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Susan Stiffelman
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Susan Stiffelman embodies a unique blend of licensed psychotherapist, credentialed teacher, beloved auntie and down to earth mom. Her book, Parenting Without Power Struggles is based on her work with thousands of parents and children, from celebrities to everyday moms and pops.

Susan offers solid, rubber meets the road advice that has been thoroughly tested on kids of all ages and demographics. At the same time that she draws on her solid training and experience, her approach to raising kids falls into step with the spiritually-based understanding of people like Eckhart Tolle and Marianne Williamson.

She’s an innovative teacher: She was employed as a private teacher for a family whose international travels allowed her to teach -- and learn -- what it means to be a global citizen from day to day experiences. The experiences she had also shaped her understanding of what a child can learn when given unbridled freedom and inspiration.

She’s a passionate educator, homeschooling her own son until the age of eleven, taking him around the world -- including India when he was two years old -- and educating him in such a way that he received a scholarship at American University where he studies Peace and Conflict Resolution in their International Studies program.

Susan’s an outside-the-box thinker: She taught herself Hindi as a teenager and when she ran out of people to practice her conversational skills, she began calling people named "Singh" out of the phone book.

She’s a dynamo: Diagnosed with the ADHD label, she manages to accomplish more in a week than many do in months, juggling writing her book with maintaining a private therapy practice, conducting parenting workshops, writing an online advice column, conducting telephone parent coaching sessions, all the while raising her teenage son.

And finally, Susan is deeply committed to enjoying her life, living with appreciation and having fun. She has had a regular meditation practice since she was seventeen years old, and has always made the nourishment of her heart and soul a number one priority.

Susan lives in Malibu, California with her son (when he's not off at college), her dog Rosie, and a full and grateful heart.

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Entries by Susan Stiffelman

Is My Isolating Teen Destined for Addiction?

(0) Comments | Posted January 27, 2015 | 1:03 PM

My 15-year-old son is very quiet and does not feel at ease with kids his own age. He struggles at school and when he comes home, he plays on his Xbox all evening. I sometimes find empty bottles of vodka in his room. How can we help him avoid relying...

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My Childrens' Mother Lies About Their Problems

(1) Comments | Posted January 20, 2015 | 12:09 AM

My 14-year-old son only turned in half his assignments in Science and Math this semester, and because his mother has custody, I wasn't informed. When I contacted their kids' teachers to see how they were doing, I found out about the missing homework. My son said the teachers were making...

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My Anger Is Hurting My Children

(3) Comments | Posted January 13, 2015 | 11:44 AM

My twins are only two and a half but I get extremely angry when they don't listen. I can go from zero to sixty in a way that is scary. I try to meet their requests/demands but they complain non-stop while I'm doing the best I can. (I work full-time...

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Daughter Tiptoes Around Aggressive Brother

(0) Comments | Posted January 7, 2015 | 11:30 AM

My son has intense rages. When things don't go the way he wants them to, he lashes out and often takes his anger out on his little sister. How can we help our daughter deal with his anger? He can be a great kid -- funny and smart -- but...

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Our Family's Time OFF Has Turned into Time ON... LINE

(0) Comments | Posted December 30, 2014 | 1:38 PM

I was looking forward to the holidays as a time to relax and unwind. And with my husband and I working so much, we hoped to reconnect with her three kids 11, 14 and 17. The fact is, they just want to be on their iPads and computers. If you...

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Avoiding Christmas Morning Meltdowns

(0) Comments | Posted December 22, 2014 | 9:59 PM

I know it's the season to count our blessings, but it seems like my children are never satisfied. Part of me is dreading Christmas morning, when at least one of them has a meltdown because they didn't get everything on their list. I feel ashamed of my kids, knowing how...

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My Cousin Calls Her Daughter 'Dummy' and 'Stupid'!

(0) Comments | Posted December 15, 2014 | 6:30 PM

I have a cousin whose child is five years old. Her mother can be verbally harsh at times, saying things like, "You're a monster. Stop it dummy. Are you stupid?" This has caused the little girl to lash out at adults verbally and physically. I'm not sure how to deal...

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Am I Overindulging My Children?

(0) Comments | Posted December 10, 2014 | 12:04 PM

I find it very hard to say "no" to my kids. How does someone know if they are over-indulging their children? I want my son and daughter to have a healthy respect for their needs but I don't want them to have a sense of entitlement. Can you talk about...

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Trouble Parenting My Stepson

(0) Comments | Posted December 2, 2014 | 11:44 AM

Ever since I married my husband three years ago, my 9-year-old stepson has stayed with us one weekend a month and we got along fine. A few weeks ago he started to live with us full time because his mother was having problems with alcohol. Now he is angry and...

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My Impulsive Son Throws Caution to the Wind

(0) Comments | Posted November 26, 2014 | 11:12 AM

I have a 10-year-old son who acts like a toddler sometimes.The other day he saw his friend across the street and rushed to meet him without looking to see if cars were coming. At school he gets in trouble because he will grab the ball on the playground or take...

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Husband Says Son Misbehaves Because Wife Doesn't Punish

(1) Comments | Posted November 20, 2014 | 12:36 PM

I have a 4-and-a-half-year-old son. All our relatives live back in my home country. My husband doesn't contribute much to raising the child. Even at home he is spending most of his time with his laptop. The problem is that my son hits and throws things when he is tired...

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Burdened With Guilt Over Past Parenting Mistakes

(1) Comments | Posted November 11, 2014 | 11:27 PM

I have been sober for a few years and my children (ages 10 and 12) and I are doing fine these days. But I can't get over the guilt I have for my past behavior. I created a lot of craziness when I was drinking, which also led to the...

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8 Tips for Helping Kids Get Over Fear of Dogs

(0) Comments | Posted November 4, 2014 | 3:32 PM

My seven-year old daughter is PETRIFIED of dogs even though she has never been bitten or attacked. It can be a tea cup Chihuahua or a Great Dane, the result is the same-- she freezes and screams. We have explained that dogs bark to communicate or jump because they want...

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Am I Crazy to Get a Dog For My Kids?

(0) Comments | Posted October 28, 2014 | 8:05 PM

My children are begging for a dog. They promise they'll do all the work, but given the power struggles we have around chores, I don't think they can be counted on. I feel bad depriving my children of a family pet, but I want to be realistic. My husband and...

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My Picky Eater Refuses to Eat What I Make!

(1) Comments | Posted October 21, 2014 | 2:20 PM

Our 12 year old daughter disrupts our household over FOOD! I love to cook, and have told her to pick anything in the world for dinner and I'd make it. Guess what ? Hmmm, she can't come up with anything! Help!

This is a great example of having a different...

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Can't Get My Teen to Get Out of Bed in the Morning!

(0) Comments | Posted October 16, 2014 | 2:21 AM

I struggle every morning to get my 17-year old son up for school. He messes around on his computer till way past midnight and is exhausted every morning. It is his junior year and his grades matter. He says he cares about doing well and getting into a good college...

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My Child Can't Sit Still at the Dinner Table!

(2) Comments | Posted October 7, 2014 | 6:28 PM

I spend every night at dinnertime trying to get my 4-year-old daughter to behave herself. I could understand if she was a toddler, but now she's old enough that she should be able to sit with us for 20 minutes. I usually end up mad and telling her to go...

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8 Tips for Helping Shy Kids Make Friends

(0) Comments | Posted October 1, 2014 | 12:25 PM

My son is a very shy child. He had one friend at school who was his best buddy last year (in first grade), but that boy moved away. My little guy is too shy to reach out to his classmates so he is often alone, and he is starting to...

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5 Tips for Getting Kids to Come to Dinner

(0) Comments | Posted September 22, 2014 | 2:21 PM

Every night, either my husband or I make dinner for our three kids. We both work hard at our jobs, so it is an effort to put together something nice, but we think it is important. Even so, we can't get our kids to come to the table. It's all...

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How Should I Deal With the Aggressive Little Boy Next Door?

(0) Comments | Posted September 15, 2014 | 12:00 PM

My daughter is 4 and an only child. The only other child in our neighborhood who is close to her age is the 4-year old next door, who is also an only child. But he hits her when he gets frustrated. Should I keep them apart? His mother is nice,...

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