While it is natural to reflect on upsetting experiences, brooding involves replaying the same scenes in your mind and reliving the emotional distress you felt at the time. Once you are in the habit of ruminating, the urge to brood can be easy to trigger and difficult to ignore.
Unless you are the parent of a child who got into their top choice school using the early decision process, then you are most likely among the multitude of parents who are trying to deal with an emotional vortex fraught with anxiety and stress.
I recently had a friend who was feeling stuck reach out to me to ask if she should start seeing a therapist. After our call, I thought that it would be useful to share some of these ideas with others who are considering "the talking cure."
Living on the spectrum comes with daily challenges for the child, his parent, and his teachers. Here are some tips that can help a child on the spectrum experience less anxiety in their day and feel calmer inside.
Even children who are not directly hit by gun violence suffer the collateral damage of living in an unsafe environment saturated with guns that are routinely used to settle conflicts or to exact retaliation.
Codi, my friend that had attended the show with me, had know Mike for his party songs. As we were on our way home, he asked me what other "deep" songs Mike had that I could play for him. That is why we must not stop talking about it.
We all celebrate our 2e heroes once they accomplish something great.They all needed accommodation, though many did not receive them. We do not need our 2e children to be famous, but we do need them to get the assistance they need to do well in school, and further to bring their talents to bare.
I am finding that most of us cannot articulate the nature of our worry. For many, we worry that we're going to be afraid. We worry about worry. Worry and fear become the muddy ruts of habit, our baseline before the day begins.
Technology allows us to hide from others while being connected. We can edit who we are, what we say, and how we are perceived. We become willing to dispense with people and comfortable with being dispensed. We can decide when to communicate and how much.
Of course I missed my kids. I called them and emailed my mom for updates, relishing the few pictures she sent. I talked about them more than any of the childless girls there could probably tolerate. But I had a fantastic time.
Practice extreme compassion for yourself and any other parties that maybe involved. Compassion brings the gift of shifted perspective. It allows you to see the love, desire and intention of what is going on.
My hope is that as technology grows so will our acknowledgement that we have to help our youngest users to balance their online and offline relationships. So that everyone, young and old, will have a friend they have actually met.