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There is No Spoon: A Pre-Christmas Story

Leighann Lord | Posted 12.18.2014 | Comedy
Leighann Lord

Here's the deal: I live in a two-family house with -- oh my god -- my family, and so when sharing a meal it's not uncommon for plates, pots, pans, and yes, silverware to circulate freely between kitchens. So my spoons weren't missing. They had just temporarily relocated.

Is Your Family Keeping a Secret?

Susan Krauss Whitbourne | Posted 12.08.2014 | Fifty
Susan Krauss Whitbourne

We tend to think of our children as reflections of ourselves. When something goes "wrong" with them, we feel that there's something "wrong" with us.

Cutting Family Ties: 5 Ways to Handle These Decisions When Children or Other Family Are Involved

Sherrie Campbell, PhD | Posted 12.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Sherrie Campbell, PhD

Making healthy choices for ourselves can be extremely painful. In many situations we may feel betrayed by those who are close to us who decide to stay connected to the family members we have chosen to cut ties with, who have hurt us so deeply.

The Day I Felt Sorry for My Parents' GPS System

Kathy Radigan | Posted 12.21.2014 | Parents
Kathy Radigan

Joe stayed home with the kids, which included taking Peter, our 9-year-old, to a schoolmate's birthday party at Chuck E Cheese. I thought I was getting the better end of the deal until I had to fend for myself during the hour-long drive with Mom and Dad.

The Sound of Silence in The Empty Nest

Suzanne Stavert | Posted 11.11.2014 | Fifty
Suzanne Stavert

When the college students go off to school the dynamics in the household will obviously change, but the sounds of the family change as well.

What Are You Going to Do When He Grows Up?

Mardra Sikora | Posted 11.09.2014 | Parents
Mardra Sikora

There are times he comes out to tell you "the man helped me." With the sink, with the paper towels, with the door. Never a concern on his face. Never a problem breathed.

Does Motherhood Ever Become Obsolete?

Mindy Trotta | Posted 11.04.2014 | Parents
Mindy Trotta

I'm not quite sure who first used the metaphor "nest" to refer to one's home, but that wise soul was really spot on. We'd often come across nests poki...

Let It Go

Jim Joseph | Posted 10.25.2014 | Parents
Jim Joseph

I let her move herself in this year so that she could move herself into her twenties. I let it go. I guess it's a function of embracing the next phase of my life. My kids don't physically need me as much anymore. I don't have to be "Dad" as much as I used to.

When You Empty Your Nest and Your Child Gets Lost

Dr. Margaret Rutherford | Posted 10.24.2014 | Parents
Dr. Margaret Rutherford

Parents are left trying to decide how much to help. Whether or not to back away. They often blame themselves. Or go through a period of time where they deeply question what they could have done.

'Enjoy Every Moment' Includes The Later Ones, Too

Emily Ballard | Posted 10.22.2014 | Parents
Emily Ballard

As parents, we're instructed to "enjoy every moment" and are constantly reminded that "it goes by so quickly." The implication is that once on the other side of parenting our children daily, we'll be aimless and a little bit empty.

A Different Kind of 'Kvelling'

Nancy L. Wolf | Posted 10.21.2014 | Parents
Nancy L. Wolf

Kvelling gets a bit trickier as your kids get older. Especially if your kid happens not to be on the do-not-pass-go direct path from high school to early admission to the elite college of their choice, and then on to a top grad school or impressive first job.

How To Find The 'New' In Life Now That My Kids Are Grown

Sharon Greenthal | Posted 10.12.2014 | Fifty
Sharon Greenthal

This will be the first September I won't have any children starting school since 1992. The memory of dropping off my daughter for her first day of pre-school, my 3 month old baby boy in my arms, is so vivid. Everything in my life was brand new -- my children, my home, my marriage, my minivan, my friends. There was so much to wonder about and plan for the future.

The Day I Realized My Child Had Finally Become An Adult

Sharon Greenthal | Posted 09.15.2014 | Fifty
Sharon Greenthal

I look at my daughter's face and see barely a whisper of the little girl who once reached for me with chubby hands and a baby toothed grin -- her nails are manicured, her teeth are straight and white. Her face is now all cheekbones and eyeliner. The slumped, awkward adolescent has become a tall, confident adult who moves easily in the world without me.

My Teenage Daughter's In Israel, And I'm A Bundle Of Nerves

Deborah Gaines | Posted 09.10.2014 | Fifty
Deborah Gaines

My daughter is in Israel on Birthright this week, along with 3,500 other Jewish kids who thought it would be cool to get a free 10-day trip to a place where you can ride camels and swim in the Mediterranean Sea. They didn't plan to be the target of more than 400 Hamas-fired missiles, or to experience their first air raid sirens, or to run from the pool at their kibbutz hotel to a nearby bomb shelter as white contrails streaked the sky.

The Talk We -- and Doctors -- May Owe Our Parents

Kate Jones | Posted 08.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Kate Jones

Americans should be carrying out The Talk with increasing frequency. After all, we're living longer, chronic illness is on the upswing, and the demand for long-term care is growing fast.

5 Thoughts From a Loving Father

Richard Greenberg | Posted 08.11.2014 | Parents
Richard Greenberg

My daughter celebrates her 19th birthday next week. I can fix her car. I can de-frag her computer... but I can't protect her from disappointment. These are the thoughts I can offer her as she heads toward the rest of her life.

Why Helicopter Parenting Can Actually Be A Good Thing

Susan Krauss Whitbourne | Posted 08.09.2014 | Fifty
Susan Krauss Whitbourne

You've heard the critiques of so-called "helicopter parents" who can't stay away from their kids, smothering them with so much love and attention that they never develop self-reliance. Narcissistic, dependent, and unable to strike out on their own, your over-loved children expect everyone to wait on them hand and foot.

25 Great Things About Being The Mother Of Adult Kids

Sharon Greenthal | Posted 07.06.2014 | Fifty
Sharon Greenthal

hough there are times when I miss having little children, being the mom of adults has its perks. This Mother's Day I thought I'd share the great things about having children who are all grown up.

Motherhood Never Ends

Amy Ruhlin | Posted 07.08.2014 | Fifty
Amy Ruhlin

It's almost Mother's Day, and my 19-year-old-son is preparing to move into his first apartment. My 22-year-old-daughter is getting ready to graduate from college. I have made it through my first year as an empty-nester. And life feels huge.

When Can You Get Your Kids Off Your Dime?

David A. Dedman | Posted 07.07.2014 | Money
David A. Dedman

Here are my decisions about financially weaning my son off my dime, right or wrong. It is a work in progress and I'm learning as I go.

The Best Thing I Did For My Son

Sharon Greenthal | Posted 06.25.2014 | Fifty
Sharon Greenthal

After he came home junior year to go to community college for a semester -- and, making the best choice he's ever made, decided to go back to the university he had left -- my husband and I finally did something smart. We left him alone.

10 Essentials to Help Your Kid Rent an Apartment in NYC

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 06.17.2014 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

When your kid needs to find an apartment in Manhattan on a budget (our rule is it can't be more expensive than on campus housing), you can't help but get a little tense.

10 Creative Ways to Help When Your Help Isn't Wanted

Paula Spencer Scott | Posted 06.14.2014 | Fifty
Paula Spencer Scott

Parents are driven by a need for control, and their adult children are driven by a need to solve problems, get things done, and tick items off a to-do list. That disconnect can be crazymaking -- for both sides.

The Weekend I Talked -- And the Kids Listened

Barbara Falconer Newhall | Posted 06.14.2014 | Fifty
Barbara Falconer Newhall

You know your kids have turned into grown-ups when they listen to your advice. Mind you, I don't mean take your advice. I mean listen -- gently and kindly -- as you talk away about how you did things when you were their age. Or how you did things last week.

The Hardest Part of Parenting

Jan Cloninger and Rosemary Strembicki, LCSW | Posted 06.04.2014 | Parents
Jan Cloninger and Rosemary Strembicki, LCSW

I think letting go is one of the most challenging and rarely thought about experiences in parenting. I know I had many moments when I wondered if I was holding on too tight as my son was growing up.