I respect Amy Chua for being honest in her memoir, and am glad that she's able to reflect on some of her parenting decisions with candor and even remorse. The conversation her book has precipitated is a crucial one.
I am a mother who does not have a strong conviction that there is one fixed, right way of raising children. Often times I second-guess my own choice in a situation, and wonder if I could have found a better way of parenting.
David Brooks sets the stage for a question that reaches beyond Chua's book: Is the surest path to success the relentless pursuit of excellence, or is it being able to work in groups and navigate social networks?
Effective child-rearing involves finding the balance between how much we ought to actively chisel our children into what we believe is the perfect image versus passively allowing their own personalities and gifts to unfold.
As I read about Amy Chua's Tiger Mother, I keep asking myself, why is it that the kids who excel in high school don't necessarily do well in life? Have you noticed that at reunions or by staying in touch with your classmates?
If you want to make people a little upset, say something mean about their husband. If you want to make them angry, pick on their pets. If you want them to attack you from all sides, criticize their parenting.