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Going Home

Lisa Abeyta | Posted 07.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Abeyta

Tonight, my mother and my brother moved the bed out of her guest room. Tomorrow morning, a truck will deliver a hospital bed to take its place. And sometime after that, an ambulance with my father in tow will make the trek from the hospital to my mother's and father's home.

After Father's Day

Chef Rossi | Posted 06.18.2014 | Women
Chef Rossi

This year marked two more Father's Days for Dad since then, and his 88th birthday. Since that fall, his new life includes a wheelchair and nurses, but the champ is far from counted out.

Learning to Embrace Empowerment in the Last Chapter of Life

Jeanne Dennis | Posted 06.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Jeanne Dennis

It was Georgia's* 90th birthday party. Unlike several of the other guests (who were at least two decades younger), she was lively, bright and full of...

I Made a Video of My Dad That Reminded Me the Internet Is a Fundamentally Good Place

Lisa Abeyta | Posted 06.28.2014 | Good News
Lisa Abeyta

I had no idea the video would touch so many people or be shared so many times. The comments and emails -- for the most part -- have been a wonderfully moving procession of individuals sharing their own journey through Alzheimer's or dementia.

10 Creative Ways to Help When Your Help Isn't Wanted

Paula Spencer Scott | Posted 06.14.2014 | Fifty
Paula Spencer Scott

Parents are driven by a need for control, and their adult children are driven by a need to solve problems, get things done, and tick items off a to-do list. That disconnect can be crazymaking -- for both sides.

The Man He Was Before

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 06.07.2014 | Fifty
Elizabeth Flora Ross

The man I'm writing about is no longer with us. That is what dementia does; it steals the essence of the person. You lose your loved one before you lose them.

Aging and Brain Injury Awareness Month

Diana M. Raab | Posted 05.31.2014 | Fifty
Diana M. Raab

I remember a friend once telling me after her mother died at the age of 85 that each year over the age of 80, her mother seemed to age five years. I now understand.

The Day I Became A Stranger To My Father

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 05.31.2014 | Fifty
Elizabeth Flora Ross

As I drove along the highway, I noticed it was what my mom likes to call, 'A blue, white and green day.' That epitomizes Florida to her. Vibrant blue sky. White puffy clouds. Luscious green foliage. My dad had spent nearly 12 years here living out his retirement dream. Until the hell that is dementia entered our lives.

Why We Must Support Caregivers

Debra B. Whitman, Ph.D. | Posted 05.26.2014 | Fifty
Debra B. Whitman, Ph.D.

Imagine your day goes something like this: You get up, get dressed, cook breakfast, make bag lunches for the kids, drop the kids off at school, rush...

What It's Like To Watch My Mother As Alzheimer's Creeps In

Sheila Blanchette | Posted 05.18.2014 | Fifty
Sheila Blanchette

Memory is tricky, even people without Alzheimer's forget where they put their keys or why they went upstairs. Was I looking for something in the bedroom? Yes, that's right, I need a sweater.

Parenting During a Crisis

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 05.05.2014 | Parents
Elizabeth Flora Ross

She knows I am sad. And she has seen me cry. I just don't want her to witness me losing control. I think that could be scary for her.

6 Questions Everyone Needs To Ask Their Mother

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 05.03.2014 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

When my mother was just six years old, her mother died unexpectedly. Much of my mother's image of her own mother has been shaped by a few old photos, anecdotes from a cousin or two, and the dim but cherished memory of being loved.

A Pain Unlike Any I've Ever Experienced

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 04.01.2014 | Fifty
Elizabeth Flora Ross

They gave us a list. To make preparing easier, it read. It included all the basics. Practical things: furniture, linens, toiletries, and clothing. Under each category there were specific items listed. We were pressed for time. Rushed.

Why I Bought My 80-Year-Old Mother a Tiara

Emma Nicholson | Posted 03.01.2014 | Fifty
Emma Nicholson

I decided this Christmas to give her something to remind her of how special she is and how much fun there is yet to be had...

3 Ways To Make The Gift Of Time More Meaningful This Holiday Season

Joan Lunden | Posted 02.23.2014 | Fifty
Joan Lunden

The holidays are a popular time for reuniting with siblings and parents. Like me, many sons and daughters no longer live in the same city as their parents, so this may be the first time in months when adult children are seeing their parents. Once together, it's common that health changes in mom or dad are more evident and the topic of aging, and its related issues, becomes a topic of family conversation.

Zen and the Art of Alzheimer's

Mary McLaughlin | Posted 02.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary McLaughlin

I expect to introduce myself repeatedly to my father this Christmas. I only hope that each time I do, he finds that he is pleased to meet me.

For All That You Do: Giving Thanks to the Caregivers

Judi Freedman | Posted 01.27.2014 | Fifty
Judi Freedman

I know how difficult it is to balance life while caregiving. My sister N and I were caregivers to my mom until she passed away last March at the age of 91. Up until the end of her life, we agonized over multiple decisions we had to make regarding her caregiving.

One Of The Most Difficult Discussions I've Ever Had To Endure

Lisa K. Friedman | Posted 01.26.2014 | Fifty
Lisa K. Friedman

The End-of-Life meeting at the nursing home was held in the Serenity Room at noon. We were summoned, my mother and I, by the team who have been caring for my father for five years in the dementia ward. We showed up late, my mother and I, arm in arm, like diminished Rockettes.

5 Life-Changing Events That Can Shake Us To Our Core

Barbara Hannah Grufferman | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Barbara Hannah Grufferman

Organization expert and best-selling author Julie Morgenstern told me when I interviewed her recently that turning 50 is often so traumatic it can make many people stay stuck where they are, unable to move on.

'Nothing Is Possibly More Unsettling As Watching Your Parents Advance Into Old Age'

Mary K. Moore | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Mary K. Moore

'I think I'll go to 80, and then I'm out of here.' My 78-year-old mother says this to me over the phone last week as if she were scheduling a routine dental exam rather than aligning her yearly planner with that of the Grim Reaper.

Why The Best Years Of My Life Were The Last Of My Parents' Lives

Peggie Walsh | Posted 12.25.2013 | Fifty
Peggie Walsh

I made a commitment. I told my husband I was going to make my parents a top priority in my life. He agreed. On my mom's 80th birthday in 1999, we physically moved my parents to a new home less than a mile from our house.

Kathryn Sollmann: Find Financial Security and Inner Peace

Kathryn Sollmann | Posted 12.09.2013 | Women
Kathryn Sollmann

It's undeniable that loosening your grip on your smartphone, being in the moment with your children and replacing multi-tasking with uni-tasking leads to greater well-being.

How To Confront A 21st Century Epidemic

Paul Hogan | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Paul Hogan

Caring for a loved one with Alzheimer's or dementia can be a sad, lonely and often frustrating struggle. It could be Mom or Dad, or a grandparent or beloved uncle, who begins to lose his or her grip on the world. They may speak and act strangely, forget familiar names and people, wander or get lost, regress to their childhood, or withdraw fully into themselves.

Time to Revolutionize the American Way of Aging

Irv Katz | Posted 11.25.2013 | Impact
Irv Katz

I am a part of the human services "industry" and, as such, you can count me among those who have this crazy belief that we could live more fulfilling lives (as in "Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness") if we had a more rational approach to aging.

When Parenting Your Parents Becomes Heartbreaking

Elizabeth Street | Christina Anderson | Posted 09.25.2013 | Fifty

"Get ready. What you're going to see isn't pleasant." Those were the words of warning from my sister as I prepared to embark on a journey to Norway to...