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Adoptees

The 7 Best Things About Adopting an Older Child

John M. Simmons | Posted 08.24.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

Adopting and older child is not an easy task. That same statement could be made about almost any worthwhile effort. Even so, if it is done with unwavering commitment, for the right reasons, older child adoption can rewrite fate.

A Very Simple Explanation of Reactive Attachment Disorder

John M. Simmons | Posted 06.22.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

Emily was 15 when she left her Russian orphanage to join our family and her biological younger sisters.The Russian social workers informed us that she had behavioral problems and probably even disorders. They told us that she most likely had Reactive Attachment Disorder and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. They said that we shouldn't take her into our home.

A Mistake Adoptive Parents Never Need to Make Again

John M. Simmons | Posted 06.16.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

When it comes to difficult circumstances, I always try to focus on what is best for my children rather than my own feelings. A week ago I came to the understanding that I have been falling short without realizing it for nine years, now. I say "not realizing it," but maybe I just didn't want to know.

Why the Decline in International Adoptions?

John M. Simmons | Posted 06.08.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

I am not "for" international adoption. I am not against it. I am "for" children having loving parents and being in homes where they have a support network.

The Adoption System Isn't Fair

John M. Simmons | Posted 05.18.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

There will always be enough homes for the healthy babies. It isn't okay for us to allow older children to waste away without their own forever families. We need to bring them into our homes as our own children.

Adoption, Commodification and Normalcy

Frank Ligtvoet | Posted 04.27.2014 | Parents
Frank Ligtvoet

Adoption is not a normal way to build a family. It is a complicated way, which next to happiness for adoptive parents brings sorrow and sadness for all involved.

Adoption Reunion Documentary, Closure, Raises Interesting Questions

E. Kay Trimberger | Posted 04.22.2014 | Black Voices
E. Kay Trimberger

As a white adoptive mother in California who helped my biracial son find and reunite with his Louisiana birth family only three years prior to Angela's search and reunion, I couldn't help compare my experience with that depicted in the film.

I Believe in Paradoxes

John M. Simmons | Posted 04.22.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

Like any parents, we taught our children that they didn't hate their siblings; they loved them. And love didn't allow aggressive behavior. Perhaps we would have been wiser to teach them to control their anger rather than attempting to prove that paradoxes couldn't exist.

Adoption: Child Welfare or Business?

Frank Ligtvoet | Posted 04.20.2014 | Politics
Frank Ligtvoet

Most workers in the adoption world are decent people, but many have one-sided perspectives, which necessarily focus on the longings and wishes of adoptive parents, who are their paying clients.

Big Lessons That Transcend the Movie: There Are Philomenas All Around Us

Adam Pertman | Posted 03.29.2014 | Entertainment
Adam Pertman

The reality is that during the mid-20th century and beyond, severe religious, social and familial stigmas against unwed motherhood were the norm far beyond Ireland.

You're Not My Dad!

John M. Simmons | Posted 03.19.2014 | Parents
John M. Simmons

I have teens. We fight. Nothing on earth is more natural. I always have one goal in mind when I find myself in that situation: No matter how much my child hates me when the fight is over, I want them to understand how much I love them.

New Ohio Law Will Unseal Old Adoption Records

Suzanne Perryman | Posted 02.19.2014 | Parents
Suzanne Perryman

Eighteen years ago, without the sealed records of my birth and adoption, I searched for and found my birthparents. Putting the pieces of my past together filled the empty spaces in my life. Finding my family moved my future forward.

Real Parents in Adoption: A Paradigm Shift

Frank Ligtvoet | Posted 02.03.2014 | Parents
Frank Ligtvoet

Of course that scary remark will come sooner or later: 'You are not even my real dad.' A child that is denied something 'utterly' important, or is 'unfairly' disciplined tries to find hurting words and comes up with the ones she or he thinks are the worst.

Finding My Voice: Growing Up Asian and Adopted in the Midwest

Jennifer Flaa | Posted 01.23.2014 | Women
Jennifer Flaa

The "ching chang ching chong's" and "Where are you from's?" may never stop, but hopefully, within the next 29 years, it will be easier to find the balance between hanging my head in shame and completely losing my s**t.

I Learned I Was Adopted In Biology Class And Used Facebook To Connect With My Birth Family

Courtney Hardy | Posted 07.22.2013 | Good News
Courtney Hardy

My sophomore biology class was studying genetics when I learned, by accident, that I was adopted. As my teacher explained that two blue-eyed parents would never have a brown-eyed child. I raised my hand, happy to be the exception.

20,000 Kids Placed With Adoptive Families Through National Website

AP | Posted 06.22.2013 | Parents

WASHINGTON -- Federal officials say 20,000 foster children have been adopted after being listed on a national website that links adoptive families wit...

Coming Out to Family -- Six of Them, and All Mine

Judy Rickard | Posted 08.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Judy Rickard

I lost Mom to cancer in 1992. Dad lasted more than a decade without her and passed in 2003. I thought I wouldn't come out to family anymore after that, but life has a funny way of shaking you up.

What I Know About Motherhood Now That I Am An Adoptive Mother

Carrie Goldman | Posted 07.10.2013 | Parents
Carrie Goldman

My three girls take turns being the squeaky wheel, and my focus on each girl waxes and wanes. What never wavers is my love. Whether flesh of my flesh or soul of my soul, I love each daughter as a whole.

Equal Rights for All: It's Finally Time for Adopted People, Too

Adam Pertman | Posted 06.01.2013 | Politics
Adam Pertman

As our country has focused enormous attention in recent days on the rights of one minority, gay men and lesbians, we continue (alas) to give short-shrift to the decades-long effort to achieve equality for millions of people in another segment of our population: Americans who were adopted into their families.

10 Things Adoptees Want You to Know

Lesli Johnson | Posted 03.13.2013 | Parents
Lesli Johnson

I was adopted as an infant, during a time when adoption was still shrouded in secrecy. My experience is not unique, but it is important. Here are ten of the ten thousand things adoptees want the world to know.

Facebook Helps Adopted Teen Find Birth Mother

Posted 08.30.2011 | Impact

NBC Today interviewed a family who found their adopted daughter's birth mother on Facebook. As Jessi Zachtel grew up, she found herself increasingly...

A Civil Right: Adoptees Should Have Access to Their Birth Certificates

Adam Pertman | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Adam Pertman

Most of the seven million adopted Americans are denied a right so basic that it almost sounds like a joke: They cannot get access to their own original birth certificates.

Absurd Dilemmas Caused by Secrets in Closed Adoptions

Jean Strauss | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Jean Strauss

The secrets inherent in closed adoptions can create a lifetime of frustration and feelings of being second-class citizens -- and can also create absurd dilemmas.