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Susan Stiffelman
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Susan Stiffelman embodies a unique blend of licensed psychotherapist, credentialed teacher, beloved auntie and down to earth mom. Her book, Parenting Without Power Struggles is based on her work with thousands of parents and children, from celebrities to everyday moms and pops.

Susan offers solid, rubber meets the road advice that has been thoroughly tested on kids of all ages and demographics. At the same time that she draws on her solid training and experience, her approach to raising kids falls into step with the spiritually-based understanding of people like Eckhart Tolle and Marianne Williamson.

She’s an innovative teacher: She was employed as a private teacher for a family whose international travels allowed her to teach -- and learn -- what it means to be a global citizen from day to day experiences. The experiences she had also shaped her understanding of what a child can learn when given unbridled freedom and inspiration.

She’s a passionate educator, homeschooling her own son until the age of eleven, taking him around the world -- including India when he was two years old -- and educating him in such a way that he received a scholarship at American University where he studies Peace and Conflict Resolution in their International Studies program.

Susan’s an outside-the-box thinker: She taught herself Hindi as a teenager and when she ran out of people to practice her conversational skills, she began calling people named "Singh" out of the phone book.

She’s a dynamo: Diagnosed with the ADHD label, she manages to accomplish more in a week than many do in months, juggling writing her book with maintaining a private therapy practice, conducting parenting workshops, writing an online advice column, conducting telephone parent coaching sessions, all the while raising her teenage son.

And finally, Susan is deeply committed to enjoying her life, living with appreciation and having fun. She has had a regular meditation practice since she was seventeen years old, and has always made the nourishment of her heart and soul a number one priority.

Susan lives in Malibu, California with her son (when he's not off at college), her dog Rosie, and a full and grateful heart.

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Entries by Susan Stiffelman

My Child Cries When It's Time to Stay With Daddy

(2) Comments | Posted November 25, 2015 | 12:31 AM

My son's father and I divorced when he was 3, and he is now 7. My ex-husband is a good dad and loves our son a lot, but our little boy has a hard time going over to his dad's house. He is supposed to spend a full week with...

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¿Por qué mi hija se porta mal en casa y fuera es un angelito?

(2) Comments | Posted November 21, 2015 | 9:55 AM

Tengo una hija de 11 años que se enfada con mucha facilidad. Cuando intento explicarle tranquilamente por qué no puede tener las cosas que quiere, se pone a gritar, a dar portazos o incluso a tirar cosas. En el colegio y en otros sitios se porta bien. ¿Por qué tiene...

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Pourquoi ma fille est un monstre à la maison et un ange ailleurs?

(1) Comments | Posted November 20, 2015 | 2:46 PM

J'ai une fille de 11 ans qui se fâche très facilement. Quand je tente doucement de lui expliquer qu'elle ne peut pas avoir tout ce qu'elle veut, elle crie, claque les portes et lance des objets. Elle se comporte parfaitement à l'école et chez les autres. Pourquoi fait-elle ce genre...
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Talking With Children and Teens About the Paris Attacks

(0) Comments | Posted November 15, 2015 | 4:31 PM

We are all agonizing over the tragic events in Paris. Something horrific has taken place that makes no sense at all. How do we possibly explain what happened in France to our children, when we ourselves cannot begin to comprehend it?

Here are a few thoughts that may be helpful...

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Why Is My Daughter Aggressive at Home and an Angel Everywhere Else?

(0) Comments | Posted November 10, 2015 | 9:41 AM

I have an eleven-year old daughter who gets angry very easily. When I nicely try to explain why she can't have what she wants, she yells, slams doors, or even throws things. She is perfectly fine at school or at other people's houses. Why does she have these temper tantrums...

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To Reach (for the Cell Phone) or Not to Reach, That Is the Question

(0) Comments | Posted November 4, 2015 | 1:33 PM

Not long ago, I wrote an article about The Reach, a term I use to describe the semi-involuntary movement we make toward our smart phones when they ping. You're having a conversation with someone in the 3D world. "Ping!" Your device announces an incoming email or text message. It might...

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7 Kids and Their Rooms Are a Mess!

(0) Comments | Posted October 28, 2015 | 2:03 PM

My boyfriend and I have seven kids between us. I have been struggling because the girls will not do their chores. When they go to bed at night their room is completely clean. From the time they get up in the morning to the time they get on the bus...

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Perfectionism Makes Raising a Toddler Very Challenging

(0) Comments | Posted October 19, 2015 | 8:55 PM

I have always been something of a perfectionist and am starting to have a really hard time with motherhood. My little boy is 14 months old and I am losing my temper more and more because of the constant mess. I used to be able to keep my home tidy...

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The Reach: That Involuntary Tug Our Cell Phone Delivers

(0) Comments | Posted October 13, 2015 | 7:15 PM

I've done it more times than I care to admit. You probably have, too. I try to ignore the urge, but it takes a lot of will power, and even if I resist, part of me falls prey to FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out.)

I'm talking about what I have...

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'I'm Too Tired to Enjoy My Kids!'

(1) Comments | Posted October 6, 2015 | 12:05 AM

I wanted badly to be a mother and I love my children to pieces (girls aged three, six, and a 10-year-old boy), but I am so exhausted that I wake up in the morning dreading the day ahead. I know all the magazine articles talk about taking care of ourselves,...

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"Mommy, I WANT THE iPAD!"

(3) Comments | Posted September 28, 2015 | 2:21 PM

The other day, I watched as a six year old little boy completely fell apart when the battery on his iPad died. He had been perfectly well behaved (no surprise) until it stopped working. Then all hell broke loose. He invaded my office for the charger, furious when he discovered...

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After Divorce: Can You and Daddy Please Be Nice to Each Other?

(0) Comments | Posted September 21, 2015 | 10:43 PM

My ex-wife infuriates me. Every time my kids forget something at my house or she thinks I didn't do a good enough job helping one of them study for a test, she goes ballistic. I try to be patient but she explodes at me, and then we're fighting like we...

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Thank You, Elizabeth Gilbert, for Encouraging the Hummingbirds!

(0) Comments | Posted September 15, 2015 | 12:30 PM

My daughter is 17 and heading into her final year of college. She is a wonderful girl with a lot of interests, but she worries that she doesn't feel a real sense of direction yet. Her two closest friends already know what they want to study and do in their...

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Come posso convincere i miei figli a leggere?

(1) Comments | Posted September 8, 2015 | 4:37 AM

Quando ci siamo conosciuti, io e mia moglie abbiamo subito scoperto di avere in comune un grande amore per la lettura. Quindi è davvero sconfortante il fatto che i nostri tre figli (di 9,11 e 14 anni) siano totalmente disinteressati ai libri. Vogliono solo stare al computer oppure incollati all'iPad....

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How Can I Get My Kids to Read?

(4) Comments | Posted September 7, 2015 | 11:31 AM

One of the things my wife and I had in common when we met was our love of reading. So it is really discouraging that all three of our children -- 9, 11 and 14 -- are so completely disinterested in books. All they want to do is be on...

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Teenage Girls, Mothers, and Aunties

(0) Comments | Posted August 31, 2015 | 9:35 PM

I am the single mom of three girls and am having a hard time with my fifteen-year-old. We have always been very close, but this past year, when she's upset, she turns to her Facebook friends instead of me. What can I do to make sure she's not getting steered...

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Stacking the Odds for a Good New School Year

(0) Comments | Posted August 20, 2015 | 5:43 PM

"My son is a bit of a handful, and I'm afraid he might have a repeat of the ongoing struggle we had with his teachers last year...""My eleven-year old is dreading the move to middle school, insisting she wants to stay in grade school forever...," "How can we make sure...

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Help! Our Toddler Has Terrible Tantrums!

(16) Comments | Posted August 11, 2015 | 8:03 PM

Help! My toddler's tantrums are wearing down the whole family. Why does she have them? How can we get them to stop?

"An explosive outburst... occurs when the cognitive demands being placed upon a person outstrip that person's capacity to respond adaptively." (Ross Greene, author of The Explosive Child.) In...

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When Your Husband Disagrees on Screen Time Limits

(1) Comments | Posted August 5, 2015 | 6:23 PM

My husband and I do not share the same view on how much technology our kids (nine and thirteen) should have access to. It creates a lot of tension in our house, not to mention confusion with our kids, who of course ask him if they can have time online...

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Helping a Friend Cope With Miscarriage

(1) Comments | Posted August 4, 2015 | 12:22 PM

I heard about Mark Zuckerberg and his wife having a baby. Although I am happy for them, it was hard because one of my best friends just miscarried her first baby last week. She was so excited to finally be pregnant after trying for over two years. She only shared...

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