God's wrath, properly understood, makes the good news about King Jesus truly moving. That is, we must understand that the wrath of God is most definitely not divine wife-beating, however poetic Piper thinks such a sentiment to be (yikes).
It is important for everyone to become more savvy about abuser's excuses because many people unwittingly reinforce them in how we respond to the abuser's "explanations" for his/her violence, and to understand what taking real responsibility means.
Over 30 years have passed, since this particular act of Kindness was shown towards me, yet I can still clearly remember what happened and remain deeply thankful to the person who helped the little boy that I once was
To be sure, many men who hit or emotionally abuse their partners were themselves abused as kids, but many men have also risen above their brutal childhoods and broken that cycle. Being abused doesn't automatically make you an abuser.
The risk features involve power, privilege and prestige, the value placed on group membership, the prioritization of group loyalty, the impulse to protect an image, and an institutional sense of righteousness and entitlement.
While sharing about BLVR's investment in us, I shared my personal story of being sexually abused by a family friend when I was six, keeping it secret until after graduating college, and about the heavy toll it took on my life.
My life was all about how I fit into other people's lives -- as mother, sister, daughter, wife, teacher, student and friend. I didn't know I was allowed to have my own life. As a good woman, I am a full partner in my own life.
I believe that there are two strains within Scripture, an original egalitarianism that comes from Paul and Jesus, and a later attempt to squelch the social controversies that arose from that egalitarianism via the Nicene Council.
I questioned why I continued to stay. Was it habit? Some sadistic sense of comfort? Did I think we'd change back into the people we once were? I'm not a weak person. I grew up in such a loving home. My parents have a beautiful marriage. What's wrong with me?
A part of me wanted to sit in the bed next to that patient and hug her until she could finally let go and allow herself to cry with sound that could give depth to her grief. I wanted to get hysterical. I was so angry that anyone could hurt someone so vulnerable. But I knew I had to stay focused.
I want to you to be safe and away from the pain and anguish of an abusive partner. Please take these safety tips into consideration as you get yourself ready to leave. You are entitled to be free from abuse, no matter how unworthy you have been told you are or made to feel.
Scrolling down these tweets, I couldn't help but wonder: how many more women bear the same brunt of intimate partner violence? How many more women struggle to break the vicious cycle of violence and reconciliation that keeps them holding on to abusive relationships?
It is for my daughter Nicole and women, girls and boys around the world, that I choose the most powerful form of communications on earth to come out of my closet. I want anyone and everyone who is enduring abuse of any kind to please know -- You Are Not Alone!