I often teach that to find where the G-spot is in a woman, and how it might feel, you can simply put your thumb in your mouth and feel the rougher, ridged area just beyond your teeth, on the top part of your mouth. Beyond that ridged area is the upper palate and halfway between the ridges and the upper palate is the area that is analogous to the G-spot. I find it fascinating that the interior of the mouth seems so close in structure to the yoni (vagina in Sanskrit) and the G-spot area.
The upper palate area is filled with nerve endings. Try putting your little vibrator up there sometime and see how it feels! It's kind of intense. Obviously suckling and eating creates the evolutionary nerve aspects of the sensitivity of the mouth.
The erotic feeling of sucking, whether it be a lollipop, water bottle or beer or some aspect of the anatomy like a nipple, thumb or lingam (phallus in Sanskrit), was developed during infancy to not only create a sensory experience while eating but to provide intimacy training for the child and mother (or primary care giver). Both the mother and the child produce the 'bonding' neuro-hormone Oxytocin during nursing. The accompanying eye gazing that occurs between mother and child trains the baby to seek the intimacy of faces, and specifically the eyes, as it grows older. Interestingly, Oxytocin is also produced during orgasm.
The upper palate is also the area you place your tongue during advanced breath, energy and meditation work. The tip of the tongue points straight to the fontanel at the top of the head (the 'soft' spot) and is reputed to open up the nadis or energy channels in the body. When a person has a Kundalini * energy experience there have been reports of an ambrosia like nectar of immortality -- Amrita (Sanskrit) -- that drips precious drops from the back of the throat. Experiencing female ejaculation, also called Amrita by many Western Tantricas, is associated with G-spot stimulation. It has been noticed by many Western practitioners that a marked difference in age appearance of skin quality and facial vibrancy is also associated with female ejaculation. Well, I'll take any kind of Amrita I can get.
So, there seems to be the potential of a G-spot in the vagina and one in the mouth, too. During Tantric sex certain positions have the ability to facilitate the movement of energy upwards. If both the upper palate, with the tongue applying pressure, and the G-spot, with the lingam applying pressure, are activated during sex, an aligned channel is opened up to activate all of the body. This is a tool that can be used to align and open up the chakra channels for Kundalini energy to flow. This same effect can be discovered and utilized by connecting the tongue to the roof of the mouth, sitting in an up-right, meditative pose and doing PC muscle (Kegels) exercises while visualizing the energy movement. This is the simpler way to play with the effects of this practice before you take it into the sexual arena.
I discovered this dual connection between the mouth and the yoni quite a few years back and have never heard anyone else refer to it before. I love oral sex and had wondered why that might be so. Yes, I love to eat, so that is a part of it -- OK, I'm oral! I have also noticed that during oral sex it's the slow out-stroke that always gets me. It's the same with intercourse. The long, slow out-stroke is the one that triggers orgasm for me. So what is it about these two very similar areas of the body? Why are they so similar in construction and what might that mean for our pleasure and our ability to build and expand erotic energy?
I would love to have feedback from anyone who has experienced orgasm through mouth contact or who recognizes the connection of both G-spot orgasms and erotic stimuli in the mouth, too. Oh, and could you please let me know what you think about these Sanskrit words like lingam and yoni (vagina is such a 'hard' sounding word) -- do you like this or do they just get in the way?
* Various interpretations of the origin of the word Kundalini (Sanskrit) are Kunta, Cunta and Kun all of which mean female genitalia, Shakti (Shiva's consort), queen and Mother Earth -- a distinct later degradation being 'cunt.'
Suzie Heumann is the founder of Tantra.com. She studies, writes, has authored three books and makes films about conscious sex, Tantra and the Kama Sutra. Check out Tantra.com Premium for the most comprehensive tantra training available on the Internet!