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Aging Parents

Parenting During a Crisis

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 05.05.2014 | Parents
Elizabeth Flora Ross

She knows I am sad. And she has seen me cry. I just don't want her to witness me losing control. I think that could be scary for her.

6 Questions Everyone Needs To Ask Their Mother

Jody Gastfriend | Posted 05.03.2014 | Fifty
Jody Gastfriend

When my mother was just six years old, her mother died unexpectedly. Much of my mother's image of her own mother has been shaped by a few old photos, anecdotes from a cousin or two, and the dim but cherished memory of being loved.

A Pain Unlike Any I've Ever Experienced

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 04.01.2014 | Fifty
Elizabeth Flora Ross

They gave us a list. To make preparing easier, it read. It included all the basics. Practical things: furniture, linens, toiletries, and clothing. Under each category there were specific items listed. We were pressed for time. Rushed.

Why I Bought My 80-Year-Old Mother a Tiara

Emma Nicholson | Posted 03.01.2014 | Fifty
Emma Nicholson

I decided this Christmas to give her something to remind her of how special she is and how much fun there is yet to be had...

3 Ways To Make The Gift Of Time More Meaningful This Holiday Season

Joan Lunden | Posted 02.23.2014 | Fifty
Joan Lunden

The holidays are a popular time for reuniting with siblings and parents. Like me, many sons and daughters no longer live in the same city as their parents, so this may be the first time in months when adult children are seeing their parents. Once together, it's common that health changes in mom or dad are more evident and the topic of aging, and its related issues, becomes a topic of family conversation.

Zen and the Art of Alzheimer's

Mary McLaughlin | Posted 02.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary McLaughlin

I expect to introduce myself repeatedly to my father this Christmas. I only hope that each time I do, he finds that he is pleased to meet me.

For All That You Do: Giving Thanks to the Caregivers

Judi Freedman | Posted 01.27.2014 | Fifty
Judi Freedman

I know how difficult it is to balance life while caregiving. My sister N and I were caregivers to my mom until she passed away last March at the age of 91. Up until the end of her life, we agonized over multiple decisions we had to make regarding her caregiving.

One Of The Most Difficult Discussions I've Ever Had To Endure

Lisa K. Friedman | Posted 01.26.2014 | Fifty
Lisa K. Friedman

The End-of-Life meeting at the nursing home was held in the Serenity Room at noon. We were summoned, my mother and I, by the team who have been caring for my father for five years in the dementia ward. We showed up late, my mother and I, arm in arm, like diminished Rockettes.

5 Life-Changing Events That Can Shake Us To Our Core

Barbara Hannah Grufferman | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Barbara Hannah Grufferman

Organization expert and best-selling author Julie Morgenstern told me when I interviewed her recently that turning 50 is often so traumatic it can make many people stay stuck where they are, unable to move on.

'Nothing Is Possibly More Unsettling As Watching Your Parents Advance Into Old Age'

Mary K. Moore | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Mary K. Moore

'I think I'll go to 80, and then I'm out of here.' My 78-year-old mother says this to me over the phone last week as if she were scheduling a routine dental exam rather than aligning her yearly planner with that of the Grim Reaper.

Why The Best Years Of My Life Were The Last Of My Parents' Lives

Peggie Walsh | Posted 12.25.2013 | Fifty
Peggie Walsh

I made a commitment. I told my husband I was going to make my parents a top priority in my life. He agreed. On my mom's 80th birthday in 1999, we physically moved my parents to a new home less than a mile from our house.

Kathryn Sollmann: Find Financial Security and Inner Peace

Kathryn Sollmann | Posted 12.09.2013 | Women
Kathryn Sollmann

It's undeniable that loosening your grip on your smartphone, being in the moment with your children and replacing multi-tasking with uni-tasking leads to greater well-being.

How To Confront A 21st Century Epidemic

Paul Hogan | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Paul Hogan

Caring for a loved one with Alzheimer's or dementia can be a sad, lonely and often frustrating struggle. It could be Mom or Dad, or a grandparent or beloved uncle, who begins to lose his or her grip on the world. They may speak and act strangely, forget familiar names and people, wander or get lost, regress to their childhood, or withdraw fully into themselves.

Time to Revolutionize the American Way of Aging

Irv Katz | Posted 11.25.2013 | Impact
Irv Katz

I am a part of the human services "industry" and, as such, you can count me among those who have this crazy belief that we could live more fulfilling lives (as in "Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness") if we had a more rational approach to aging.

When Parenting Your Parents Becomes Heartbreaking

Elizabeth Street | Christina Anderson | Posted 09.25.2013 | Fifty

"Get ready. What you're going to see isn't pleasant." Those were the words of warning from my sister as I prepared to embark on a journey to Norway to...

Midlifers Discussing Their Own Death At Dinner Parties

The Huffington Post | Shelley Emling | Posted 09.25.2013 | Fifty

Ah, a lovely dinner with your baby boomer friends: Thai fish cakes, minted pea soup and a nicely chilled Sauvignon Blanc. Also on the menu? The discus...

The Ultimate End-Of-Life Plan

Wall Street Journal | Katy Butler | Posted 09.13.2013 | Fifty

My mother died shortly before her 85th birthday, in a quiet hospital room in Connecticut. One of my brothers was down the hall, calling me in Californ...

'Orange Is the New Black' ... Geek Is the New Chic... 60 Is the New?

David Sable | Posted 10.26.2013 | Impact
David Sable

I guess I could look at my birthday as the third time I've reached 20 -- but that makes 80 seem somewhat too close.

Dear God, Please Help My Mother Die

Nancy Wurtzel | Posted 10.01.2013 | Fifty
Nancy Wurtzel

Instead of a magical cure, I pray for an end to my mother's life. I ask God to ease her into death, and do it soon.

The Sandwich Generation: When You Are Parenting Your Children and Aging Parents at the Same Time

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. | Posted 09.29.2013 | Fifty
Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

Such a situation often comes with various emotional and financial challenges, as modern medicine allows people to live longer, while young adults have a harder time finding jobs. So this scenario is a trend that is likely to continue.

Visiting the Folks

Nathan Risinger | Posted 09.17.2013 | World
Nathan Risinger

The Chinese government enacted a law on the that, in brief, requires children to regularly visit their parents, and employers to allow their employees ample time off from work to do so. Such an idea seems like a good one -- at least in principle.

Want to Know Your Adult Child? Write a Book Together

Carolyn Bucior | Posted 08.28.2013 | Fifty
Carolyn Bucior

Getting to know a parent as an adult is not something everyone gets a chance to do, and such endeavors seem to intrigue us.

Mom's Mind May Be Gone, But Her Heart Still Wants What Her Heart Wants

BJ Gallagher | Posted 08.19.2013 | Healthy Living
BJ Gallagher

Hanging in her bathroom was a navy blue vinyl windbreaker, size 2XL, which Mom had "borrowed" from my stepdad years ago. Every morning and every afternoon the two of them would walk around the block, holding hands to steady themselves, wearing their identical navy windbreakers.

An Unexpected Form Of Therapy

Nancy Wurtzel | Posted 08.11.2013 | Fifty
Nancy Wurtzel

Baby Doll, as I call her, has reinforced something I already knew but had never put into words. The instinct to show affection is strong. We humans need love and kindness and we need to give it in return.

8 Things Your Aging Parents Want You To Know

Posted 06.09.2013 | Fifty

SPECIAL FROM Next Avenue As they get older, they often need to get some long-held things off their chest By Linda Bernstein “I felt guilty ...