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An Attitude of Gratitude: What This One Little Emotion Can Do for Your Life

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 02.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Whatever your motivation, whether it's feeling better right now, getting along more easily with others or achieving your goals with less wear and tear, gratitude appears to be worth considering as a strategy. Why not grab a pen and make a list; there's no time like the present!

Denial in Addicted Family Systems

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 04.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

When a family is steeped in denial, the person who is trying to say that "the emperor has no clothes on" is generally viewed negatively by those who are not willing to see what's really going on.

The ACoA Trauma Syndrome: What Is an ACoA?

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.19.2012 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Old pain that gets imported into new relationships is the hallmark of the ACoA trauma syndrome.

Resilience, Recovery and Optimism

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.05.2012 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Nothing is black and white, and no one -- not even the most fortunate among us -- makes it through life unscathed. So what questions do we need to ask ourselves in order to find that invisible line between too little and too much focus on a painful past?

Adult Children of Alcoholics

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 10.28.2012 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Adult children of alcoholics (ACoAs) can and often do suffer from some features of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) that are the direct result of living with the traumatizing effects of addiction.

Miss Wisconsin Talks About Growing Up WIth Addiction

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 06.22.2012 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Mariah Haberman, recently crowned "Miss Wisconsin" is using her platform as a pageant winner to talk about what it is like to grow up in an alcoholic ...

The Black Hole: Trauma and Addiction

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 09.26.2011 | Education
Dr. Tian Dayton

It has long been understood in the vernacular of the addictions field that an addict, whose life has become "unmanageable" through excessive use of d...

Charlie Sheen: Not Emotionally Sober

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Physical sobriety can take around 72 hours to achieve. Emotional sobriety, or learning to balance feeling states, thinking and behavior, takes a lot longer.

The Hidden Pain Of The Addicted Family

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Part of "Recovery Month" Series In the 1960s, when my Dad got treatment, we all thought that once the alcoholic got sober, the rest of us in the fa...

How To Achieve Natural Highs

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Here's what these "natural antidepressants" can do for us. Serotonin keeps our moods balanced and up beat. It calms anxiety and improves our sleep.

Mark Kerrigan: Self Medicating His PTSD With Alcohol?

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Using drugs and/or alcohol to cope with PTSD is extremely common. It looks 45-year-old Mark Kerrigan, sister of Olympic skater Nancy Kerrigan, may be doing just that.

How Relationships Heal Emotional Pain: Try A Twelve Step Meeting

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Why do people feel better after attending a twelve step meeting? Why do twelve step meetings work so well for healing emotional pain and establishing...

Laughter Yoga? Can We Laugh Our Way To Fitness?

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Humor has a way of sliding through the cracks, of reminding us that whatever is going on just isn't that important. It keeps things in perspective, provides relief, gets us to see things in new lights and yes, has tons of health benefits.

Why Do Some ACOAs Thrive in Spite of the Odds?

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Dealing with the sorts of challenges that living with addiction inevitably poses can challenge kids, to say nothing of leaders of the free world, to develop unusual talents and strengths.

Adult Children of Alcoholics ACoAs: Qualities and Traits

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

It has long been clear to me that being an ACoA needs aggressive and long term treatment. Ignoring the damage only allows it to leak out in intimate relationships.

Diane Schuler: The Sad Legacy of Alcohol and Drug Abuse

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 05.25.2011 | New York
Dr. Tian Dayton

The sad truth is that children who live with addicted parents get in the car with drunk moms and dads every day, just as Diane Schuler's children and nieces did the day they were killed.

Narcissism In A Bottle: The Self-Centeredness Of Addiction

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 05.25.2011 | Home
Dr. Tian Dayton

Both the narcissist and the addict are first and foremost self absorbed. They come first.

Codependency Pt 2: An Incomplete Sense of Self

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

When the attachment with a parent is fraught with fear, the child can become overly preoccupied with getting it right for the parent rather than for themselves.

Embracing Uncertainty

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

Real contentment has much more to do with what's going on inside ourselves rather than outside. If this is a period when we have to live more simply, it may also be a period in which we can rediscover the joys in simple pleasures.