I often teach that to find where the G-spot is in a woman, and how it might feel, you can simply put your thumb in your mouth and feel the rougher, ridged area just beyond your teeth, on the top part of your mouth. Beyond that ridged area is the upper palate and halfway between the ridges and the upper palate is the area that is analogous to the G-spot. I find it fascinating that the interior of the mouth seems so close in structure to the yoni (vagina in Sanskrit) and the G-spot area.
The upper palate area is filled with nerve endings. Try putting your little vibrator up there sometime and see how it feels! It's kind of intense. Obviously suckling and eating creates the evolutionary nerve aspects of the sensitivity of the mouth.
The erotic feeling of sucking, whether it be a lollipop, water bottle or beer or some aspect of the anatomy like a nipple, thumb or lingam (phallus in Sanskrit), was developed during infancy to not only create a sensory experience while eating but to provide intimacy training for the child and mother (or primary care giver). Both the mother and the child produce the 'bonding' neuro-hormone Oxytocin during nursing. The accompanying eye gazing that occurs between mother and child trains the baby to seek the intimacy of faces, and specifically the eyes, as it grows older. Interestingly, Oxytocin is also produced during orgasm.
The upper palate is also the area you place your tongue during advanced breath, energy and meditation work. The tip of the tongue points straight to the fontanel at the top of the head (the 'soft' spot) and is reputed to open up the nadis or energy channels in the body. When a person has a Kundalini * energy experience there have been reports of an ambrosia like nectar of immortality -- Amrita (Sanskrit) -- that drips precious drops from the back of the throat. Experiencing female ejaculation, also called Amrita by many Western Tantricas, is associated with G-spot stimulation. It has been noticed by many Western practitioners that a marked difference in age appearance of skin quality and facial vibrancy is also associated with female ejaculation. Well, I'll take any kind of Amrita I can get.
So, there seems to be the potential of a G-spot in the vagina and one in the mouth, too. During Tantric sex certain positions have the ability to facilitate the movement of energy upwards. If both the upper palate, with the tongue applying pressure, and the G-spot, with the lingam applying pressure, are activated during sex, an aligned channel is opened up to activate all of the body. This is a tool that can be used to align and open up the chakra channels for Kundalini energy to flow. This same effect can be discovered and utilized by connecting the tongue to the roof of the mouth, sitting in an up-right, meditative pose and doing PC muscle (Kegels) exercises while visualizing the energy movement. This is the simpler way to play with the effects of this practice before you take it into the sexual arena.
I discovered this dual connection between the mouth and the yoni quite a few years back and have never heard anyone else refer to it before. I love oral sex and had wondered why that might be so. Yes, I love to eat, so that is a part of it -- OK, I'm oral! I have also noticed that during oral sex it's the slow out-stroke that always gets me. It's the same with intercourse. The long, slow out-stroke is the one that triggers orgasm for me. So what is it about these two very similar areas of the body? Why are they so similar in construction and what might that mean for our pleasure and our ability to build and expand erotic energy?
I would love to have feedback from anyone who has experienced orgasm through mouth contact or who recognizes the connection of both G-spot orgasms and erotic stimuli in the mouth, too. Oh, and could you please let me know what you think about these Sanskrit words like lingam and yoni (vagina is such a 'hard' sounding word) -- do you like this or do they just get in the way?
* Various interpretations of the origin of the word Kundalini (Sanskrit) are Kunta, Cunta and Kun all of which mean female genitalia, Shakti (Shiva's consort), queen and Mother Earth -- a distinct later degradation being 'cunt.'
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Spiritual sex is very simple, described in Bhagavad-gita 7.11:
TRANSLATION
I am the strength of the strong, devoid of passion and desire. I am sex life which is not contrary to religious principles, O lord of the Bharatas [Arjuna].
http://vedabase.net/bg/7/11/en1
Sex for pleasure is practically the opposite of spiritual life. In the practice of yoga as described by Patanjali, the first step includes brahmacarya, complete celibacy. Similarly, in Bhagavad-gita 6.14, Krishna also indicates brahmacarya as necessary for yoga practice. Of course, this is serious yoga, not "yoga studio" yoga.
The great saint yamunacarya, famously stated (translated):
"Since my mind has been engaged in the service of the lotus feet of Lord Krishna, and I have been enjoying an ever new transcendental humor, whenever I think of sex life with a woman, my face at once turns from it, and I spit at the thought."
No, he did not turn gay. He experienced a state of being immensely superior to sex. Not a momentary pleasure, but an ever-increasing consciousness absorbed in pure love of God, devotional service. Sex is an obstacle to such pure love, and is nothing compared. Actually there is spiritual sex, but imagining it based on material conceptions is of no use.
Looking at human embryology you'll see that cells line up first as a midline. Everything organizes around the midline. As the primitive spine develops the head is at one end and the pelvis is at the other. They reflect each other. For example if you have a lot of dental or trauma to the mouth you may experience tension in the pelvis and visa versa. Same with pleasure! It is why opening the mouth during intercourse (or any time) opens the labia and pelvic muscles.
The diaphragms also all connect: the pelvic floor diaphragm, the diaphragm involved with breathing, the diaphragm called the roof of the mouth and the diaphragm around the third eye all communicate. So do the "O" ring muscles: eyes, mouth, esophagus, sphincter and vagina.
The point being as living organisms our midlines make us whole!
The psoas is the core muscle of the midline. Beginning just under the heart, It is the tenderloin - the filet mignon - juicy, responsive and expressive - what I call smart tissue! It is the only muscle to connect midline to legs and it is responsible for full body orgasms, from head to toe - mouth to yoni!
The romantic prefer to call a significant other a lover. It is more exciting that way & it is a lot easier to cherish a lover than it is to cherish a significant other. Then there are the words of pornography for another way to get turned on by sex. Asian sexuality has delightful uses for pornography. It is too bad that the west of Europe & the Americas is afflicted with atavistic, Puritan attitudes that condemn pornography.
Actually, after reading this I might try going down on a guy (or a girl, I guess) and see if I like it.
I personally would prefer that the words "yoni" and "lingam" are not used in an American English setting. English has suitable words for the genitalia, and if they sound clinical or embarrassing to some, perhaps we educated, enlightened English speakers should try to help change their modern connotations, versus turning to words that are not in the general American lexicon and which are from a language (Hindi) which is not well known to most American English speakers.
To the normal, not widely-read American, I imagine that "yoni" and "lingam" sound hippyish, strange, maybe "dirty", and confusing. I think this goes counter to the idea of sex education for the benefit and inclusion of all. If the audience is of open-minded, multi-culturally-aware people who have already read the Kama Sutra, then fine. But if the audience is the other x% (a majority) of the American population, I think they may stop reading when they run into odd-looking words they don't know (especially when their meanings aren't explained immediately).
How about "vulva"? From dictionary: "The vulva refers to the external genital organs of the female. In colloquial speech, the term vagina is often, but wrongly, used to refer to the female genitals generally, as, strictly speaking, the vagina is a specific internal structure, whereas the vulva is the whole exterior genitalia."
But seriously, as an English speaker, I prefer the English words, even the alternate names, depending on the situation..
As for the oral, I've always enjoyed it with my husband and now I know why.
Keep using the Sanskrit, the words are so beautiful, less clinical.
Blowing your nose has a secret affinity with orgasm, male and female; and if you undergo a rhinoplasty, which has become so fashionable in the US, your orgasm potential is gradually altered until it is aligned with your new nose.
Truly, Homo sapiens is a marvel of symmetry.
Phallus is a good term for the male member and more familiar (and dignified) to most Western ears than lingam. I try to use it consistently. The Russian colloquial term is also very good and I use it rather than its english equivalants when a colloquial term is called for. In Russian it is written XUI, it is pronounced 'xchooeyie' with the 'xch' being quite gutteral as if clearing your throat.
Yoni is nice for the female parts. Anything but vagina. That sounds like a speculum.
My favorite terms are translated from (I think) the Japanese : Cinnabar Stalk and Jade Crevice.
This theory rings with more feminine power than how I usually describe the g-spot as the "female prostate." Not sure how it really helps birthing, though, if the fluid is released through the urethra. Maybe it's the accompanying orgasmic release, rather than the fluid itself? I'll run it by the women at our next workshop.
Humans are part of a select group of mammals with no penile bone.
We needed another way for quick arousal.
millions of years later...
Women love giving oral....
The use of yoni is cool, sounds sweeter than the norm.
Vagina is an awful word. Vagine is a much better pronunciation. (Thank you, Borat. Jagshemash.)