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Susan Stiffelman
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Susan Stiffelman embodies a unique blend of licensed psychotherapist, credentialed teacher, beloved auntie and down to earth mom. Her book, Parenting Without Power Struggles is based on her work with thousands of parents and children, from celebrities to everyday moms and pops.

Susan offers solid, rubber meets the road advice that has been thoroughly tested on kids of all ages and demographics. At the same time that she draws on her solid training and experience, her approach to raising kids falls into step with the spiritually-based understanding of people like Eckhart Tolle and Marianne Williamson.

She’s an innovative teacher: She was employed as a private teacher for a family whose international travels allowed her to teach -- and learn -- what it means to be a global citizen from day to day experiences. The experiences she had also shaped her understanding of what a child can learn when given unbridled freedom and inspiration.

She’s a passionate educator, homeschooling her own son until the age of eleven, taking him around the world -- including India when he was two years old -- and educating him in such a way that he received a scholarship at American University where he studies Peace and Conflict Resolution in their International Studies program.

Susan’s an outside-the-box thinker: She taught herself Hindi as a teenager and when she ran out of people to practice her conversational skills, she began calling people named "Singh" out of the phone book.

She’s a dynamo: Diagnosed with the ADHD label, she manages to accomplish more in a week than many do in months, juggling writing her book with maintaining a private therapy practice, conducting parenting workshops, writing an online advice column, conducting telephone parent coaching sessions, all the while raising her teenage son.

And finally, Susan is deeply committed to enjoying her life, living with appreciation and having fun. She has had a regular meditation practice since she was seventeen years old, and has always made the nourishment of her heart and soul a number one priority.

Susan lives in Malibu, California with her son (when he's not off at college), her dog Rosie, and a full and grateful heart.

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Entries by Susan Stiffelman

Not Taking Our Children's Behavior Personally

(0) Comments | Posted April 15, 2015 | 11:47 AM

My 11-year-old daughter -- who lives with my former wife -- is becoming very self-conscious around me. I walk with a limp and have a speech impediment (from a stroke some years ago) and she is now angry about my disability. I want to have a good relationship with my...

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13-Year-Old Becoming a Mean Big Sister

(18) Comments | Posted April 8, 2015 | 11:14 AM

Our daughter is 13, and although her teachers and friend's parents tell us she is delightful, she is horrible to her younger brother, and to me. It is especially hard on her 10-year-old brother to hear people praising her for being so sweet when she teases and ignores him. How...

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Parenting With Presence: An Eckhart Tolle Edition

(0) Comments | Posted April 7, 2015 | 10:40 AM

A note from Susan Stiffelman:

The following excerpt is from my new book, Parenting With Presence: Practices for Raising Conscious, Confident Caring Kids (An Eckhart Tolle Edition.)

Writing this book was a labor of love, in large part because of Eckhart Tolle's loving support and encouragement. He went through every...

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My Stepdaughter Claims She's an Outsider

(64) Comments | Posted April 1, 2015 | 5:26 PM

My 12-year-old stepdaughter is making life miserable for us all. I have been in her life since she was 5, but lately, she is very resentful of me and my son, who is 8. She ignores my requests, sasses back and complains to her aunt that she feels like an...

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I Feel Rage When My Daughter Gets Angry

(0) Comments | Posted March 25, 2015 | 1:11 PM

When my daughter gets angry, I find myself becoming enraged. I don't want to have that reaction. In fact, I want her to be able to express frustration and anger in ways that I was not allowed as a child. But in the moment, I become furious when she stands...

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How Can I Help My Fidgety Son Succeed in School?

(1) Comments | Posted March 18, 2015 | 12:00 PM

I have an exuberant 7-year old who is in perpetual motion. Last year he was constantly in trouble for getting out of his seat. How can I help him do better?

As a parenting coach and family therapist, I see a steady stream of "fidgety" kids in my...

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Little Boy Plagued by Irrational Fears

(0) Comments | Posted March 10, 2015 | 8:00 PM

My fifth grade son is anxious about all kinds of things. He worries that I might forget him at school (I never have), that a bee will sting him and he'll die (he is not allergic), or that our house will be swept away in a flood (we live where...

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Getting Kids to Dinner is a Nightly Battle!

(0) Comments | Posted March 9, 2015 | 5:00 PM

Even though I work full-time and am a parenting on my own, when I come home at the end of the day, I try to make something tasty and healthy for my kids' dinner. The problem is, they really don't appreciate it. What's more, I practically have to drag them...

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'Dad, Stop Posting Pictures of Me on Facebook!'

(0) Comments | Posted February 23, 2015 | 1:58 PM

My 16-year-old daughter is mortified when her dad posts pictures of her on Facebook, which is often. I sympathize with her, but my husband, who has always teased the kids as a way of showing affection, thinks his posts are a sign of love and doesn't want to stop. How...

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Tired of Chasing My Son at Homework Time!

(0) Comments | Posted February 17, 2015 | 5:24 PM

Bribes and threats are no longer working when it comes to getting my twelve-year old son to sit down and do his homework. I get furious, but no matter how hard I try to get him to make it important, he resists as long as possible. Help!

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My Kids Used to Think I Hung the Moon...

(0) Comments | Posted February 10, 2015 | 8:34 PM

Sometimes when I pick my kids up from school they act like I've ruined their day just by showing up. Gone is the toddler phase when they came running to greet me. Now they would rather be with their friends than me. I am hurt because they don't want to...

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How Can I Help My Daughter Stand Up for Herself?

(0) Comments | Posted February 4, 2015 | 10:44 AM

My 6-year-old daughter won't stand up for herself, even when a "friend" is teasing her and making her cry. She breaks down at the mere thought of asserting herself. I worry about future victimization. Help!

In a recent New York Times article, Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant described...

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Is My Isolating Teen Destined for Addiction?

(0) Comments | Posted January 27, 2015 | 12:03 PM

My 15-year-old son is very quiet and does not feel at ease with kids his own age. He struggles at school and when he comes home, he plays on his Xbox all evening. I sometimes find empty bottles of vodka in his room. How can we help him avoid relying...

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My Childrens' Mother Lies About Their Problems

(4) Comments | Posted January 19, 2015 | 11:09 PM

My 14-year-old son only turned in half his assignments in Science and Math this semester, and because his mother has custody, I wasn't informed. When I contacted their kids' teachers to see how they were doing, I found out about the missing homework. My son said the teachers were making...

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My Anger Is Hurting My Children

(3) Comments | Posted January 13, 2015 | 10:44 AM

My twins are only two and a half but I get extremely angry when they don't listen. I can go from zero to sixty in a way that is scary. I try to meet their requests/demands but they complain non-stop while I'm doing the best I can. (I work full-time...

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Daughter Tiptoes Around Aggressive Brother

(0) Comments | Posted January 7, 2015 | 10:30 AM

My son has intense rages. When things don't go the way he wants them to, he lashes out and often takes his anger out on his little sister. How can we help our daughter deal with his anger? He can be a great kid -- funny and smart -- but...

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Our Family's Time OFF Has Turned into Time ON... LINE

(0) Comments | Posted December 30, 2014 | 12:38 PM

I was looking forward to the holidays as a time to relax and unwind. And with my husband and I working so much, we hoped to reconnect with her three kids 11, 14 and 17. The fact is, they just want to be on their iPads and computers. If you...

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Avoiding Christmas Morning Meltdowns

(0) Comments | Posted December 22, 2014 | 8:59 PM

I know it's the season to count our blessings, but it seems like my children are never satisfied. Part of me is dreading Christmas morning, when at least one of them has a meltdown because they didn't get everything on their list. I feel ashamed of my kids, knowing how...

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My Cousin Calls Her Daughter 'Dummy' and 'Stupid'!

(0) Comments | Posted December 15, 2014 | 5:30 PM

I have a cousin whose child is five years old. Her mother can be verbally harsh at times, saying things like, "You're a monster. Stop it dummy. Are you stupid?" This has caused the little girl to lash out at adults verbally and physically. I'm not sure how to deal...

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Am I Overindulging My Children?

(0) Comments | Posted December 10, 2014 | 11:04 AM

I find it very hard to say "no" to my kids. How does someone know if they are over-indulging their children? I want my son and daughter to have a healthy respect for their needs but I don't want them to have a sense of entitlement. Can you talk about...

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