In my work with couples, they may tell me that they had a big fight, and when I ask what they were fighting about, they often can't remember. The reason for this is that it's rarely the issue itself, but how they are dealing with the issue that creates the most problems.
We know that this is an extremely complex issue and by no means think that simple solutions can adequately address such complex problems. If you have a son or daughter who is struggling, isolated and angry, here are some words that you might consider writing or saying.
As we enter 2013, the acute pain of the Sandy Hook massacre is beginning to recede. While some people yearn to move on, others vow never to forget. As part of the healing process, I suggest we do both. Action aimed at creating something meaningful can go a long way toward recovery.
A little more than 24 hours after a young man in Newtown, Conn., gunned down 20 children, their caretakers and his own mother, hearing my kids equate death with "boy stuff" takes the breath out of my lungs.
Coming from one of the worst environments since my parents divorce, I was in desperate need of help. I had just been thrown out of my high school for acting completely inappropriate, and having terrible fits of anger.
Not a single one of us can go through life angry at others for not handling situations the way we would have handled them. I can't possibly cope with debating each and every person I disagree with -- no one can.