"Happy Holidays!" "Happy Hanukkah!" Even in our greetings, this time of year come with a lot of expectations. For many families, the "happy" and "merry" expectations can cause great stress and anxiety -- not just for you as an adult, but for your children, too.
The most important thing to remember is that we have a choice. We can actively choose to be friendly instead of harsh. The trick is to have a strategy in place. I call this a calm-down plan, which helps when you don't feel friendly.
The relationship between a parent and a child is the weirdest relationship you will ever have. It is close and intimate. It is cold and distant, with hearts raw and broken. And this could vary not by the year or the day, but by the moment.
earning to recognize how our parents influenced us may be the most effective way of preparing for the job ahead. What did your parents do that you remember most positively? Were there hugs at night? Surprise trips to the ice cream store? Goofy family photos?
Now more than ever, teens have the desire to experiment with bold hair color as a means to shape their image, and it's leaving their parents with questions. How young is too young for color or highlights?
A year ago, I was getting ready to go to college 900 miles away from home. When the day finally came, I wasn't one of those girls who teared up about leaving home for the first time. Instead, I unleashed an entire waterfall of salty tears from my eyes at the airport.
Every parent I see is exhausted. In most cases, both parents have demanding, full-time jobs, while the one with the less demanding job often also gets the role of primary caregiver, though both parents are heavily involved. Some of us have help; most of us don't. Either way, we're worn out.
You -- and only you -- get to decide what's important to your family. Not the modern culture of "more" and "faster." Not the experts. Not even your mother. You choose what your family considers valuable, enriching and fun.
I always saw all the therapies and special support not as a race to fix or cure him, not as tools in an arsenal as if I was fighting a battle against autism, but rather, "I want to get to know my son better, I want to understand him so I can love him better and be a better mother to him."
You know darn well that they're lying to you or hiding something. It can be very hard to take, much less comprehend. Let's face it: of all of the behaviors kids are prone to, lying can especially sting.