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My Daughter Thinks President Obama Is a Proud Muslim

Posted: 04/ 4/2012 3:36 pm

I'm horrified by this. Not because I'm in any way anti-Muslim, but because I am in all ways anti-ignorance. I know, I know, it's happening everywhere, but I never thought it would happen in my family. I thought we were safe. I thought we took all the precautions:

We don't watch Fox News.
We don't listen to incendiary talk radio.
We pledge to both NPR and PBS.
We still read print newspapers.
We remain convinced that the earth is round.

But still, my 14-year-old daughter told me with firm conviction that President Obama is a Muslim. I never saw it coming.

The national news was murmuring in the background as I cooked dinner the other night. No one was actually watching, but since as a mother I can listen to up to seven conversations at once, some small part of my brain was monitoring the coverage of the Republican primary race. I didn't register all of the details, but I heard something about the re-emergence of certain Tea Party accusations concerning the religious beliefs of our president.

"You've gotta be kidding me," I said to no one in particular. "I can't believe they're dragging out this junk again."

"I know," Isabelle said, "who cares that Obama is a Muslim?"

But he's not a Muslim, I told her.

"Yes he is," she countered, "He's a proud Muslim, and there's nothing wrong with that."

I began to explain to her that some of Obama's nuttier opponents had started this rumor before the previous election in a last-ditch attempt to undermine his patriotism, but she just shook her head.

No, it's true, she insisted. "His middle name is, like, Al Qaeda or something," she told me. "But they're not all, like, bad guys."

How is it that through some kind of osmosis she's picked up our liberal give-peace-a chance code of conduct while at the same time she's unable to filter out the rantings of the lunatic fringe?

My kids were 7 and 4 when the twin towers were hit. We've been at war, or on the brink of war, with one Middle East country or another for as long as they can remember. Yellow ribbons and half-mast flags are as familiar and unremarkable to them as McDonald's golden arches and behemoth SUVs.

I'm a life-long Democratic, and my husband was born and raised in Norway, land of the cradle-to-grave social welfare system. Not wanting to brainwash our kids, we try to keep up a fair and balanced façade -- even though behind closed doors we can't help referring to Rush Limbaugh as a "right-wing whack-job" when we hear him frothing at the mouth. The fact that our 17-year-old son is also a current events junky means that dinner table debates about the Republican contenders, foreign affairs and domestic policy are not unusual in our house.

But let's face it: none of these are riveting topics of conversation to a typical 14 year-old girl. Pretty Little Liars, The Hunger Games, Justin Bieber's tweets and a big sale at Hollister? Yes. Contraceptive coverage, social security, bank bailouts, gay marriage, and troop drawdowns? Not so much.

I should have known that I'm not the only one who can monitor seven conversations at a time. Even though she didn't appear to be paying attention, my daughter was unconsciously picking up bits and pieces of information; opinions and accusations layered on a canvas to paint the picture of her world-view. "Not all Muslims are terrorists," she heard her parents say. "Barack Obama is a Muslim," she heard the voices on TV say. And in her nascent worldview both of these things are true, and one doesn't outweigh the other. This is the insidiousness of propaganda.

We can laugh at the duck-and-cover videos from the 1950s now, shake our heads
indulgently at the idea of Ronald Reagan calling the Soviet Union the Evil Empire, but the fact that nearly 3,000 innocent U.S. civilians died on a bright September day means that for many, the religion of Islam will be forever equated with the crimes of terrorism. And if so many adults can't distinguish a Muslim from a murderer, how can we expect our kids to?

 
I'm horrified by this. Not because I'm in any way anti-Muslim, but because I am in all ways anti-ignorance. I know, I know, it's happening everywhere, but I never thought it would happen in my family.
I'm horrified by this. Not because I'm in any way anti-Muslim, but because I am in all ways anti-ignorance. I know, I know, it's happening everywhere, but I never thought it would happen in my family.
 
 
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see-ellen2001
11:48 AM on 04/06/2012
I like to say Obama is the president and leave it at that. But then again, I'm Canadian so maybe I don't have a penchant for intrigue and conspiracy like some who propagate this nonsense ad nauseum.
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LMPE
I connect the most dissimilar things
05:08 PM on 04/05/2012
oh no...
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Guardian Weasel
News Media: We don't need balance. We need truth.
09:53 AM on 04/05/2012
Hey, I was shocked when I found out my mother was a Birther.

I mean, I knew she watched Fox News, but surely she was smart enough to see through THAT one...
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walkerhds
01:14 PM on 04/07/2012
time to get your dad a great father's day present because obviously your mom's contribution to the intelligence quotient isn't what kept you from licking light sockets and and playing in traffic...
09:47 AM on 04/05/2012
The kid is right......
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centsable
are u smarter than a republicant..
12:35 PM on 04/06/2012
Proof of that lie, er, comment....didn't think so, continune drinking the kool-aid.
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01:10 PM on 04/07/2012
Not the case. But so what if she was?
relevancematters
You're so full of what's right, you can't see what
09:37 AM on 04/05/2012
By all means, when in doubt, haul out the "critical thinking skills" meme. Even though nobody has ever known exactly what it means, how to teach it, or how to determine if anybody actually has any. I have never seen evidence of it anywhere, despite all the hype, and the current state of this country bears out that observation. Our politicians don't have any; our legislators don't have any; our people have chosen up sides in an attempt to look like they have some, but really, they just choose blindly, driven by regional peer pressure, family culture and religion. Same as it's always been, from the beginning of time.

This is not about application of critical thinking skills; it's about discerning truth from lies. It's about realizing there is facts and there is fiction--and that truth is never relative. It's about emotional overdrive, and the very real power of propaganda to drive that emotion home in the service of politics. And it's about a need for leadership that transcends the roar of the rabble.

We're in big trouble here.
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ladymcbeth45
08:56 AM on 04/05/2012
this goes right along with the Repbulican mantras...repeat a lie over and over and somehow it becomes truth....
09:59 AM on 04/05/2012
Come now its not about political alignment...most people lie to themselves and others and eventually believe what they want to without regard to the facts. When anyone knowingly tells a lie they know it. They don't believe it but they want YOU to believe it.

The problem with people is they're human and passion rules the human heart, not logic.
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booktone
10:30 AM on 04/05/2012
Sad to say, but they've known that all along....just keep the Faux Noise going and eventually it'll filter into everyday conversation.......and as long as they keep de-funding education and making voters more and more ignorant, it's going to get worse.
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ladymcbeth45
08:54 AM on 04/05/2012
tell your daughter Obama is a christian which would make him an infidel to the muslim world....bet you won't hear this on fox!!
08:43 AM on 04/05/2012
SHOCK.

Maybe if you didn't censor your daughters exposure to the world she'd know. Expose her to a broader spectrum and teach her how to filter information. Sooner or later she'll find out how you've shielded her from your definition of "evil".

Young people are smarter and wiser than we give them credit. They can smell crap a mile away. But we need to encourage critical thinking.

I can hear it now. Mom...I can't believe you said that stuff about me in your article. It makes me look stupid.
09:56 AM on 04/05/2012
"Maybe if you didn't censor your daughters exposure to the world she'd know." Know WHAT? That Obama isn't a Muslim or that he is? What are you trying to say here? I expose my children to the TRUTH, no matter how much it goes against my conscience, but I refuse to allow them to watch the talking heads on faux news.
09:57 AM on 04/05/2012
Where do you come off telling this person that she censored her daughter's exposure to the world?
Do you know them? You are malicious.
05:10 PM on 04/10/2012
Must have hit a sore spot. Unless your objective was to get a response, you shoiuld have stopped with your last question. No I don't know her, but shielding children is something parents do instinctively (I know I have TWO daughters)...by her own admission she blocks her daughters exposure to "alternative media".

Show where'd her daughter get the idea Obama is a Muslim, and his middle name was "Al Qaeda.or something"? And when she corrected her daughter she emphatically told her she was wrong!

I suppose like most 14 year olds, one day they wake up and they just know everything about everything...and so do all their friends...and their parents don't know anything.

BTW: Do you know me well enough to call me malicious, or are you speculating as I did?
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tacevad
American SS Card Carrying Socialist
07:56 AM on 04/05/2012
the propaganda has sunk in... how many young people repeat the lie that Social Security won't be around for them?
06:13 AM on 04/05/2012
...what? Bwahahaha! I know this is serious, but I can't help laughing! So she believes the conspiracy theorists just enough to think Obama's a Muslim whose middle name is Al Qaeda, but not enough to think he's a terrorist? How does that even happen?

I guess the real issue, though, is that if a lie is repeated enough, some people will believe it. I honestly believe that is the point of repeating the lie in the first place. It's terrible, and the only defense against it is to educate as many people about the truth as possible.
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Akshay Singh
The Devil's Orchard
04:48 AM on 04/05/2012
It's an epidemic.
04:06 AM on 04/05/2012
Great article. The experience you shared with your daughter reveals a major skill EVERYONE needs to gain: critical thinking. Specifically, being able to verify sources/facts, evaluate various perspectives on an issue, and then decide if the information is true or false. Especially since we're living in a vast ocean of information. We all need to learn how to filter out the BS.
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dkuz09
03:29 AM on 04/05/2012
Your daughter really said "His middle name is like Al Qaeda or something." X_X

Props to you for still wanting to write this piece. I'd be too embarrassed to lol
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white mende man
Ask me if I care about your prejudice
02:31 AM on 04/05/2012
If someone says they are not Christian do we say to them that they are lying? If a Muslin professes and denies their faith and says that they are Christian should we not embrace that person and encourage them into the fold? Any one that believes in a particular Religion that openly profess and deny their own Religion to please someone else is not a true believer anyway.
It really is not anyone's business to deny anybody else's claim to a Religion of their choosing. And to conclude there is no Religion test about who can and cannot hold the highest office in the land or represent Americans in Congress.

Judge Not and you will Not be Judged.
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Drg40
Representative Democracy is all we have.
06:25 PM on 04/05/2012
i'm happy to be judged, Am I therefore allowed to judge Santorum and Romney as being far out religious freaks and a danger to the Western world? Can I say that I have met a lot of Republicans who are having great fun choosing their candidate, but have no possible intention of casting their vote in November that would, in any way, permit either of theses two berks anywhere near the White House, except as tourists? Am I allowed to comment that religion and politics should be kept far apart and that anyone who stoops so low as to knowingly tell lies about another's religion should put their affairs in order and prepare themselves for an extended stay on the nearest secure funny farm?
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ObamaSupporterPete
02:04 AM on 04/05/2012
Even with a faulty factual understanding, she still was a critical thinker with the facts she had. Pretty non-judgmental and mature. It seems that she picked up the words but not the emotions they are loaded with by our so factually accurate media. She does need to engage more, but she's pretty young and may end up a news junkie like her brother. She understands what it means to give the benefit of the doubt.