween-friendly TV show, kids use a...

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My Child Hits Me! What Can I Do?

(9) Comments | Posted March 4, 2013 | 1:56 PM

My daughter has started hitting me when she doesn't get what she wants. She is 6 years old and is strong. She has really hurt me a few times now. I don't know what to do. What can I do?

I'm very glad that you're writing when your daughter is...

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Our Only Child Never Wants to be Alone!

(1) Comments | Posted February 27, 2013 | 1:19 PM

My 10-year-old daughter is an only child, so her Dad and I have been her most consistent "playmate" and we all enjoy each others' company. Problem: How do I get my daughter to enjoy doing things on her own (play in her room, read a book, ride her bike, etc.)...

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'How Can I Get My Kids to Listen?'

(3) Comments | Posted February 19, 2013 | 12:25 PM

I can't get my children to listen. No matter how many times I repeat something, they tune me out. Is there some secret to getting my kids to do what I ask without nagging?

In one of her HuffPost blogs, Devon Corneal wrote, "I speak Parent, my...

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'I Have Nothing to Wear!'

(5) Comments | Posted February 12, 2013 | 2:18 PM

Every morning, my 12-year old daughter has a fit when it comes to getting dressed. By the time I drop her off at school, we're either yelling at each other or not speaking. I'm not willing to buy her a new outfit every week. What should I do?

For many...

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Harnessing the Passion for Learning That Births a Child's First Word

(1) Comments | Posted February 8, 2013 | 1:30 PM

Click here to read an original op-ed from the TED speaker who inspired this post and watch the TEDTalk below.

In Deb Roy's TEDTalk, The Birth of a Word, we are allowed to eavesdrop in on a time-lapse audio of his baby boy learning to pronounce...

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Easing Lunchtime Loneliness

(2) Comments | Posted February 5, 2013 | 3:35 PM

My seventh-grade son has been complaining about going to school for months. He usually eats lunch alone and according to him, "it's torture." He hasn't made many friends since we moved here at the beginning of the year and he is kind of a hard kid to get to know....

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Can I Rely Less on Electronic Babysitters?

(4) Comments | Posted January 30, 2013 | 10:18 AM

I am a working mother with a 7-year-old daughter and a 2-1/2-year-old son. I don't have much energy to play with them in the evening and feel guilty for not giving then sufficient attention. My daughter watches TV all the time and my son plays games on his cell phone....

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Using Lance Armstrong's Story to Teach Your Kids the Vocabulary of Remorse

(2) Comments | Posted January 22, 2013 | 11:28 AM

My children were big fans of Lance Armstrong, and have been angry and confused by the news of his cheating. Any advice for talking with them about what happened to someone they looked up to so much to explain his dishonesty?

His fall from grace was from an elevation so...

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Kids Are Messy, Impatient and Loud

(0) Comments | Posted January 16, 2013 | 9:42 AM

Dear Susan,

My 6-year old twin boys sometimes act like little terrors. They leave messes wherever they go, shout as they race through the house and insist on making goofy faces for every family photo. Any advice?

Signed,

Exhausted Mother

Kids are messy, impatient and loud. They leave toys in...

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