Natural disasters do not affect everyone equally or in the same ways. The burning questions are not just about whether we get adequate nourishment or shelter, but also if it is safe to be who we are. Are shelters open to openly gay/lesbian people or transgender individuals?
Would-be donors should consider whether "doing the most good" might mean supporting one of the many other effective and reputable charities that provide for the needy without engaging in anti-gay beliefs, policies, or political activities.
We must base prevention and treatment efforts in sustainable endeavors that encourage education about, prevention, and treatment of HIV. Criminalizing those infected by HIV is not one of them. Enough is enough.