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How Being an ACoA Impacts Our Adult Intimate Relationships

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.16.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Learning to use these triggered moments as growth moments can turn what could be a progressive disconnection into a progressive connection and a building of empathy and trust.

The ACoA Trauma Syndrome: What Is an ACoA?

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.19.2012 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Old pain that gets imported into new relationships is the hallmark of the ACoA trauma syndrome.

Adult Children of Alcoholics

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 10.28.2012 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Adult children of alcoholics (ACoAs) can and often do suffer from some features of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) that are the direct result of living with the traumatizing effects of addiction.

What Makes Us Tick

Randi Miller | Posted 05.13.2012 | Healthy Living
Randi Miller

We hear a lot about dysfunction and how experiences from our childhoods can influence our lives well into adulthood. I think this is true on both the positive and negative sides.

Sober ST. Patrick's Day: Celebrating the Real Beauty of the Irish People

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 04.27.2012 | Home
Dr. Tian Dayton

"The immigrant's heart marches to the beat of two quite different drums, one from the old homeland and the o...

ACOAS: How Did Growing up with Addiction Affect You?

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 04.13.2012 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/TianDaytonTraumaSurvey ACOAs: Click above to find out which negative and positive qualities you may have developed gro...

What I Have Learned as an ACOA

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 02.23.2012 | Home
Dr. Tian Dayton

I have learned that each new day is just another day on my spiritual journey Even a holiday I know how to look around at any moment and allow the shee...

What is an ACOA

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

In 1980, when the term adult child of alcoholic, ACOA was coined, ACOAs literally came out of the woodwork, testifying in droves to confusion, resentm...

Researchers Say:Adults Need to Play More!

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Almost every species of animal engages in some form of play. Play helps all species, animal and human alike, to learn the adaptive behaviors that incr...

Recovery Movement Grassfires Ignited

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

My high school motto was "Great in '68". My colleague on the board of The National Association for Children of Alcoholics (NACoA), Peter Palanca's, ...

Portrait Of An Alcoholic Family

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Children who live with alcoholism or drug addiction need models of what a happy home looks and feels like so they will have something to look forward to as possible for them.

Managing Grief Around The Holiday

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

The holidays are a time of heightened reality. A time to reaffirm bonds of friendship and family. The general merriment of the season can make what we...

A Way Out Of Addiction: The Mental Health Parity Act Takes Effect This Week

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

The recognition that mental health problems are finally understood to have the same if not more impact on quality of life, job performance and relationship health is an idea whose time has finally come.

Creating A False Self: Learning To Live A Lie

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

This false self is also sometimes seen as the "idealized self" or the self through which we operate because our true self just somewhere along the line (usually quite young) felt too weak, inadequate or overwhelmed to function and gain approval in the situation in which it finds itself.

Codependency Pt 2: An Incomplete Sense of Self

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

When the attachment with a parent is fraught with fear, the child can become overly preoccupied with getting it right for the parent rather than for themselves.

Greening Your Therapy Experience

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

When we "know too much" and "do too little" discouragement follows.

Children of Alcoholics Week

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Research both in animals and in people show that stress or trauma early in life, like the stress of living with addiction or relationship trauma, can hyper-sensitize neurons and receptors.