Suzy Miller
I am the inventor of Divorce in a Box, a stay out of court travel guide for divorce which includes over hundreds £s/$s of complementary access to skilled professional advice in the UK and the USA. Ribbon is optional. Available for £65/$129 at

My US and UK Alternative Divorce Directories provide direct contact with experts in law, finance and wellbeing.

I am also the creator of the UK's first 'divorce fair' Starting Over Show which supports people going through major life changes like divorce, redundancy, bereavement and other tough stuff.

My partner ended our 10 year relationship in 2003. Our three children were aged 6, 4 and 1 at the time, and it was the most painful and traumatic experience of my life. However, as the years passed, I soon became grateful that my ex had the courage to end a relationship that was not truly feeding either of us and we now have a healthy respect for each other.

It was tough getting to where I am now, and on the way I learned that accessing the right information, support and help both legally, financially and emotionally was essential. My ex partner is a supportive co-parent, living in the same village, sharing the same values and sometimes it amazes me how we got to be in such a good place despite some very difficult times getting here.

It takes courage and vision and a determination to believe in a positive future when life seems nothing but a struggle, but the joy of children is that they provide a massive incentive to make that extra effort. It is not a journey anyone needs to make alone. There are skilled people who can help with all aspects of Starting Over who are there to be accessed via the Alternative Divorce Directory in the US and the UK.

Information and Inspiration are what helped me move forward in my life. I want to make those resources available to other people through the Starting Over Shows, and through the SOS Village resource hub.

As you can see, Starting Over Show, Divorce in a Box and Alternative Divorce Directories are more than just tools for staying out of court divorce – they are a new way of thinking.

Entries by Suzy Miller

Divorce Day and Cohabitation: Is Marriage an Insurance Policy?

(2) Comments | Posted January 7, 2015 | 2:29 AM

It was Divorce Day this week - and it was refreshing to see an article in the Guardian by Zoe Williams which bucked the trend, and instead of encouraging us all to believe that vast numbers of people post-New Year were filing for divorce, Zoe pointed out some...

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Is Rebuilding Self-Esteem Post-Divorce, Just a Charade?

(3) Comments | Posted October 12, 2014 | 6:35 PM

Beyonce's mum succeeded in rebuilding her self esteem - but for most of us, are we just faking it?

You know those big property developments where the site is surrounded by hoardings - great walls preventing you from seeing within - and they paint a vision of what...

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Three Reasons Why Living Together Is Not the Same As Marriage

(2) Comments | Posted September 3, 2014 | 11:35 AM

When I lived for ten years with my children's father we had three children, and when the relationship abruptly ended, the phrase: "Well it's the same as being married" - proved to be a lie. You can tell yourself that while you are together, but don't be foolish enough to think...

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A Walk on the Weird Side: Post-Divorce Friendships

(0) Comments | Posted September 3, 2014 | 6:06 AM

Keeping it friendly through Divorce - even when it hurts:

It was whilst he cried on my shoulder for the end of the short affair that had split open our ten year relationship, that I knew my life was taking a new course.

He wasn't crying for the...

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The Seatbelt of Family Arbitration: A Safety Measure for Divorce?

(0) Comments | Posted August 13, 2014 | 8:34 PM

In this second of a short series of articles, I explore how family arbitration could provide an element of psychological security on the bumpy road of the divorce journey.  I interview a range of family arbitrators about whether Arbitration saves the client money, and whether the arbitrator's decision is always...

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Educated Women Are Less Threatening to Their Husbands - Apparently

(1) Comments | Posted July 31, 2014 | 5:33 AM

The Divorce News I read last week in the Telegraph online is that Men are happier with a smarter wife - according to a study showing a dramatic shift in divorce patterns. It appears that younger husbands are the first generation of men not to find more highly educated women 'threatening'.

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Family Arbitration - The White Knight of a Tricky Divorce ?

(1) Comments | Posted July 17, 2014 | 5:49 PM

Family Arbitration can rescue a mediated divorce from crumbling into a nasty expensive court battle, so should more mediators be paying attention to it as a resource for their clients?

In the first of a short series of articles, I explore how family arbitration could become a powerful new tool...

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Amicable or Adversarial? I Know Who MY Money's On

(0) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 6:19 PM


In this video interview with financial advisor Sheila Bailey of Willow Private Finance - in my role as the Alternative Divorce Guide - I asked Sheila: "How do couples keep things amicable during divorce, and how can you as a financial advisor help them with...

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"Single Mum's Survival Guide" - Would It Have Helped Me?

(0) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 5:52 PM


As the Alternative Divorce Guide, I wanted to know more about Vivienne Smith's new book "The Single Mum's Survival Guide - How to Pick Up the Pieces and Build a Happy New Life" - and whether this was a book that would have helped me when I...

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When Anger or Fear Eats Away at Confidence - Video of How EFT Can Help

(0) Comments | Posted February 28, 2014 | 2:43 PM


In this interview with EFT expert Susan Cowe Miller, she explains to Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy Miller, how anger can be addressed during the divorce journey, and the video below demonstrates how you can use EFT tapping to reduce or eliminate feelings of anger:



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Loving Yourself and Believing in Love Again - Sophrology for Divorce

(1) Comments | Posted February 28, 2014 | 2:38 PM


We are all made of flesh and bones and we all suffer and experience emotions through life. At particular challenging times in our lives, we might need some extra help to be able to reach a new state of balance and happiness.

Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy...

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What Most People Don't Know About Divorce Mediation

(1) Comments | Posted February 19, 2014 | 3:29 AM


In this interview with Divorce Mediator Kim Beatson of Anthony Gold Solicitors, Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy Miller asks Kim to share the information about mediation that many of her clients are unaware of when they first contact her for a no-obligation chat.



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Theta Healing for Divorce - Video Demonstration

(0) Comments | Posted February 11, 2014 | 3:03 AM

I was a little nervous about putting my private life so completely in the public domain when I agreed to experience Theta Healing with Debbie Talalay - on camera!


But I found the experience really very easy, and I believe that my own family breakup was similar to...

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Be Smart: Video of the First Things to Consider at the Beginning of Divorce

(0) Comments | Posted February 7, 2014 | 11:48 AM

In this interview with financial advisor Sheila Bailey - in my role as the Alternative Divorce Guide - I asked Sheila: "What are the 1st financial steps divorcing couples should take to reduce the stress and risk of conflict later on"?


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Working With Couples Through Divorce: Video Interview With Psychotherapist Caron Barruw

(2) Comments | Posted January 12, 2014 | 12:20 PM

Psychotherapist Caron Barruw talks in this video interview with Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy Miller, about how her practice has developed a speciality for working with couples who are navigating divorce, with an emphasis on them breaking up amicably.



A reputation for divorce


"I started getting a reputation for being quite good at working with couples, and couples come to me for all different reasons and at all different phases of their marriage.  I was able to take crisis couples and help them through the journey of whether they wanted to stay together or not, and then if they wanted to split up I was able to help them come to a place where there was no anger, so they could separate and breakup their assets and set up homes for their children separately, or if there were no children they could part as friends and not see it as a mistake or like a scarring - but rather as an experience or a stepping stone in their lives.


So from being referred so many couples we developed a relationship in our practice that we are very good at working with couples going through divorce and separation.


Working with couples - a peaceful transition


My husband is my business partner and my practice partner and he has a Phd in behaviour, and what we decided to try was that he would take the male and I would take the female and then we would do joint couple's sessions to help the couple to see each other in a different light, with a role model of a married couple who was helping them work through their marriage.


It's just been extremely successful and we've been doing it for the last sixteen years now, and have come out with some fantastic results for people in rebuilding their lives whether they stay married or not.  Which really isn't our indicator for success.  Our indicator is giving them the tools of whether or not they want to stay married and if they don't then they separate without being angry - so that's a very different transition than having a very angry breakup."


Caron Barruw, pschotherapist London NW, counselling London NW, how to divorce amicably, online divorce advice, divorce London NW, phychotherapy and divorce,



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Financial Protection Matters - Especially After Divorce

(1) Comments | Posted January 12, 2014 | 4:43 AM


Life can be a handful at times...

So how would you cope
if the unthinkable happened?


In this video interview with mortgage expert Sheila Bailey of Willow Private Finance, The Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy Miller asks...

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Protecting Children From the Divorce Fall-Out

(1) Comments | Posted December 27, 2013 | 8:44 AM

How do we protect the children

from the effects of the divorce?


The ability to learn forgiveness and being aware of flash points where the children become dragged into the divorce are important.  

In this video interview with Transformation Coach Vivienne Smith, Alternative...

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Dealing With Divorce Stress During Christmas

(2) Comments | Posted December 19, 2013 | 10:15 AM


How do I survive The Festive Season?


Video & Tips to enter 2014 with increased calm and confidence

How easy is it to give the time and effort necessary to release anxiety and stress during the busy and emotionally charged Festive Season?

Unrealistic expectations...

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Theta Healing - a Unique Therapy

(1) Comments | Posted December 17, 2013 | 8:15 AM


In this interview Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy Miller talks to Theta Healer Deborah Talalay,  who explains how Theta Healing works, and what it is used for.


What is Theta Healing and what is it used for?


"You don't need a special issue to do Theta healing and you don't need to be unhappy. We all carry patterning  inherited from our ancestors and other sources which consciously we would be appalled at. This patterning is something we live with whether conscious of it or not. It acts as an invisible brake on what we do and what we want to achieve.

Originally created as a way of dealing with cancer, Theta Healing can be used for a very wide range of issues far beyond physical wellbeing. Theta is very powerful in helping remove psychological blocks which get in the way of you having happy relationships, becoming financially free, or just feeling that life is supporting you rather than getting in your way.  

If you are dealing with divorce and family breakup, Theta can help you move forwards into a happier and more empowered life.

We might have the brake on in one area of our lives and not in another. When we clean ourselves of this patterning we enhance our actions, heal our relationships and  invite extraordinary happenings into our lives.

By clearing our energy we invite  wonderful people into our lives and  allow the flow of the Universe to reach us  without obstacles.

If you would like help with a breakup and all the grief and negativity that has been released, then Theta can help - even through video sessions which are available for free on my website   Theta is a powerful tool to enable you to rapidly and effectively move away from the old and into the new."


Debbie Talalay, theta healer London, theta London WC, online divorce advice, how to divorce amicably, theta healer UK,
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Do Alcohol or Drugs Feature in Your Life Post-divorce?

(0) Comments | Posted December 11, 2013 | 1:30 PM


Jessica Hylands draws on her experience as a Confidence Coach to share some advice about how alcohol and drugs can become a feature in your life post-divorce, in this interview with Alternative Divorce Guide Suzy Miller.


Do alcohol or drugs feature in your life?


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