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Susan Winter
As seen on "Oprah," best-selling author/relationship expert Susan Winter (Allowing Magnificence and Older Women/Younger Men) specializes in today’s evolving forms of loving partnership. Susan writes, speaks and coaches on all forms of romantic connection; from cutting-edge partnership models to traditional relationship challenges. Susan's work connects the individual with their authenticity, true expression and self-worth.

Susan’s credits include: "The Today Show," "Good Morning America," ABC/CBS/NBC Evening News, VH1 and CNN. Featured articles and cover stories include: Cosmo, Harpers Bazaar, People, Good Housekeeping, New York Times, Washington Post, London Times, Boston Herald, LA Times, Chicago Tribune, San Francisco Chronicle, IN TOUCH Magazine, Entertainment Weekly, Woman's World and The Times of India. In radio Susan has been a frequent guest on NPR, ABC, Playboy Network (Sirius Radio), CBS News Radio and 98FM-Dublin, Ireland.

Entries by Susan Winter

Why Dating 'Wrong' Is Right

(17) Comments | Posted August 20, 2015 | 3:11 AM

Modern dating has proven to be confusing to everyone. Rules that guided our behavior no longer apply. All the factors surrounding how we meet, date and mate have changed. In a time of no rules, what's the right (and wrong) approach to take when meeting a prospective partner?


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5 Tips to Tell if Your Partner's Lying to You

(7) Comments | Posted July 29, 2015 | 3:51 PM

All humans have innate intuition. Yet no one's cornered the market on this gift better than women. We may not know why we don't believe what our partner's telling us, but something about what he's saying or how he's saying it just doesn't add up. We feel it.

How far...

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Dating: A Numbers Game You CAN Win

(0) Comments | Posted July 8, 2015 | 5:49 PM

You know you want to meet someone special. But thinking about the effort required for hitting the dating scene leaves you exhausted before beginning the journey. Isn't there an easier way to find love? And, must it always involve stepping into the revolving dating door?

Despite its rigors, dating is...

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7 Signs You're in a Band Aid Relationship

(0) Comments | Posted June 24, 2015 | 3:46 PM

Are you in a lukewarm relationship? One that's neither great, nor bad? It's not too hot to burn you, but not too cold to cause discomfort. One where you know your partner isn't your ideal choice but they'll do for now?

It's a couple's world by design. It's hard...

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To Stay, or Leave?

(0) Comments | Posted June 8, 2015 | 3:05 PM

What do you do when your relationship isn't working? Whether you've been married for 15 years or dating for eight months, the decision whether to stay or leave is never easy. How long do you keep trying to make it right? And, when do you throw in the towel and...

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5 Principles for Dating Success

(0) Comments | Posted May 6, 2015 | 3:53 PM

Dating is a venue for creating a rewarding connection with another person. We want to believe all of this just happens naturally. Sometimes it does. However, the ease we assume should be automatic is actually the result of having these five factors understood and exhibited:

1. Know yourself:

Know your...

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The Dating Game of Hot and Cold

(0) Comments | Posted April 19, 2015 | 4:02 PM

Is your partner playing hot and cold? One minute you're high on the warmth of their attention, the next minute you're frozen out and left wondering what happened. You begin to question your actions. Did you say the wrong thing? Did you make the wrong move?

It's long been...

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3 Simple Steps for Getting the Love You Want

(4) Comments | Posted April 8, 2015 | 3:37 PM

Spring has finally arrived. Inspired by the beauty of nature's rebirth, many singles are enlivened with thoughts of romance. As our hopes and dreams of meeting someone special are awakened, so are our concerns for love's success.

Though we live in a world with seemingly endless opportunities to meet people,...

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Are You Stuck in His 'Stable'?

(17) Comments | Posted March 25, 2015 | 10:46 AM

Most women prefer to be in some form of "relationship." No matter how modern those parameters may be, there's comfort in knowing where we stand with a man. While it's often the case that both sexes will date multiple partners before making a selection, structure creates the connection and intimacy...

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10 Steps to Moving Beyond the Friend Zone

(9) Comments | Posted March 10, 2015 | 12:45 PM

Are you stuck in the friend zone? It's a rotten position to hold when you'd prefer to be the "lover." The fear of staying trapped in a minimal position is equal to the fear of moving forward. Frozen in a battle between two conflicting emotions, we wonder, is something better...

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Você está repensando o 'até que a morte nos separe?'

(3) Comments | Posted February 27, 2015 | 5:57 PM

Por que será que nos apegamos tanto a um relacionamento que já acabou? Porque sempre nos disseram que era a coisa certa a fazer.

Sair de um relacionamento que já acabou requer coragem. Ficar em um relacionamento sem vida requer auto-sacrifício. Lutamos para tomar essa decisão; nos preocupamos com...

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Are You Questioning 'Till Death Do Us Part?'

(11) Comments | Posted February 23, 2015 | 2:15 PM

Why do we cling so desperately to a relationship that's died? Because we've been told it's the right choice to make.

Leaving a dead relationship takes courage. Staying in a dead relationship takes self-sacrifice. We agonize over this decision; worrying about our future and the repercussions for those we...

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Why Valentine's Day Makes Us Crazy

(0) Comments | Posted February 10, 2015 | 12:06 PM

Be honest ladies. We've all had times when Valentine's Day made us a little crazy. It's the one-day each year that has the ability to destabilize even the most grounded female among us. Whether it's a fleeting minute of sadness or an entire week of the blues, Valentine's Day carries...

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Is the First Cut Really the Deepest?

(0) Comments | Posted January 29, 2015 | 10:57 AM

First love is beautiful in its vulnerability. Our innocence allows us to feel without the hesitation of fear. With no cautionary memories to bind us, we advance toward all that is new and unlimited. We are, perhaps, at our finest when with our first love. We are pure.

I met...

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3 Simple Steps to Attract Love in 2015

(1) Comments | Posted January 11, 2015 | 3:57 PM

Attracting love is far easier than we're led to believe. One way to jump-start the process of attracting love is to be aware of what lies in our here and now, while being in tune with ourselves.

Yes, we live in a modern world. Partner selection can involve hours...

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From 'Lonely' to 'With Yourself' This Holiday

(3) Comments | Posted December 18, 2014 | 2:45 PM

The holidays can create difficult emotional states for many people. The hype and expectations surrounding this time period are intense. Commercials and movies emphasize happy, loving families enjoying their time together and couples in cozy, warm images of endless love.

But what about those people whose lives don't match these...

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Why Are You Still Single?

(7) Comments | Posted November 7, 2014 | 11:03 AM

I have a dear friend in her early 40s. She's got it all, a great personality and a great life. As a dedicated triathlete she's physically fit and attractive. Well dressed, well bred, and owns her own apartment in Manhattan (no small feat). She's inclusive, warm and open. Oh. And......

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Putting the Breaks on a Back-Peddling Man

(1) Comments | Posted October 21, 2014 | 3:01 PM

There's a point in every dating scenario when we know it's over. Either they aren't moving toward partnership, or we recognize they're not the one for us. It doesn't have to be tragic or sad. We don't need to play the victim just because society sold us this "story."

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The King Within the Queen

(6) Comments | Posted September 24, 2014 | 3:47 PM

The rigors of modern dating can leave many young women wondering about their chances for future happiness in love. Men seem to have endless options for romance, creating little reason to partner in earnest.

How does a woman find meaningful partnership in today's world? The stakes are high. The...

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So, I'm Supposed To Chase You?

(2) Comments | Posted September 4, 2014 | 2:32 PM

The birth of the 21st Century didn't cause our computers to crash. Something more insidious happened. The rules of courtship changed.

Fourteen years after the new millennium, it's clear that women are now the ones left in charge of romantic "pursuit." This bizarre social shift leaves many of us...

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