Remember, feelings that are buried alive do not die but try. When I was doing my own deep emotional healing, I learned that I had layers of these buried emotions. I started with the basic and went deeper so as not to overwhelm myself.
A mother cries because she doesn't want to wear a wig to her daughter's wedding. The woman who has already outlived by a year her prognosis of imminent death talks and talks as if her unbroken chain of outpouring words are keeping her alive.
Trying to eradicate anger is like trying to box with our own shadow: It doesn't work. Getting rid of it implies either expressing it and creating untold emotional damage, denying its existence, or repressing it until it erupts at a later time.
Though I have moved far from my own refugee past -- I've become an American writer and journalist -- I never underestimate the speed with which an immigrant boy can go off track, and how his vision of America as a land of milk and honey can quickly shift.
At 4 p.m. I have a wedding rehearsal. Maybe that is the way to derive meaning from days like today. Look evil in the eye, affirm your love for one another and step forward. That takes a courage that can banish fear.
It can be so hard to find love in our hearts, to imagine peace, to practice compassion, to have faith in a benevolent universe after terrible things happen. But for as long as we hold on to anger and fear, we add to the darkness in our own hearts and in the world.
I can see it on the streets of New York, and online on the social networks -- we are angry and want a response to Boston. The question we face now as individuals and as a nation is what to do with our anger.
It's not easy driving in traffic with people cutting you off, traffic backing up, and people disobeying the traffic rules. It's easy to get angry. But the reality is that you are driving a 4,000-pound vehicle at 65 miles per hour with almost no room for error.
This is not a man-bashing reflection. What I am arguing is that anger has its proper place in the political sphere and because of this; some should not have privileged access to anger while another person's anger is dismissed.
By opening to his own grief instead of armoring himself with anger, Justin was finally able to start the healing process. His grief had never gone away; it had just been hidden. Once he was willing to open to it and feel it, his own sorrow could show him the way home to peace.
Keep a record of the situations that lead to your anger and your hostility, and try to use these ideas. You might find yourself less angry -- and less anxious -- and the people who care about you will appreciate your progress. You can control your anger rather than let it control you.
Achilles had anger-management issues. Moses, too, had a temper. Roughly 3,000 years have come and gone, and these guys still seem familiar. Maybe we will someday eliminate poverty, but the hotheads will always be with us.
Nurture your soul with healthy foods that inspire you and build you up. Avoid those that create ugly feelings inside. By doing this, you will be able to keep your inner garden oasis beautiful and flourishing.
The challenge is getting Chris out of his head, into his heart and body so that he can fully understand the personality of rage and the punitive price he is paying for allowing it to abide in his life.
If day-to-day stress and anger and anxiety are not causes of hypertension, do I believe that there is a mind/body connection in hypertension? Yes, I absolutely do. But the connection is very different from what most people think.
Haitians have a famous saying about shame and anger; my mother says it all the time when talking about someone who hides behind a wall of anger because they are ashamed of their own behavior but won't or don't know how to admit it. Li fe la wont sevi kole.
This week, TV industry blogs reported my own personal decision to ask Evolution Media to scrub all images of me captured during their filming of a trash-talking reality television show where I happened to appear on camera.
No one is bad and sinful by nature; rather, we are projecting these characteristics onto the objects we are viewing in this way. Both non-virtuous and virtuous actions arise because of the way we view things, and we have the ability to eliminate ignorant views and replace them with "right view."