You may be thinking about the goals you want to achieve in 2013. Perhaps they're specific and concrete, or perhaps you're still figuring out what you want. Either way, I'm here to tell you that you can experience straight-up miraculous change this year.

Learning a sound strategy about how to strengthen the behaviors that support and nourish our wishes to be healthier, happier, and more connected puts us in a position of greater personal power.

'Tis the season to obsess... about New Year's resolutions. For a worrywart, it is challenging to come up with just one resolution when there are so many choices, so I have selected several from my 2012 grab bag to inspire you to worry less and indulge more in 2013.

I know what you're thinking: another cheesy, goody-two-shoes blog on how I can keep all those goals I've set going into 2013. If you abhor such articles (like 10 ways to de-clutter your bathroom), then keep on reading. I'm like you -- normal.

To my surprise, this smaller, quieter way of goal setting actually began to work. By keeping quiet, I didn't feel compelled to check in with people (or worse, explain to them why a goal hadn't yet been met). Without this cycle of shame, I found my goals actually had a chance to gain more traction.

Change doesn't just happen; we have to make it happen. And the first hurdle to change is inertia. So, how do you get past this? Easy.

I'm ready to make a few New Year's resolutions: I vow to try out Waldman's notion of "shouldlessness," that is, to live without tight hold of a map about how life should proceed. I vow to try to embrace life exactly the way it is, in all of its imperfections. I also vow to try to learn to live with the discomfort of disappointment.

Does enlightenment sound too ambitious for a New Year's resolution? Really, it's not. You don't have to become something new. It's like coming out of a tiny one-person tent after a long, long sleep and realizing it was set up in the grand ballroom of your palace.

January is not the problem. It's us. Well, our perfectionism, to be specific. Our all-or-none thinking frames our life so that if we're not succeeding every second, we're failing. Nobody wants that. But nobody can be that "perfect" person either.

For me, it was that step, that first step, that was so difficult to take. As the new year approaches, we each have that once-yearly opportunity to create and recreate our own, personalized thousand-mile journey. What's yours?

The first thing about setting intentions is that you have to really, really want them to happen. You might be amongst the fortunate whose dreams come true quickly. For most people, however, there are ups and downs along the path. The more you really want your dream, the more likely it is to happen.