Apparently, the Buddhists say that any time we suffer misfortune, two arrows fly our way. The first arrow is the actual bad event, which can can, indeed, cause pain. The second arrow is the suffering. That's actually optional. The second arrow represents our reaction to the bad event.
Emotions, whether they feel good or bad, have a purpose, so long as they guide decision making or make you more aware. But when they don't, you end up on your own torturous mental treadmill, pounding out mile after angry mile and getting nowhere fast.
Even children who are not directly hit by gun violence suffer the collateral damage of living in an unsafe environment saturated with guns that are routinely used to settle conflicts or to exact retaliation.
One of the best ways to think of a relationship on the rocks is to reflect on your expectations for your relationship. What are they? What is it that you really want from your partner? What could your partner do now that would -- from your point of view -- make the relationship work again?
Jealousy can be lots of things. It can be a show of how much you love someone and desire to protect them. It can also be a horrid thing where you envelop them instead of trusting them and letting them grow into themselves.
Located in the lower right quadrant of the abdomen, the liver is where health begins. It supports every system. It is the primary detoxifier for whatever we eat, inhale or absorb and it converts food to energy and stores it as glycogen.
Unfortunately, as most relationships mature, couples can find themselves bickering over small things. If those negative interactions, as minor as they may seem at the time, continue and increase, they can eventually pervade the relationship.
My son's words were my own. His feelings were a manifestation of what he had silently observed and internalized his father doing only five days earlier. I hadn't realized that he soaked in that much of the fight, but here were my words, returned to haunt me.
In Los Angeles, since Jan. 1, we've been struggling to overcome the horrors of the Great Grocery Bag Upheaval. To sum it up: Our leaders have banned plastic grocery bags altogether and now require shoppers to pay for paper bags. Oh, the humanity!
In addition to the three virtues -- seeking knowledge, avoiding anger, and demonstrating forgiveness -- Prophet Muhammad and George Washington share countless other values, including gratitude, courtesy, honesty, and reliability.
Divorce is already a traumatic experience for most individuals and their families. Dealing with a toxic spouse who has it out for you makes the divorce process even worse by dragging out issues that could easily be resolved with compromise and agreements outside of the courtroom.
Most people say they want more love and joy in their lives, but they are often confused on how to create these experiences. What can we do, in very practical terms, to create more love and joy in our lives?
One minute, she was walking toward me, the next, she was dragging her body forward, propelled only by tears and heartfelt accusations: You always make me miss everything fun! I don't want to go! I'm not going! You always make me leave! I never get to stay for the fun things.
Anger and hatred can be directed at yourself or at other people, but either way you lose when you allow these negative foods for the soul to take over. Fortunately, there are some ways to overcome anger and hatred in your life.
We often have several "primary agreements" in our intimate relationships. We agree to take care of each other, as well as to be nice, to protect and not to hurt each other. "I've got your back! I wont hurt you, and I wont let any one else hurt you! You're safe with me!"
Gradually, I began to recover the memories of our love. They contradicted the story of betrayal and disappointment I had told myself all those years. And then I had to face a very hard question. After the anger over a betrayal, what do you do with the love?