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Aging Parents

10 Things I Learned From Caring For My Mother During The Final Days Of Her Life

Lisa Goich-Andreadis | Posted 11.10.2014 | Fifty
Lisa Goich-Andreadis

As my mom lie naked from the waist down, I lifted up her legs like a toddler, while my sister slid a pad under her hips. I got a diaper out of the package left by the hospice nurse, and placed it on my mom. Never having children, this was foreign to me.

There's a Wall Up in his Studio Apartment, And it's Me

Alisa Schindler | Posted 10.23.2014 | Fifty
Alisa Schindler

The point of my visit is to give him a sense of family, to help him connect and feel less alone, yet from the moment I walk in, I'm guarded. Pleasant, but not warm. Interested, but not caring.

The Day I Felt Sorry for My Parents' GPS System

Kathy Radigan | Posted 10.21.2014 | Parents
Kathy Radigan

Joe stayed home with the kids, which included taking Peter, our 9-year-old, to a schoolmate's birthday party at Chuck E Cheese. I thought I was getting the better end of the deal until I had to fend for myself during the hour-long drive with Mom and Dad.

What It's Like To Be A Caregiver On The Front Lines

Alisa Schindler | Posted 10.17.2014 | Fifty
Alisa Schindler

He's waiting for my call. I can see him, crouched over on his bed, trying to rouse himself out of his stupor; hoping a call from me will do the trick, maybe give him some reason to wake up. I don't want to call.

What We Can Learn From Taiwan About Aging

Robyn Stone | Posted 10.07.2014 | Fifty
Robyn Stone

Imagine how exciting it would be to design a whole new system of care for older adults -- entirely from scratch. You'd be working with a clean slate, unencumbered by the temptation to retain old ways of operating, simply because 'we've always done it this way.'

Joan Lunden On 3 Great Ways For Grandkids To Stay Connected With Grandparents

Joan Lunden | Posted 11.19.2014 | Fifty
Joan Lunden

While I am a huge fan of using different digital tools to stay connected with others, I also think that nothing can replace the impact of spending some face time with loved ones. These moments are important in building relationships between grandparents and their grandchildren, but can also be useful in helping families keep an eye on an aging loved one's health.

How My Mother And I Are Handling Her Alzheimer's Diagnosis

Mardra Sikora | Posted 11.13.2014 | Fifty
Mardra Sikora

My mother is a character from a Tennessee Williams play... but without a Southern accent. I am her second child and was born when she was 16 years old. Her childhood was cut short and never spoken of in a way that imparted a sense of safety or innocence. Each man she ran away with she hoped would rescue her from the last. She gave up every child she bore to some degree.

Why Caring For My Aging Father Has Turned Into An 'Epic Nightmare'

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 11.11.2014 | Fifty
Elizabeth Flora Ross

Dad had a fall. The resulting injuries are horrific. The top of his femur smashed through his pelvis, shattering it. Picture a plate dropped onto a tile floor. That is my dad's pelvis. I've seen the images from the CAT scan, and they made me sick to my stomach. Doctors can do nothing to fix it.

Don't Wait to Have This Conversation With Your Parents

Betterment.com | Posted 10.22.2014 | Money
Betterment.com

Just at the point where you finally feel your own mid-life finances are under control (401k, Roth IRA, emergency fund, 529 savings account -- check!), it's time to start getting involved with your aging parents' finances, or so it seems.

Yagana Shah

This Is Why Every Couple Should Want At Least One Daughter

HuffingtonPost.com | Yagana Shah | Posted 08.19.2014 | Fifty

Parents, be good to your daughters. Though some polls indicate sons are more sought after than daughters among parents, especially in certain cultures...

How To Find Strength During Your Parent's Slow Descent Into Dementia

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 10.18.2014 | Fifty
Elizabeth Flora Ross

I open the door to step back into the room, and he is already asleep again. Sitting in the chair by his bed. The effort to get dressed and move to the chair was too much. He is spent. His lungs are filled with fluid, and he no longer has the physical strength to cough it up. They are giving him medicine designed to help, and he tries, but he just can't get it out anymore.

Hospice Healing: Care in the Palm of Your Hand

Jeanne Dennis | Posted 10.13.2014 | Healthy Living
Jeanne Dennis

When Kei Okada maneuvered his bike through the streets of Manhattan one morning recently, he had a lot on his mind, including the vehicles whizzing ar...

45 Things I've Learned By 45

Julie Kantor | Posted 10.07.2014 | Women
Julie Kantor

Understand that people don't tend to change a lot. If they disappoint, they will often continue to disappoint. If they impress, they will often continue to impress. You don't want to keep going into a Chinese restaurant looking for Italian food.

Dear Family Whisperer: You Can't Go Home but You Can Grow Up -- Here's How

Melinda Blau | Posted 09.30.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

With grandparents staying active and healthy longer, many families are trying to figure out how to have stress-free three-generation gatherings.

Dear Dad: An Open (Heart) Letter to My Unintentionally Influential Father

Laurel Miller | Posted 09.24.2014 | Women
Laurel Miller

I've given my strange proclivities a lot of thought, and the only source of blame I can point to is my dad, Dr. Robert M. Miller, aka RMM, Bob, or "Doc." Most people assume that being the child of a veterinarian (a large and exotic vet, at that) isn't all that different from having a parent who's an MD, if they think about it at all.

Going Home

Lisa Abeyta | Posted 09.13.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Abeyta

Tonight, my mother and my brother moved the bed out of her guest room. Tomorrow morning, a truck will deliver a hospital bed to take its place. And sometime after that, an ambulance with my father in tow will make the trek from the hospital to my mother's and father's home.

After Father's Day

Chef Rossi | Posted 08.18.2014 | Women
Chef Rossi

This year marked two more Father's Days for Dad since then, and his 88th birthday. Since that fall, his new life includes a wheelchair and nurses, but the champ is far from counted out.

Learning to Embrace Empowerment in the Last Chapter of Life

Jeanne Dennis | Posted 08.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Jeanne Dennis

It was Georgia's* 90th birthday party. Unlike several of the other guests (who were at least two decades younger), she was lively, bright and full of...

I Made a Video of My Dad That Reminded Me the Internet Is a Fundamentally Good Place

Lisa Abeyta | Posted 06.28.2014 | Good News
Lisa Abeyta

I had no idea the video would touch so many people or be shared so many times. The comments and emails -- for the most part -- have been a wonderfully moving procession of individuals sharing their own journey through Alzheimer's or dementia.

10 Creative Ways to Help When Your Help Isn't Wanted

Paula Spencer Scott | Posted 06.14.2014 | Fifty
Paula Spencer Scott

Parents are driven by a need for control, and their adult children are driven by a need to solve problems, get things done, and tick items off a to-do list. That disconnect can be crazymaking -- for both sides.

The Man He Was Before

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 06.07.2014 | Fifty
Elizabeth Flora Ross

The man I'm writing about is no longer with us. That is what dementia does; it steals the essence of the person. You lose your loved one before you lose them.

Aging and Brain Injury Awareness Month

Diana M. Raab | Posted 05.31.2014 | Fifty
Diana M. Raab

I remember a friend once telling me after her mother died at the age of 85 that each year over the age of 80, her mother seemed to age five years. I now understand.

The Day I Became A Stranger To My Father

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 05.31.2014 | Fifty
Elizabeth Flora Ross

As I drove along the highway, I noticed it was what my mom likes to call, 'A blue, white and green day.' That epitomizes Florida to her. Vibrant blue sky. White puffy clouds. Luscious green foliage. My dad had spent nearly 12 years here living out his retirement dream. Until the hell that is dementia entered our lives.

Why We Must Support Caregivers

Debra B. Whitman, Ph.D. | Posted 05.26.2014 | Fifty
Debra B. Whitman, Ph.D.

Imagine your day goes something like this: You get up, get dressed, cook breakfast, make bag lunches for the kids, drop the kids off at school, rush...

What It's Like To Watch My Mother As Alzheimer's Creeps In

Sheila Blanchette | Posted 05.18.2014 | Fifty
Sheila Blanchette

Memory is tricky, even people without Alzheimer's forget where they put their keys or why they went upstairs. Was I looking for something in the bedroom? Yes, that's right, I need a sweater.